Is this a sign I’m not good enough?

[Anonymous]

If I’m not matching with the prettiest girls on apps when I’m swiping on them even sending the odd request does that mean I’m not handsome enough for them to be really interested?

I mean I’m slim and over 6 foot, I think I look good. So why don’t very pretty girls swipe

Yes I’m probably not good enough for stunning girls

I disagree

Not sure

Other

[Oliverlogan263]

Here are a few things to consider:

1. Not matching with some people on apps is not necessarily a sign that you're "not good enough." Dating apps are superficial and many factors influence who people swipe on.

2. Looks are just one part of attractiveness. Personality, values, hobbies, and interests also matter a lot in forming real connections. The photos on an app profile show limited information.

3. Some very attractive people are quite selective on apps because they have more options. They may have very specific types they're seeking. It doesn't necessarily reflect on you personally.

4. Everyone has different tastes. Just because some people don't swipe right on you doesn't mean no one will find you attractive. There are many people out there with compatible preferences.

5. Focus less on seeking validation from the "prettiest girls" and more on connecting with people who truly see and appreciate you for who you are as a whole person. Looks are fleeting.

6. Work on building up your self-confidence from within. Don't base your self-worth on the superficial likes or matches of strangers. You deserve to feel good enough on your own.

7. Dating app matches are just one small part of your life and experience. Try not to let them affect your self-esteem too much. Keep an open mind and a broad perspective.

The key takeaway here is to focus less on what other people think based on superficial traits, and more on nurturing your inner sense of confidence and self-worth. The right people will see and appreciate your value in time - don't base it on the limited glimpses that dating apps provide. I hope this perspective helps! Let me know if you have any other questions.

[jeffend888]

Let me tell you something about Tinder.

1) Any girl on there who is remotely attractive is getting hundreds of likes per day so she isn’t even seeing your like.

2) A good portion of the girls on there are bots.

3). A good portion of the girls on there are promoting Onlyfans nonsense and saying things like “I’m not really on here, send 5 dollars to my Cashapp to get my attention”. I should know, I’ve tried this experiment and you’d be surprised by how many morons actually fall for this.

[Screenwriter]

There are too many factors to be able to determine why particular girls on an app don't swipe on you.

"Not good enough," is an incredibly broad statement. Not good enough in what sense?

Who knows what the ages of the women on the app are. Who knows where they're from? WHo knows WHAT they're looking for in a guy? Maybe it's your profile. Maybe it's your photo.

These are all guesses and nothing but guesses because every app appeals to a different strata. So until you know who uses the app and what they're seeking, you can't know.

My only comment is over 6 feet tall and handsome are not the only qualities a woman wants. That's pretty "profile lite." Unless your app is a hookup app, dunno that that's enough to be swiped on. Loads of people with those assets.

[Hstdgh]

Loads of men aren’t over 6 foot it’s literally 14% of men. What planet do you live on.
Women are always stupid and have no understanding of reality.
Very few men are over 6 feet and handsome and that’s all you can show on an app.

[Screenwriter]

@Hstdgh OK, I played a little game. Half of 350 million people are men. That's 175 million. About 25 percent of that number are men between 25 and 40. Fourteen percent of that number is 8 million men. Granted, these men are spread all over the country. But let's do quadrants to be fair. There'd be 2 million men in the Southeast, Northeast, Southwest, Northwest.

2 million would be spread over 12 states on average. 167,000 men taller than 6 feet in that age range per state, in general.

Now the "handsome" factor, I haven't applied because knowing what percentage of people are good-looking is a pretty difficult to ascertain. But I also haven't applied the dumb bunny or lazy asshole factors because this is also impossible to determine..

And of course, half of those men live in urban areas, the other half in rural areas, as. per where people live today. And do most American women require men over 6 feet tall if their average height is 5'4" to 5' 5"?

There are plenty of men taller than the average woman's height in 2-inch heels. And I say "loads" because I've had many boyfriends right at 6 feet or taller and I'm shorter than average. I've always thought they were attractive, and most of them were decent people. But they might not pass the "swipe" test of today. I knew all these people personally over time.

If it's only about looks, who knows why these "stupid" women don't choose you.

Might wanna meet some who are invested in getting to know more about you.

HOWEVER, the swipe is a 5-second look-see. If it's only about your face and the number of inches tall you are, those are two narrow qualities.

[Anemone978]

I had a guy tell me he was cute and when I seen his pic I thought he was average/ugly.. lol You might not know you are ugly OR you are not buff enough lots of girls like buff guys.. not me but plenty do..

[Asker]

I’m putting on more muscle. It takes time but I’m definitely fit and healthy.

These girls should be fighting for men it the other way round. I live a sick life

[Asker]

I’ve got it all going for me
It’s bullshit

[Anemone978]

Maybe try a different app.. I personally found apps to be a waste of time and they made me feel shit about myself.. try and meet people through friends it is better that way

[Asker]

You’re right
It’s all a false version of reality

[Anemone978]

Yes plus it is easier to get to know someone in a friend setting

[CoolCatMar1]

Do you look like Zayn Malik, Sean O'pry or Alain Delon? These days people are obsessed with them

[Asker]

Someone said I did once

[Asker]

Women are only obsessed with exceptionally attractive people that the problem

[CoolCatMar1]

Ahem... ok

[DextroShade]

Women on dating apps are incredibly picky and entitled so you would probably have better luck approaching them in person. On these apps you are competing with celebrities for women so it's very difficult.

[DarkWinterNights]

Apps are not real life. Most people don’t have any luck on them. Don’t let them effect your self image.

[Flower7]

Just being tall doesn’t automatically make someone good-looking.

[Anonymous]

No. Because I'm the flipside of you man. I'm ugly and get far more matches than I rightly should.😆

Don't try to make sense of why women do ANYTHING just roll with it.