Don’t date I think going out with a stranger that no one in your family, or none of your friends know is one of the stupidest things we can do in society. Hang out with your friends, do social activities or hobbies and get to know the people that are doing the same thing over time. Then if the friendship blossoms and becomes more intense, then going on dates, makes sense.
My answer: really wanted to give sound advice but I don't know seems like a true challenge to date when so many seem to be preoccupied and consumed by expenses/ debt/ liabilities/ cost of living/ etc.
The demands still there, little understanding, and technology advanced truly quick so it has pushed people into a false social expression.
It’s false because a lot of emotions expressed on medias are just toxic projections. No one’s ever being honest and declaring what they feel or hope for and others listening, responding, and being supportive.
We may get there eventually, but seems a lengthy journey.
Advice for men and women: honestly learn to just love a companions and accept them without getting them to adopt the same beliefs as you the same habits the same plan of action the same values etc. They can never be identical. Respect their opinions. Try to limit group decisions. If making a group decision try to come up with the best compromise/ improvisation.
Either find someone just to do sex and talk with. A cuddle buddy a fuck buddy at night a constant chat buddy, whenever both have the time.
OR
Find someone to learn with a simple plus one you feel comfortable with and want to try NEW things with (both mutually valuing the try part)
OR
find someone to do life with- not coaxing them to fit yours or vice versa (being manipulated/ coerced into it), but actually finding a co-worker, a co-hobbyist, or someone with a very similar routine. You both like walking/hiking so do hikes together, like thrust shopping or building collections then fine someone similar to that.
Understand the ability to respect those boundaries as mentioned earlier or find similar people and then you easily cut a lot of unnecessary arguments out of the equation. Less time fighting. More time doing and living life. If ever a disagreement seems unavoidable, refuse to YELL at all. Yelling should never be done to someone you love.
Women- talking isn’t ALWAYS the most important thing. Try to live a bit and go along with him on real actives
Men- listen to her try to study what she’s like.
Both make efforts to remember things about each other and don’t get bent out of shape if you both or just one of- forgets.
If they make you mad- leave. Someone you love should never make you mad. When you love them you can never be mad at them. You’re just too busy loving them. If they get mad at you- bad sign: fed flag hinting at immaturity, imbalance, instability, half-hearted love.
Dating advice for women. Stop asking other women what men like. Ask a man. You may not like the answer but ask men, not other women. Stop assuming that whatever your answer is, as well as that of your girlfriends, is probably is right. We aren’t complicated. You complicate things by thinking too much w your feelings. Masculine women will almost always end up alone. But they will justify it by saying men just can’t handle them. No one wants to handle anyone. She’s an adult she should be able to handle herself. She’s not a pet. Be feminine, appreciate him. When you have this attitude of I can do it all by myself there’s no need for him to be w you. Men need to have a purpose in life to want to continue to work for you, for their family. If he messes up, should he speak, listen, keep your mouth shut. As hard as that may be because you “knew this would happen,” just listen, don’t scold him, don’t talk at him. He knows he messed up. That’s why a lot of men don’t talk cause you talk at us not w us. If something is wrong w him give him some space. Don’t keep prying. I know it makes you worry to not know what’s going on. Ironically he’s being quite to keep you from worrying about whatever situation is at hand. A man, if he is good will try to keep you away from all those elements. He knows as a man it’s his job to keep you from being hurt. Because if he starts to panic, then chances are you won’t feel as secure w him knowing that this is the dude who is supposed to protect you but he’s over here freaking out. Validate his concerns. A lot of men don’t talk as well because it gets used against them. I believe men are considered by society as expendable. Our issues don’t get taken as serious. Look deep into yourself as to what you think you could change. It isn’t always his fault. Be loyal. Maybe cook some, you don’t have to do it all the time unless he’s working and you stay home like in my situation. I’ve been w her for 15 years, it’s worked for us all these years. Yes 15 years isn’t long, but w the way relationships go these days it kind of is.
Be more literal with communications and less expecting that guys are mind readers. And do it in a fashion that doesn't sound like ya got gut stasis. Cause its easy to come off like we the guys are the issue and burden of your issues. In which case if it sounds and feels like the dude/boyfriend is the problem we will gladly just remove ourselves from the equation entirely.
And don't get mad when guys try to solve the issue with a solution rather than dwell on issues that don't go anywhere. Its amazing how many women seem incapable of understanding that men. Just want to see y'all be able to just be comfy and worry free. As low key thats the like basic mental goal that most men want to reach when they get off work or are at home is reach the point of not having to worry about things a point of just complete zen is more often than not the goal that most guys end day goal is.
My advice for men: don't get walked on, be honest, have fun with her. Resist the urge to just want to have sex so soon, get to know her and try your best to listen to her. Be confident and know when to walk away and when not to. Never show her violence but show her you'll defend her. You got this king
My advice for women: communicate better men aren't mind readers. Don't laugh when you make him mad or get under his skin, understand his financial struggles and be there for him if he is in fact struggling, be transparent and when he's in doubt show him you're loyal, don't get upset over little things, be independent-minded and have opinions for yourself, don't take your single friends relationship advice. You got this queen
To girls: Take a guy by his actions not his words. If a guy promises you he´ll change when you go out with him or he´ll be tidier. He won´t if you let him promise you something. He won´t change if he gets you before he changed. Let him show you results that he changed and then go out with him. To guys: Take your time with a girl because the most beautiful girl is sometimes not the best choice. Take time with making a woman your wife because a divorce is costly. Don´t rush things.
for guys, it may sound counterintuitive but women are more turned on by what you’re not willing to do to sleep with them than what you are. Don’t have a scarcity mindset, if a girl tries to run game on you or act like shit ghost her and move on.
For girls the biggest thing most of them need to work on is their attitude. Dating apps and social media have been like a pandora’s box for inflating women’s egos to the point where they don’t think they ever have to work on themselves. it’s this grass is always greener syndrome they get like oh well if this guy doesn’t like that i act like shit there’s always another guy that’s just a swipe away.
Advice for guys- Say what you mean, express what you’re thinking, show how you’re feeling.
Advice for girls- I think generally, guys show their emotions less than girls, but that doesn’t mean they are not feeling what you are feeling. So don’t be quick to jump to the conclusion that guys aren’t interested, or aren’t as empathetic towards something as you are, because they probably are, but just don’t know how to show it as much.
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This is so spot on. So many men play on women's emotions and string them along instead of being a man and being honest from the get go.
Guys: Don’t swipe right on every attractive woman. Read the profiles.
Girls: If you want a committed relationship, be aware that many men just want sex. Making them wait is a quick way to discourage most of the ones who are just out for commitment-free sex.
Guys, don't date at your lowest point. Get your shit together, get on a good career path, improve yourself and you can attract better. If you date and they don't make your life easier, move on. Don't waste time on anyone who brings drama or chaos. Don't spend money on anyone who doesn't appreciate you and don't drop $100 on dinner first date when you don't even know them. If you're worth dating, you will have options.
never never cheat never lie do not be shy with me.. when i say a good talk like romantic talk to u, then u should return it... especially ehen i say love u...
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