Is it a bad thing if a man is overprotective of their woman?

[msk3k3xx]

Yes

No

[DJB72]

By whose definition? Guys get labelled as "overprotective" by girls when they're just aware of how other guys might see them.

We're hardwired to be protective of our girls. In the cinema shooting a few years ago three guys died because they used their own bodies to shield the girls they were with. It's instinctive.

I'm missing my right leg and part of my left foot and I still carry a baton and a knife as well as walking with a staff so I can protect my wife and son. Especially in South Africa.

[Lionman95]

No because a lot of guys show their interest by trying to protect a woman from what they see as danger in life. It´s their love language in the beginning of a relationship. I´d rather figure out with a partner a balanced way by talking about different perspectives. Yes guys can take it too far, but I wouldn´t assume without clear signs that they mean bad things for her.

[BasedBaeBecca]

It depends on what you mean by "overprotective".

If it's just natural for a man to be protective over the woman they love, then that's fine.

But if it's extreme and obsessive, and the woman feels controlled and manipulated, then that's not a good thing.

It's all about finding a balance.

So in short, I think it's okay if a man wants to protect and take care of the woman he loves. But it's not good if this turns into controlling behavior and obsessive behavior.

[Alli39]

By overprotective do we mean careful and slightly jealous, or do we mean controlling and very jealous? Generally a bad thing, but I think different people have different opinions as to what qualifies as "overprotective". I'd say if both people are legitimately comfortable and happy with their relationship dynamic then slightly "overprotective" according to some people is probably fine. There's definitely a line though.

[Anonymous]

No its good. It shows he loves her. Men natrually protect its in their nature. Ofcorse there is levels to it. I mean not being allowed to walk alone in the dark=he loves me. Not being able to dress half naked or drink alcohol=he loves me.

Him telling me Im not allowed to talk to anyone that is male even the waitor=he is crazy

[richardcory]

"overprotective" can mean a lot of things. Its definitely wrong if its controlling or implies she is incompetent to take care of herself.

[Jamie05rhs]

A lot of young women these days are in fact incompetent to take care of themselves. Because they've been raised with a liberal ideology that makes them think they can go out alone at night in a dangerous area and not have anything bad happen to them. Because they don't believe that evil exists. Or they think that bad things only happen to other people. That's where we have to step in and say No.

[richardcory]

@Jamie05rhs A lot of young men are raised that way too. So are a lot of older people. I still think adults are free to manage their own risk as they wish

[Jamie05rhs]

@richardcory The difference is most rapists are straight men, not gay men. So there is less of a threat for guys. The most that can happen is you're going to get your money stolen from you. (And you won't get physically hurt if you comply.)

[richardcory]

@Jamie05rhs Rape is certainly more of a threat to women (outside of prison) but random violence impacts both. Men are at low risk for rape, but still significant risk for simply bein beaten - as happened recently to someone I know at work who went into the wrong bar. They beat the crap out of him, knowing out teeth etc just for the fun of it.

[Jamie05rhs]

@richardcory For no reason whatsoever? It had to have been something that triggered them. ... Was it race-related?

[richardcory]

@Jamie05rhs He thinks it was race related. He's white, the guys who beat him up were black. But I wasn't there so beyond what he has said, know nothing of what transpired before the fight

[Jamie05rhs]

@richardcory Oh, damn. That's unfortunate.

[ProbablyClueless]

Oh it can be a very bad thing. A lot of guys have an extremely strong, aggressive instinct to protect women, and that presents itself in suuuper dangerous ways.

[EmmaMary]

There's being protective, and there's being over protective which would certainly be a Red Flag.

[OfMiceandMen]

Being protective is one thing, being overprotective to the point where it crosses the controlling line is another.

[Yannishka]

OVER is what makes me say no. Over is too much. Don't smother me.

[Luckycharms12]

Can be out of love but be harmful can come from lack of trust and controlling also

[MementoMori777]

Not over protective, that's good to protect your woman

[TheMan35]

It is good. If a man loves, generally he should be overprotected.

[Mallic00]

Yes because in my opinion it means you dont trust that she can take care of herself.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the woman. Some women love that s*** and some despise it.

[gothbxtch]

overprotective in an unhealthy way yes