If you could go back in time and give your younger self one piece of dating or relationship advice, what would it be?

[BryanMoore]

[dynamicyandere]

* Actions speak louder than words. Allow their actions to speak for them. What they say and what they do are not always aligned. Pay more attention to their behavior than their words.


* You can’t help someone who refuses to help themselves.


* If you broke up, it was for a reason. Second chances will bite you in the back.


* Men AND women can be manipulative. People will say whatever you want to hear to get you to do what they want. Be careful of who you trust—even if they SOUND sincere.


* It’s not 50/50. It’s 100/100. Give your all, without keeping score. And look for someone who wants to do the same.


* Never forget why you fell in love in the first place. Be aware of the chemistry you have with your significant other. Be attuned to it, like an archer is attuned to the direction of the wind.


* Sustainability is massively important. If your relationship is unsustainable, fix it or leave.


* Don’t share a bank account with someone with a less than amazing credit score.


* Don’t be overly harsh when breaking up. It’ll leave you with regret. Break up on good terms if possible.


* You can’t just be friends immediately after a break up. It will muddy the waters and make the breakup more complicated and messy. Give them enough space to move on from you.


* Friends with benefits will result in someone catching feelings eventually. It’s almost inevitable. If you don’t catch feelings, that’s an exception to the norm.


* Be sure that they love you for you—not who they want you to be. You are a person, not a puppet to fulfill their fantasy.


* Good relationships are a trifecta of communication, chemistry, and commitment. Make sure all 3 are strong.


* Other people will pretend to be someone they’re not in order to woo you. Remember this and don’t fall victim to it.


* Address relationship issues quickly and resolve them in a timely manner. Sweeping things under the rug is like allowing a wound to get infected. If it’s an important problem to be fixed, it will sink your relationship if left unattended.


* Vulnerability is the closest distance between two hearts. If you want to experience true love, you must risk heart break. You must give your heart to someone, which is like giving someone a knife and trusting that they won’t use it against you. It’s scary, but this is the only way. Otherwise, your love will always be lackluster.


* Look for someone who values personal growth and development. Emotional immaturity and lack of character are huge red flags.


* Loyalty is a great thing. But don’t rely solely on it. Make sure that the fire between you two is always burning strong. It varies from person to person. But some peoples’ loyalty is only as strong as that fire that burns between you two.


* Sometimes you will run into people who don’t need a girlfriend/boyfriend, they need a therapist. It’s not your job to fix them.


* Their happiness is NOT your responsibility. Be the best partner you can be. But if they aren’t happy, they should not put that on you. You can be supportive and empathetic, but ultimately it is their own responsibility to manage their emotions.


* Don’t seek merely happiness. Seek meaning, fulfillment, and purpose. Your relationship should feel fulfilling and have depth.


* Don’t lead people on and don’t be lead on. Life is short. Don’t waste your life being strung along. And don’t waste someone else’s life by doing that either. Be transparent with your intentions. Live with no regrets and be considerate.


* Insecure people can end up being toxic. Be on the lookout for them.


* Common interests are nice to have. But aren’t entirely necessary. What’s most important are common values. Make sure that the way you two think about life and relationships is in alignment. Otherwise, your relationship is doomed to fall apart down the road.


* When something just doesn’t feel right, trust your gut. It’ll help you make better decisions. This goes for both staying/leaving relationships as well as starting them. It should feel right, in your bones.


* There are givers, matchers, and takers. If you’re a giver, find another giver. If you’re a giver and you’re with a taker, you will be left mentally and emotionally exhausted. It won’t be sustainable.


* Don’t try to be anyone else. Be authentically you. And if that is not enough, work on being the best version of yourself—become the best version of YOU. This one piece of relationship advice is more important than all the others.

[Meropatrick]

I will tell myself to invest and save money. I would have become a millionare by now if i saved when i was younger. I wasted a lot of money. Also i would surrond myself with more positive environment. I was in a toxic environment before. And i didn't need to. I would have skipped college and started a business. I have chosen college over business how stupid. when i was 18 my father helped me start a cafe business. I left it and went to college. What an idiot😪i would have made better choices instead of wasting precious time on wrong choices. But it took me trial and error to find the correct path. Also i would have taken advantage of social media when it was still very early on and gained more followers.

[Smiling_Baby21]

1. Don't rush into relationships.
2. Don't settle for less than the bare minimum.
3. If he cheats once, he will surely cheat again if you don't put your foot down.
4. Sex doesn't mean they are invested as you.
5. If they're bringing you down; keep deflating you, it's because they know that's the only way to keep you from being the great person you are and out of their league 💪

[Sour-rose]

"Don't. You. Funkin'. Dare. You did well not to date some piece of shi. But do know, my past has already came. Yours... well, it's behind you. But for now, if you do find someone you like, don't let them go. Not like that girl we liked but was too shy to even talk to."

[jennifer_bloom]

I would tell them to move more at school and not confine yourself to one location or group of people and not waste time with people that don’t appreciate you as a friend.

[AviatorTom]

Just be yourself. And if you want to have sex, just do it.

[provokeesmokee]

Hold the fuckin phone, don't you dare.

Move out and live on your own, first, away from your mother. Get therapy. Get meds. Make new friends.

Also for fuck's sake, you're GAY. You don't just think those women are cool, or competent, or interesting. You are ATTRACTED to them, so fucking ask out that girl from your Econ class!

[Lionman95]

Don´t give up too early. Dating is like a race and it´s not about how much time you spend running but it depends on the question if you keep going or leave because you fall for temptations that tell you they are shortcuts while they´re hindering your process.

[petitedollbabee]

Deal with your issues before getting into relationships. Jumping from relationship to relationship and depending on other people to keep you stable won’t fix anything, it’ll just leave you with trauma.

[Anonymous]

Don't apologize for things that aren't your fault.

For example, if she throws a fit over dropping her off at a different spot at work becuase the previous spot is jammed with cars, saying sorry will only be an admission of guilt as if you actually did something wrong and will invite even more dumb arguments in the future.

Tell her why it isn't your fault and if she tells you later on about where you are supposed to drop her off, tell her that it would have been great if you knew that before you dropped her off.

Don't let her walk all over you like that.

[Rei13]

It would be to go to therapy and deal with my childhood trauma whenever it came to relationships in general so that I would’ve had a healthier outlook on them sooner.

[MysticDevice]

"Hey dumbass, Gabby was offering you a ride home cause she's into you! GET IN THE DAMN CAR!!!

"Did you ever stop to think that Jessie's as afraid to talk to you as you are to talk to her? GET OVER THERE!!!"

"Kat was kicking you at the lunch table cause SHE LIKES YOOOUUUUU!!!"

Ugh my younger self infuriates me 😭😭😭

[SolitarySolace]

I’d tell myself to not bother. You’re never going to meet anyone. You’ll have a cat and an apartment and a car and a job that’s all you’ll need. Women aren’t worth it. They’ll just want your money and if it hasn’t happened yet you will deal with a false accusation eventually.

[JSmuve]

Don't worry about women's feelings because they ain't worried about yours. Go out there, experiment, get experience. You only live once and you don't get many second chances. It's not like you're committing to any of these girls anyways. And don't feel pressured into it just because you asked her out. You don't owe them anything. Just go out there and get yours. Oh, and have some confidence. You're better than you believe yourself to be.

[Adam1978]

The question is would the younger you even listen to advice? Especially when it comes to ridiculous claim as being them from the future. So the first you need to do is convince them it's the real deal.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Love yourself, don’t always blame yourself, forgive and let go. But most importantly, forgive yourself first.

[Izzy_3991]

Don't rush, be patient and learn about red flags! 😖

[Anonymous]

Well first of all I'd tell myself what women are dead ends and what women I need to give serious attention to. But after that I would tell my younger self that if your still single after 25 to stop trying. There really aren't any good single women after that age. After 25 turn your attention fully to your career and just have fun on the side. This is my advice to ANY young man.

[HawkPerception]

Always stay true to yourself. Don't let your partner tell you what you should do. And if someone doesn't like you, don't dwell on it or lose self esteem. It just means they don't see your value. There is someone out there that will see your value.

[iron_ninjs]

Dating - when your friends say there's a girl that likes you, listen to them.
Relationship - don't put twice as many effort into the relationship as the girl/other person. Otherwise the relationship isn't equal.

[California_Poppy]

1. Know your worth.

2. Leave at the first signs of abusive behavior. It ALWAYS gets worse.

[Meropatrick]

So true, i wish someone advised me about the second one. Be around nice people there is plenty of them in the world. Healthy places are abundant. If there is abuse in one place LEAVE. Life is too short for this shyt

[California_Poppy]

Agreed! ☺️

[Nikki1989]

Don't waste your time on insecure men.

[Kiran_Yagami]

Women are as abundant as sand is on the beach. Don't get hung up over one. Don't chase one. In fact, don't chase any. Chase excellence and wealth. If the women come to you, great. If not, well, get more money and more excellence.

[Dreku]

Stop being you, for our sake, please stop being you