How can I flirt with a guy at work?

Question

Detailed advice is welcomed! I'm quite friendly and approachable anyway. Do men like compliments about physical appearance? Thank you.

MatthewGoodman · Accepted Answer

It depends. Get to know the guy. One of the BIGGEST factors of how you approach a guy is wether he is introverted or extroverted. You typiciall won't approach an introvert the same way you would approach an extrovert.

For an extrovert:
Start some small talk, but don't be overly suggestive right off the bat. This can lead to them feeling uncomfortable and lead to an awkward situation. Get to know more about him, let him know more about you. Hang out together. As the two of you feel more comfortable around each other, then you can start getting a bit deeper and more suggestive.

For an introvert:
An introvert dreads small talk. They prefer more in depth conversations. Once again, don't be overly suggestive. Get to know one another. Let him have his space. You can hang out with him, but you don't want to spend too much time together. Taking part in activities he is interested in is a good way to help him open up to you. Just remember, with an introvert, take it slowly and be patient. This take should help you to know when he is starting to open up and what to look for (is isn't going to line up exactly, but it should give you a pretty decent idea of what to look for.) How To Tell If An Introvert Likes You ↗

Logorithim · Accepted Answer

Yes, such compliments are a part of flirting. Since this is the workplace, are you sure he will welcome the flirting? I found flirting unwelcome on the job when I experienced it.

Big smile, look directly in his eyes. Stand close if you can. Do not touch him, though.

lumos · Accepted Answer

I know this kinda doesn't answer your question but I would advise you not to do it. Stay professional at work. You're there to work, not hit on people. Besides, if things don't work out or get awkward, you've successfully ruined going to work every day. Personally, that's the sort of damage I wouldn't want to bring into my life when it's so easily avoided.

Paris13 · Accepted Answer

Continue to be Friendly and Yes, Guys love complements. Be his Friend First.
However, Remember, hat although after the Doors may Close at Five and you Both might Jive, Going out that is, Do you really Want a Real Relationship the next Day, When the Doors reopen and it is More than a "Hey?"
There are many Problems on the Job with Relationships. xx

Alice2398 · Accepted Answer

I also really like my co worker too and because he's really tall and I'm really small, he has to help me reach things and I'll say stuff like "what would I do without you" make him feel helpful and needed in your life

lellol · Accepted Answer

I would compliment his outfit first and see how he reacts. Especially if he is wearing something new. Then you can count how often he wears the piece you've complimemted.

skittles2017 · Answer

We like compliments of all sorts...
Thing is... is it not quite a good idea to flirt with a guy at work...
Unless you are changing jobs regullary or he does...
Working with a partner it is not easy in the long run... at the beginning it is easy... later on small problems starts to appear... worst case scenario... he tells you that he's not interested... or you don't click together and you break off... working with an ex... is that something that you could do? Think about it...
I am speaking from my experience...

norumbega · Answer

Men do like compliments; however, if he gave u compliments would that be Ok? What if it was the janitor or the IT guy? You can't have a workplace go both ways. You want an environment where you will be treated as an equal, on your merits, but you're using your workplace as a dating pool. #metoo has been trying to make a workplace a healthier environment for women, well how does your question fit that? Because he's cute it's ok for u to hit on him. I don't know, you decide.

CharlieUnicorn · Answer

You probably shouldn't, unless you two work on different floors and don't belong on to the same vertical hierarchy in the company.

Then it might be okay, possibly, but still don't do it at work. Try to ask to see him outside of work or at least someplace where you're company can't be liable for what's going on.

Vyxzuw · Answer

Depends on the guy.

If he's more of an extrovert, then just standard flirting can work. Although, since it's a work environment, you have to be a bit careful.

If he's an introvert, he could be defensive about compliments. It's better to just talk to him a bit first, and then try flirting latter.

At any rate, smile at him. That works on any guy.

wanderintech · Answer

Compliments. Small talk with SMALL personal involvement (ex: 'Last night was so hot that I just slept in a shirt and panties'). Ask open ended questions and answer with more than yes/no.

The last one is the best way to get more than just a one night stand. It's also the best way to receive attention as he's not chatting/texting a magic 8 ball.

weclock · Answer

You can totally do it, in very small and subtle ways. But the best way to start might be asking for his number for something work related, and then just casually starting conversations with him.
But, I don't recommend you ever do anything with anyone at work. Not unless you don't mind finding a new job or getting blamed because the other person got fired. Flirting is cool and fun, but don't take it seriously until you have something else lined up.

evank · Answer

If a girl was flirting with me at work I'd report it. We live in a time where women have the upper hand in the work environment and too much can go wrong. If you accept her advances and later on she decides that was a mistake, she will report you. If you don't accept her advances she might report you on the spot

Waftpermidgeon · Answer

Find a reason to get up close to him as often as possible. Make sure you come in physical contact. Put your hand on his shoulder. Then after a few days of that, put your hand on his leg. If it still hasn't progressed by that time, "accidentally" grabbed his dick.

Agent · Answer

"I don’t feel so good, I think I need a shot of penis-illin"
"I don’t need a spoonful of sugar to swallow you"
"Do you have a napkin? You’re making me wet"
"Are you a candle, because I wanna blow you"

jr316366 · Answer

Depends on the work environment but what has worked against the mighty powers of an actual man is usually tight pants and more than three seconds of eye contact.

1nittol3arn · Answer

I think it's a bad idea to date someone that you work with. I've done it and it wasn't a good situation when we figured out it wasn't going to work.

ThoughtfulGuy75 · Answer

You're at work. Do some work! Don't screw the crew!

JusticeForOrganisms · Answer

Ask if he wants to hang out outside of work. And make sure there are no policies against dating at your company :)

Marat · Answer

I would do it out of work, but you can smile at him more and just be around him more, oh and touch him by accident more lol

cornellrwilliamsx · Answer

I like it when women compliment about work. It lets me know what they value.

Anonymous · Answer

I like compliments as long as they are not 'obsessive' I appreciate if they tell me I am beautiful, and I thank for that, but if it is every day it makes me embarrassed.

HereIbe · Answer

We're okay with it. What works best is flashing the high beams.

mornelinde · Answer

Men and Woman like compliments. Don't be creepy or to aggressive about it though.

IanSpider · Answer

Who doesn't want to be complimented? The best way is to just give him a wink so you can skip to the part where you're having fun

corporate9601 · Answer

I feel sorry for your boss. Hiring slacker employees that are stuck on their phones asking dumb questions like this one instead of working 😂😂😂

jesse1997 · Answer

You can flirt in different ways.. but first you should know what kinda flirting you want to do

bouda381 · Answer

Look at his ayes and talk un ur minde he will hear u if he is looking to you too

RichardBandit · Answer

If we're at work you should grab my package and tell me you like it. Do it in front of your boss.

mzgreko · Answer

Give him a wristy under the desk

manffchesfer2 · Answer

do acts you want to show the real purpose

GGG88 · Answer

It is plain sexual harassment. Don't do it

Anonymous · Answer

Don't. He'll throw sexual harassment on you

akiess · Answer

Meet him by the restroom

chicagoinheat · Answer

Carefully

MJDay · Answer

Yolo

topher422 · Answer

Smile

Anonymous · Answer

kick his sack.

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