I have a guy at work who flirts with me what should I do?

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I told about him to my Boyfriend and he told me if he ever makes a move on me like ask me out etc to tell him i have a boyfriend.. the thing is that the guy at work is very attractive. He has upturned hazel eyes with long lashes nice dark upturned eyebrows and thick has a great model bone structure and nice average to thick sized lips... He has a pale skin and has dark hair. He is the most attractive guy at the factory i am working right now as well... That's why i like his attention tbh. Nope i won't cheat on my boyfriend nor do i flirt back my boyfriend is still the most attractive to me... i just don't know what to do... Should i just stop talking to him to make him get the memo without me telling him i am taken? Because he seems to think that me talking or smiling at him means flirting lol... I don't know

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

If you tell him early that your taken, he won’t get angry at you for not letting him know your status right away. There was a guy that liked me and he thought it was obvious but it was not obvious to me and when I told him I had a boyfriend 3 months later, he was furious with me for leading him on and crushing his mind with jealousy and made up all kinds of lies about me and tried to ban me from social events with mutual friends by telling everyone not to include me at activities. I did not know he liked me because he did not make his interest obvious, and I waited three months to tell him I had a boyfriend.

haiuyu · Accepted Answer

I had the same issue before. He was half indian half filipino. Tall, dark hair, handsome. We were friends, but he keeps flirting with me. I enjoyed it for a little bit. He asked me out sometimes for coffee or movie, I never did went out with him. We do tease each other when we're at the office. But when he will ask me out, I always turned him down.

I liked the attention, it made me feel good. But yeah, talking and smiling to him will make him think you are also interested. And you gotta stop at some point.

Billlewis · Accepted Answer

I don't know if your boyfriend will go for this, but if you can have him stop by when you and the star struck fellow who's so enamored with you are both there, you can introduce your co worker to the luckiest guy in the world... 'This is my boyfriend -- I think it's about time you two met'. Then, kiss your boyfriend passionately right in front of your co worker and I guarantee you that two things will happen --

-- he'll know that you're already spoken for by a vastly superior alpha male.

-- he'll be masturbating in your honor for quite a while.

Christoff92 · Accepted Answer

Well you can start by being nice to him. He he makes any moves on you just say nicely that if you weren't single then their could be a thing between you and him.

Like say let's get to know each other take it slow. Because you're already in a relationship. Like tell him. So he would back down. Try not to be like nice and polite the who time. Also very courteous 😊

Stressyalaire · Answer

You say you have a boyfriend, but you're describing that colleague like he's a dreamy guy. You letting him flirt is a dangerous game. Liking the attention, but leading him on isn't fair for that guy and it's not respectful towards the relationship you built. Tell him you're taken.

ShesRad80 · Answer

best way to look at it would be what if it was the other way around and it was your boyfriend in that situation with a female co worker? if you love your boyfriend why not tell this guy i have a boyfriend, its not real complicated until its made that way.

Alli39 · Answer

Just make sure to casually mention your boyfriend when you talk to him sometimes. Some people are just flirty so as long as he's not actually trying to make a move and it's not affecting you or your relationship, ignore it and make it clear that you're taken.

RavVid · Answer

Why not tell him you are taken? Obvious reasons I imagine. I think you are in for a penny on this so if you are not in for a pound you should rethink it.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

Tell him you have a boyfriend, you value him as a friend and don't want to make things weird, yada yada. Come on, you must have friendzoned guys before?

JackCarter · Answer

got to Appreciate your loyalty to your boyfriend! He's is one lucky guy! How about try to tell him kind of indirectly that you have a boyfriend?

Red-Blaze · Answer

Just drop in that you got a boy friend when you got a chance for it to sound natrual If he still go after that is a problem if his not aware its only fair to let them know

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Every time he flirts somehow mentione your boyfriend, how much you love him, how hot he is, he will leave you alone eventually

slatyb · Answer

It's he asking for dates? What does he say? What are you telling your boyfriend?

WhitneySnow · Answer

If you like the attention it’s ok to talk to him and not flirt back. No reason to be impolite.

Miristheiss · Answer

If you want to be a respectful and loyal girlfriend you would just stop interacting with this guy. This is a no brainer. I am surprised you do not know this.

lightbulb27 · Answer

stay away from him. there's always going to be another fish, stay away! yes... you do know...

PizzaPieMamaBear · Answer

He’s not gonna stop flirting it is what is just be honest and faithful to your current boyfriend

Jamie05rhs · Answer

This is why some guys don't want their wives to have a job.

Wise4myage · Answer

Don't flirt back with him and he should get the message, sooner or later.

exitseven · Answer

Tell him thst yo and your boyfriend went to the movies last week. He will get the message.

driven159 · Answer

tell him to stop it but I don't think you want him to

TallAnon · Answer

First get your head out the gutter before you hurt someome. Next, just give the man negative feedback, frown, say no, etc. He'll get annoyed soon enough.

bowenw · Answer

I suggest you don't do anything and keep reminding him you have a boyfriend.

collie22 · Answer

I think if you can find a way to mention your not available without acknowledging his flirting you could avoid some drama.

Staximus · Answer

You like the attention but don't let it go to your head. Tell him "don't get your hopes up, pal. I have a boyfriend"

AydenHazor · Answer

Tell him that you would enjoy being friends with him but anything more won't happen because you're taken

Levin · Answer

You are naughty, man. You women. You flirt cause you enjoy it. And then 'I have a boyfriend'.

tfan1 · Answer

If he makes a move, report him to your boss or hr

In_Trance · Answer

Seems like you want to peruse

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Light him on fire.

barn_stormer · Answer

casually mention you have a boyfriend asap

CubaPirate · Answer

Whatever you want I won't judge you

EaterPeter · Answer

Do you wear a ring?

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