If you could go back in time and give yourself dating advice, what would you say?

[coachTanthony]

[Guy13]

My Dating advice to all is find a friend or an intimate group that sees you for what you are. This requires thick skin sometimes and a willingness to hear what you think is not true. I know it is hard to fathom from my movements and possible tone on this website, however, I was/am the guy that women talk too, LGBT talk too even though I am a raging Christian conservative "but like no other one I know... you're nice", etc.

So, I have that sort of experience and lots of it was worked out in conversations. Women are very opinionated you know...

Dates are supposed to be fun and "I don't care how big your penis or wallet is, never if I can't have fun with you." Alright, stop making assumptions all the damn time... there's nothing hidden even though you WISH there was but this and that is/was it. What you expect from him... trying to figure you out blew out his crystal ball? "I expect him/her to act and make me laugh... how f-in hard is that !!! ?"

It's good to have both female and male friends that you can talk too in this manner... And if they see anything in your relationship interactions.. jump right on that and nick-pick you to death. FIND a friend like this who is actually not competing with or against you !! These are the people who help (inside their heart secrets) you grow in areas like patience to listen and allow her to be heard etc...

[qwert1234]

Shoot your shot. Rejection is a part of life. Might as well get rejected now and know the experience than fear it for the rest of your adult life.

And eat your salad. ffs.

[Anonymous]

Don't wait for a person who is ghosting you purposely. Don't be with a man/ woman who plays mind games with you but treats you worst when you do what he/ she expects. Don't tolerate abuse either physical or mental. Always choose to accept someone who comes to you and loves you the way you are rather than chasing someone who doesn't care much about you, your emotions or your well being. Be a good human but don't take any shit from other human, even if he/ she is the one you are dating and even if you love them so much, it's better to stay away from them rather than hurting yourself in the process. Always choose not to take anything personally if they suddenly leave or drop you without any explanation. Don't go seeking explanation from them because they might be looking for a chance to hurt you in the process and some people hurt you in a way that you may start hating your life completely. Stay away from them at any cost. Only be with a person who cares for you as much as you do for them or even more

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Never take what you have for granted because you don’t know how long you’ll have it for… Also, don’t get caught up in cheap words that have no meaning if the actions don’t back up the words

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Thanks for mh☺️

[jennifer_bloom]

I would say to build yourself and not your relationship cause a happy and fit and mature person attracts people without chasing them.

[tiajoka]

Don’t date adults when you’re under 18, even if you’re a super duper mature 17yo. Really don’t date at all until you’re 21.

don’t be alone in a place with a man, no matter how much you trust him or how long you’ve known him.

respect yourself and understand you deserve more! You deserve respect, and effort. You’re valuable and if a man wants you he should be willing to invest his time, energy, money, and love into you. If the relationship is one sided, he doesn’t love you! He loves how you make him feel and how easy that is.

[dowser19]

Well... it's not so much dating advice. But I would've busted my ass fast to finish the process of abdicating U. S. citizenship when I had the best chance to do so. Now I may have to wait a few years, or emigrate illegally, which I may do anyway. My trust for the opposing gender, or even willingness to go anywhere near them, is permanently shot. My advice would be... save yourself, get out NOW, while you can. Then I could associate with the opposing gender normally without paranoia, complete distrust/disgust and mass stereotypes.

[ArrowheadSW]

Good question because this is important to those younger and starting the dating scene. For myself, I would focus more on values and common interests in the women who I want to date. The other thing would be to not take it too seriously if the woman who you are dating wants to end the relationship. It could be for many reasons and not necessarily because it is personal against you. I think there were a couple of times in my twenties where I took it too seriously.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I would tell younger me to get the hell away from Daniella and just keep doing what you're doing cuz it's working and to remember most of the women you're attracted to right now are for the streets.

Just keep being yourself and focus on your career. It's OK if they have to compete for your attention on things that are important to you.

[Normazoid]

The advice would be never to sacrifice the things that are important to me. Whether it be language classes, fitness, painting, anything. Having interests is important and only a toxic person would expect to usurp/supersede all of them and be your only source of happiness.

But, and this will sound strage, my greatest dating regret was not cheating.

Weird, I know. But when I was in my early twenties, my looks got me plenty of attention. But I always turned them down and told them about my girlfriend at the time... who turned out to be a cheater.

I still feel a pang of regret when I think back to some of the pretty faces I rejected. And who knows? One of them may have been a much better match.

[Sorrento-Sun]

Trust your gut. It's always right.

The mistakes and wrong choices I've made in my life is mostly because I've ignored my better judgement. I never ignore my gut feeling now. If I hadn't of in the past, it would have saved me a lot of heartbreak.

[AsaKyo]

"Don't date until you turn 18"
"Don't let a guy guilt trip you into dating him"
"Don't let a guy force you into dating him"
"Leave him before it gets more toxic"
"If he breaks up with you, don't let him talk his way back in lmao"

[Anonymous]

I think I would tell myself to get more work and start earlier - maybe do it more sly. Not that it might have changed things much - I had very strict parents - very controlling - abusive. Like my dad would "accidentally" (repeatedly) open my bank statements, as a grown man. It took ages for me to get to a point where I could build credit or find work or leave the area to work, so I don't know how I could have sneaked much. that would probably have helped me have more independence and at least build something.

I probably would have also given me a list of girls not to bother with - or to at least BE CAREFUL with. Watch how much you trust them, etc.

I would also recommend learning more about what to eat - eating better. Maybe how to work out. Now, as I was fairly controlled by the parents, I don't know how far I would have gotten, but...

[socair]

Do not get married
For most men it is a foolish enterprise
why waste time? Just find a woman you don't like, buy her house and give hermost of your current possessions

The you can get on with having a decent life for yourself
Do as you please with whoever you please whenever it suits you. Drink, ride, motorbikes and have sex when you please with anyone that's daft enough to let you and above all avoid involvement and live happily ever after

[Charliefretz329]

Stay the fuck away from any woman who shows the least bit of inclination to yell and scream and inability to control her temper…


Also, never ever get married and always make sure you have your own place to escape to in case the woman gets violent.




And realize you’re cursed to marry a girl the same as your abusive mother…

[DoctorSex]

Carry on as you are sir...

You're an absolute beast of a human... Oh.. and stay away from Marina. That was poisoned fruit.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

[Lionman95]

Don´t be fooled by how a woman looks. Just because a woman is beautiful doesn´t mean she´s good for you.
Don´t go for women that are the opposite of your character, look more for similarities.

[BradleyinOK]

Easy. Don't even look for anything serious. Like meeting my x-wife at 19. Instead just have a couple of friends to schedule something with occasionally where everybody knew about everybody.

[icedragoom]

Don't go after the girl in junior high and fucking admit you liked the girl in high school and punch her ex in the face for what he did to her and fucking KISS THE GIRL!

[MrGSpotHer]

Don't listen to knob eds like this and you. Don't give a fook that's the best advice and all men are dogs..

[coachTanthony]

In Jesus name, AMEN.

[MrGSpotHer]

Yes omen..

[ShadezMcgee]

Take more chances and ask out more girls in high school that you thought were cute

[AnUglyBarnacle]

"Ask out that Spanish-major girl! She clearly likes you! She's wifey material, and you'll kick yourself for years if you don't ask!"

[SnowedIn]

Ask her/be more confident. Don't wait and hope and just crush and be silent.

[Dargil]

Focus on your education, fitness and career. When your time comes to date, they will come to you.

[ProVox]

Hey ProVox, hear me out... Monkhood really isn't that bad compared to dating. js.

[exitseven]

Do not be afraid to let a girl know how you feel.

[TacosRAwesome]

Try to actually put yourself out there somehow.

[ariadneR]

Never give your all, because you just end up being disappointed

[RealMarek]

Read up on personality disorders. Know the red flags.

[Vegasrunner]

This is a great question. Tbh I can't think of any advice I would give. I've been successful w/ women since 15.

[loveslongnails]

Don't be afraid of rejection and don't give a shit what anybody says about your choices.

[Loser94]

Just tell myself to have fun and not worry about too much About it just live and learn is what I wish I did instead

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Women are super annoying and sex is the only useful thing they will provide for you

treat them accordingly

[TheFlak38]

The same thing I actually did. "don't bother dude"

[BJP21]

Dont just sit there ask her out. Whats the worst that can happen? She says no?

[Anonymous]

Don't date girls in highschool. Or even in college. They are a bit crazy.

Date girls after you and she l, both of you are +24 in age. It is the time when girls become a bit sensible and mature. They have their things sorted a bit.

[FreyaRed]

Pick another teen love this guy turns out to be a loser. Otherwise I don't regret anything.

[cth96190]

Save yourself the pain, walk away from women now and come to terms with the idea that you will be alone.

[NathanDavis]

"do not change a thing... keep it up just as it is"

[clampfan101]

Nothing. There’s no getting around that my first girlfriend was going to pass away and I’d have no luck finding another for over 10 years. Best to just let it happen as it happens. :/

[jimmy2]

Well since I married at barely 18 I think I missed that

[sheenagwapa]

value your ex waaaay more. if my ex is single rigjt now i will kneel on him to take me back

[Anonymous]

Life isn't a rom-com. S*** or get off the pot. And if you end up alone which is probably what will happen anyways, don't trip about it. The single life is less stressful and better for you financially. 😆😆😆

[Anonymous]

well I will write a book one day and it will be amazing. If I could go back in time I would give lots of advice.

[Jamie05rhs]

I would say, "Forget about Ashley. Date the other Ashley."

[RealMarek]

I would say the same thing, just with a different name.

[Jamie05rhs]

@RealMarek Lol. Cool

[Anonymous]

Men are the only gender that need or were meant to have a mentor when it comes to getting better or improving their dating life, that is unless they never naturally figured it out on their own

[Nikki1989]

Be more selective over who you date.

[Twitchedsolo]

Fuck all women, nobody will ever try, nobody will ever understand, fuck your body over and work on yourself.

[Anonymous]

Get sexual reassignment surgery asap, stop wasting your time.

[Ms_Facesitter]

"Keep doing your thing!"

[douride2]

Don't be so trusting.

[jamesgoldman]

Propose to her you fool

[Jennz6]

I didn’t actually date

[strraku]

stop dating start studying

[Fuentes]

Always wear condoms lol

[Teriyaki70]

Don't ignore the gut feelings

[msc545]

One word - DON'T.

[malwins]

I dont make dating mistakes 😅

[Chazmatazz269]

“Don’t bother.”
Ell oh ell!

[ZenJen444]

Why the picture?🤣🤣

[coachTanthony]

It's from Hot Tub Time Machine.

[rienna888]

Avoid love bombers

[Nominal]

Dont listen to them.