Boyfriend said something offensive and my mom is mad at him?

[Anonymous]

So we were all chatting a few evenings ago. My sister is travelling to Asian countries backpacking and we are so worried about her going alone. My boyfriend chimes in oh she should be careful there’s lots of people that have been killed over there.

I got so angry at him and I could tell my mom was too. It was such an insensitive thing to say. He has apologised but I’m so mad at him. Isn’t this like basic social skills? He just said he wasn’t thinking and put his foot in his mouth. I’m finding it hard to forgive him. Should I tell him how bad his social skills are?

[sheikalana]

I don't think he meant it a bad way he probably had something in mind and didn't know how to deliver the message and came out the way it did. If he's apologized and is showing regret all of you should just get over it. If this is a recurrent situation you should talk to him about it.

[Asker]

He said he didn’t mean it in a bad way , he put his foot in his mouth and wasn’t thinking. I’m finding it hard to forgive him and move on. Currently he has tried to talk about it more and get me to forgive him but I can’t so I I told him I need space. He’s a bit thoughtless sometimes and thinks before he speaks. I don’t know how to get over being mad

[dudeinohio]

Seems he was just being honest. I see nothing wrong with what he said.

[Asker]

It’s insensitive to say that when we’re already worried about her traveling alone. So why bring up on people get killed there. That’s horrible and it’s putting that in our heads

[dudeinohio]

I do admit it's really not the right time to bring that up.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, he really screwed up but at least he apologized.

[Asker]

I’m still really angry though

[Opinion Owner]

Well, make sure he knows how you feel and never do it again.

[Asker]

He has said he won’t but I don’t believe him he never thinks before he speaks

[Opinion Owner]

Well, that can be a problem.

[Asker]

He knows he has this problem. How do I forgive him and move on? I’ve been mad at him for days and I don’t feel less angry

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe its time to think about breaking up.

[Asker]

Why? I love him and we live together I don’t want to break up

[Opinion Owner]

Then get over it already.

[Asker]

It’s not that easy when someone has angered you this much