I don't think I am good enough?

[yammax]

I have a very conventionally attractive sister, one you can't even look for similarities unless you look in magazines. She's modeled, she's older than me and in shape. I am chunky and short. We are polar opposites, people are surprised we are even related. I have had family members come up to me to tell me how beautiful she is, especially the time at my grandpa's funeral. She was all dressed up in a dress and looked beautiful, everyone was complimenting her. As was I dressed up too but I didn't get anything of course. I am the ugly sister, daughter and friend. Had a great aunt come up to her to tell her she lit up the whole room with her smile and beauty, then my great aunt looked over at me and smiled. I am fat, and yes I could work out but that's beside the point right now. I thought beauty was subjective? If it was subjective then why did my counselor tell me that men would be intimated to come up to me if she was around. If *SOME* men didn't find her attractive why don't they come up to me? That's right, cause I don't believe in "subjective beauty" I believe in settling, and that's the only time I will ever find someone if they are willing to settle. I am convinced that the matches I get online are the ones using the number method because no woman swipes right so they chill, and talk to the fat overweight plain Jane that has self esteem issues that they don't actually find attractive."I am surprised you are single" LOL, no you aren't. I posted a photo of us on here, and guess who the guys chose? *hint* not me. That hurt, cause I got told to stand away from her and maybe men would come up to me. Treated like I was insane thinking someone would come up to me. Yeah, it's like comparing Lena Dunham to Scarlett Johansson so I guess it was a crazy thought. Want to touch base on the men, she has no issues. I am 25, and when she was 25 she was dating.. she's married and has a kid. Guys come up to her husband to tell him how lucky he is. see? Why am I treated like this?

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if beauty is subjective, then how come I am never approached in front of her? HA cause it isn't.

[Anonymous]

You think that because you don’t get approached much. Then it isn’t the place for you.


It don’t mean it’s your fault. It’s just you’re around people who aren’t your type.


For years I’ve taught it’s my fault. Now I’ve gone out explored places, where I get good attention. Now I clearly know it’s isn’t me. I saw a huge massive difference. I’m flooded actually from a severe drought.

[Guy13]

Do not be so tough on yourself. Focus on the things you do well snd don’t compare yourself to everyone else.

[Anonymous]

I've always been told I'm beautiful and that I have a nice personality, but guys always chose my friends or sister over me.

[Anonymous]

You shouldn't compare yourself with anyone else.

[yammax]

How am I not supposed to? Everyone thinks this.

[Anonymous]

So. Your counselor isn’t wrong. There is a whole social science to it. Also being in her presence will have another effect. If you are lesser looking then she is as you say. And she is some 10/10 impossibly hot model type like you say. Being by her side will only make you look that much worse and her that much better. I knew a girl when I was younger who had a friend that was less attractive that she purposely would have tag along when clubbing for this very reason ( never told her of course) . Having a less attractive woman by her side boosted her attractiveness. Well st least how her attractiveness was perceived.


Now. I’m not saying you are infact ugly. For all I know you could just be being extremely hard on your self.


Personally I don’t like skinny mini model types. I prefer a woman willing to get dirt under her nails And will actually eat when I take them to a nice restaurant vs sipping water and eating a side salad and calling it a meal.


If you’re really that worried. Try getting a few girlfriends you feel are equally as attractive as you. And one or two less attractive ones. You’ll see what I’m saying.


But id bet you’re being hard on your self and are better looking then you think.

[Anonymous]

But you get to date a fantastic man like me. So you're actually better than your sister to me.

[In_Trance]

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