When you want to get to know someone, what time frequency meeting, do you prefer?

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For myself, I prefer once a month for a minimum of 3 hours. Once a month leaves enough time in between for life to carry on as usual and gives time to look forward to meeting while having space to put it in the back ground when need be.

I can’t handle meeting up very week or even more, it’s just too much. I need time to recover from the adrenaline spike of being around someone I like 😮‍💨

I’m not good at switching gears, so having space in between gives time adjustment advantage to help me be “present” during the meet ups..

and the 3 hour rule is for the same. If it takes me a half hour to settle in and a half hour to get ready to leave and we’re only meeting for an hour, it’s pointless.

Also a you figure if you’re meeting once a month and it still feels arduous, you know you’re not really interested.

It is not that I refuse to see someone more often, it’s just my preference and I didn’t mind if it’s less often as long as the time together is genuine 🙂

Lliam · Accepted Answer

If I dated someone and we liked each other, I preferred another date as soon as our schedules comfortably allowed. Usually the next weekend. I was looking to get into an exclusive, infatuated relationship asap, hopefully after the first few dates.
I dated to find a girlfriend.

I'd try to have fun together. Some dates might be for dinner, but some might be all day, like to the county fair, an arboretum, the Getty Museum, see Christmas lights, or something.

If we weren't making progress, no prob, I would move on.

If I had to wait a month for no reason, I would figure there was a problem and stop trying. I'd be too impatient.

Jamie05rhs · Accepted Answer

In person? Totally fine with meeting twice a month or once a month or even once every 3 months or 4 months. Lol. (Or twice a year, even?)

But talking? Nah; it would have to be much more frequent than that. You can't get to know someone if you only talk to them once a month. It's impossible. Because you lose all of the momentum and you forget everything. It's very inefficient and wasteful. Because when you finally do talk to them again, it's like you're meeting for the first time, and you have to go through all of that awkwardness all over again.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Like most of adults, I'm busy with work, real life, and other obligations. So when I am getting to know someone, I'd say at least once a week (if possible), and we can hang out and chat for a few hours.

However, as I said, we're adults and that's not always feasible. So as long as they text or reach out on a regular basis- which as an introvert, is fine with me as I tend to communicate better via text than over the phone or even in person, lol. Basically show you're interested and put effort into communication. We can meet up as our time and energy allows.

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

For me, at least 3h once a week.

As long as it isn't too infrequent or too frequent, I'm okay with a lot of variation.

To me, seeing them weekly is a must. I have two groups of friends I see weekly - I'd like to spend more time than that with someone I like/love.

AviatorTom · Answer

About once a week, I like to get together. Most of the time in person, sometimes just a phone or video chat.

ButthurtGAGpeople1 · Answer

I think it just depends. Like, the girl I like who likes me back, lives on the other side of the city, dont ask how we met, id rather not say. It takes me 20-30 minutes to get over there, and that's by highway too. So, it all depends on how much time you want to set aside for how long it takes to travel to where they are

If you're dating someone interstate, you could probably do what, couple times a year, MAYBE

madhatters4 · Answer

i think once a week works. it allows an adult time to work but during the couple days off they have each week (hopefully) you can meet up and get to know each other. i feel like any longer between meeting someone really prolongs the time it takes to get to know them.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i'm a little bit different. if i know that i like you and that you like me as a person. several times a week is fine by me. if i'm trying to figure it out then once a week is good. once a week might be all it takes to know that i want to see them more often or less. but i've been told that i move fast.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

once a week to get to know them, more if they're super interesting. Once a month and I've moved on to someone else. There are more potential targets of interest than free hours as it is.

luvstoned4him · Answer

Maybe twice a month when just getting to know each other but that could gradually increase. However I like my space so that works for me

Kinkyhubby · Answer

I say it depends how it is going. If we hang out or have a first date and hit it off well, I would hope to see her again in a week or so. As we date or hang out more, and maybe it get more serious, I would like to see her more often. But at the same time I would respect her boundaries. But when i was a younger man, we didn't have text message to keep in contact, so you had to atheist make phone calls.

PeteA380 · Answer

The best is right away. For a minimum of 2 or 3h, preferably 24h+ (it takes 20h of presence in the same physical space to get comfortable, and neither the time nor (the) life are for wasting on hesitation).

That being said, empirically (and scientifically and all that), like everyone sane, I am lookinh for my perfect matching, which is:

Female gender (a she)

Unmarried (bachelorette, virgin)

Same upper skull size (hat size 60cm)

Height close to mine (183cm)

Slim, slender, athletic

Bright blue or green or grey eyes

Age: below 42 years old

By preference, I'd much rather 'the one' (by above measures) than any two that might want to... what's it called when two chicks pursue one guy?

J0sie · Answer

Depending on who you are meeting up with I can agree with you.
though I selected once a week. I have a friend that I meet up with twice a week and he suggested meeting up more often but I don’t have enough time even though I would love to. I also have a friend that I rarely see, maybe once every four or five months just because of distance but because of their personality that is more than enough time to recover from their presence

Friendlybro79 · Answer

I never thought about this. It would depend on how much I liked the person I guess. It could be once a week or once a year lol

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Once a week and three hours from 1:00 p. m.-4:00 p. m.

humanearth · Answer

When I was in the dating game of hell I never ended up waiting

haiuyu · Answer

Depends on your current status. Me currently, if I really really like someone, being with them once a week is honestly not enough. But if he is busy, then at least once a week.

Redstang88 · Answer

Once a week at least if our schedules allow. If she’s only around once a month she’s either not interested and/or got a bunch of other guys on the go and either way I’m out

Sasha0426 · Answer

I can’t do once a month because I’ll take it as you’re not truly interested and I’ll feel stupid for even trying to reach out. Or wait until you say something. Also, I would believe you already found someone else. So I would just move on.
Do I expect to meet up with someone everyday? Of course not. We all got lives and meeting up everyday can be tiring. Best thing to do is talk about what’s best for us both and go from there.

ManHater · Answer

I honestly don't know... depends but don't want to be seen as being needy

RealMarek · Answer

Other: It depends on the rapport I have with the other person, the nature of the relationship and how it might develop, and how busy we are.

Anemone978 · Answer

I would need to see them often, or how do you really even know them. I like to see them with their friends, see them out in public and see them privately.. So I can view their behaviours and how they treat me in each situation.

KatherineJ · Answer

I would probably start off with once a week for coffee/dessert. If that goes well, you can go more often,

Anonymous · Answer

I've never been so rigid as to put a time limit on something like this. There are too many factors at play for one thing.

Pinay_ako · Answer

whenever they can

jwmiller95 · Answer

Highly depends on the relationship with that person

Katebfun · Answer

Once a month! 😆😅 I'd quickly loose interest and move on to another who is more available, at least once a week or 1-3 x a month

Anonymous · Answer

twice a week, preferably on the weekend. any less than that, then what's the point of trying for a relationship? ? ?

Nikki1989 · Answer

Once a week is enough for me.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

At least 9 hours daily for 3 years.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

are you a lesbian or bisexual?

msc545 · Answer

once a week...

thatshydork · Answer

Maybe once or twice a month.

EaterPeter · Answer

Hour and a half

the_kisses_of_sun · Answer

Everyday.

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