My girlfriend doesn't think she's good enough?

[harryyyy]

My girlfriend is pushing me away because she thinks I'm to good for the mistakes she's made and she does love me, very much but she's pushing me away because she thinks she'll hurt me. How do I convince her to stay?

[Richareens]

I push my Boyfriend at times too. And sometimes all I want for him to do is comfort me endlessly and call me. But then I understand I’m not a child and I shouldn’t have to depend on such. Sometimes I get paranoid that he might find someone else and quite frankly I find myself giving him the attitude at times. Especially when he doesn’t talk as much due to his hectic work life. In my mind, I feel like I’m useless and not contributing much to his life. We are a Long distance couple. I feel like I’m a burden sometimes. I feel unworthy. Of love and forgiveness. I question why he would even Want me. And begin to feel like maybe he just wanted my body. It’s like a road to loving yourself before you can truly love another. I don’t know what mistakes she did but as for me, a certain mistake I did and the fact that he still forgave me was confusing. It made me doubt our relationship. He said it was out of love and I felt a bit bad and also found it hard to believe. I felt like he could hurt me someday. If I were in your Girlfriend’s Shoes, I would want to have a face to face meetup session. Look her deep in the eyes. Serious and a slight smile. Tell her you’re genuinely willing to work out your relationship and that even though it will be a rocky path, you still want her and will be there for her. Ask her if she feels the same. Maybe she doesn’t want to be in committed relationship, who knows. But for all I know at least you tried. You made it clear. Hug her. Hold her hand. Tell her she’s worth it. I feel like she just lacks the confidence?

[harryyyy]

Thank you so much!

[Richareens]

Sometimes all we want is a Long voice record or call or something to remind us. I know it can be really annoying but all we want is for you not to lash at us and be understanding. And be there for us when we doubt our worth. And tell us it’s okay and everything is alright. Not just a “Let’s see” which my Boyfriend says at times when I tell him maybe we won’t ever talk in the future or that he will find someone. We don’t want a dismissive reply, we are secretly hoping for you to say something like “I’m confident in us, I believe in us, I want to work with you on us”. Sometimes we just have bad days and we feel like “why the hell does he even need me?” Or “damn he seems to be a lot into me and I don’t even know what the fuck is wrong with me, why am I having doubts, why do I feel like he’s better off without me. I feel bad for even thinking this.” I know it can be frustrating having to keep reminding her but bear with us. We can turn out to be really faithful and devoted partners 😊

[Richareens]

And you’re welcome!

[harryyyy]

Oh my god, when we first started put we sent voice recordings to eachother, it was so cute but I hadn't even thought of that, I'm gonna try that because I know we can't meet and talk face to face. Thank you!

[Richareens]

Aww I wish you all the best! She sounds like a sweet girl 😊

[angelin]

Fortunately this is common in relationships or one thinks they’re not good enough or the other or that one is too good for them. We except the love we think we deserve. Just continue to be there for her regardless of what she says don’t acknowledge all the negative things are pushing you away. Try opening up more to her and encouraging her to do the same to you and when she has something negative to say about her past it reactivated way just listen and be there understanding her for whatever comes just keep encouraging her to open up to you and Remind her hat you love and care for her.

[Lolaloves019]

She's punishing you away because she knows the alternative is to hurt you.
Be grateful.
Lots of people aren't given the choice to walk away.
One in three victims of domestic violence are killed.
Many more experience abuse they can't walk away from.

Neither of you are ready for a relationship. Work on your own self esteem and inner peace first.
Trust me.

[Dawsonwc]

You don’t. Let her leave if that’s what she wants. I usually keep this mentality with girls who don’t think they’re enough (I also often say this to them but it’ll come out odd if this isn’t a belief you actually have). “Maybe you’re not good enough, I don’t know everything, but right now with what I know you are and I feel pretty confident about that so you go do whatever you’ve got to do and if you find out that I’m right I promise not to say I told you so.”

[Jaximus-Lion]

This situation is very common and try to understand that, you both still young and we all do mistakes. Tell her that the mistakes she makes are very normal and nothing to be shamed off and tell her about your mistakes too. Create your own world where mistakes are fine and not a big deal, if we don't do mistakes we are not perfect, learn from mistakes and go forward. It's alright to do mistakes

[FaceGlitter]

Make here see how much you love her still despite her mistake and tell her how much you forgive her and what she did is now in the past. It may take long for her to finally put her mistakes in the past but just keep on doing this and she would feel much better about the situation and move on from that mistake! :) GOOD LUCK!! ^u^

[Hosslover2005]

Tell her all of her flaws don't matter that you love her for who she is and it doesn't matter how she doesn't you always love her no matter what that's those horrible things are as people try to tear us apart from someone who we love you guys show her that you love her no matter what

[XoxobriiiiiiRod]

You don’t. Be there for her; every time she pushes you bounce back and be there for her. That’s the most you can do and this way she’ll know you’re unlike every other guy she’s been with. Give her time and space but don’t give up on her.

[Lovemycountryboy7778]

Hold her
Talk to her
Relax her
Tell her how u feel
Lay in bed together
Tell her that she means the world to u and the mistakes r in the past and not now.. Even if it is now I still... Whatever else u want to say

[TGFH-Satan]

Don't get pushed away. Prove that she's good enough.

[harryyyy]

It's so hard

[TGFH-Satan]

You could set something up. You could pretend to be chocking and have her save you, or something like that.

[lilmissumshine]

He needs to dump her ass.

[Anonymous]

Wow.. she sounds like me... I do that to a lot of people... it’s hard... remind her everyday she is enough... don’t let her focus on her mistakes... just... show her your love... it’s tough... and... tbh, she might want to get some counseling...

[Máiiréad]

Wish I could tell you... but I'm afraid I do the same thing. I push away the ones I'm afraid to hurt. Good luck...

[absurdthinking]

i can't suggest anything but the fact that you want her to stay shows that you really care about her good luck

[Anonymous]

Show and tell her that you aren’t going to run from a mistake made, because I bet that’s what she fears. By allowing someone in your thoughts and everyday life you are giving them an opportunity to hurt you, maybe that’s what’s up.

Or she doesn’t like you and is trying to show you that she trusts other people more then you but doesn’t want to say it out loud.

COMMUNICATION is key!!!

[lilmissumshine]

Dump her. you can't convince a person who is insecure, doesn't think highly of themselves, and don't like themselves period. she needs to work on her. otherwise she's going to bring you down. meey someone better whose fun

[lilmissumshine]

Oh wait mistakes she's made? shell hurt you? red flag dump her ass

[PuffyHA]

It must be something that has to do with her confidence or self-esteem or... She wants to push you away... Maybe she thinks it's a way to break-up with you and remain a good person in your eyes... Which i think it's imature but... There are people like that...

[Binnie]

Hmmm I have no idea! Havie you tried talking to her and tried convincing her to stay your girlfriend? And nothing has worked?

[ConfusedGirl24]

I have no idea but it is probably good to keep talking to her, encouraging her and telling her that she is in fact the one you love

[Dimewolfe]

All you have to do is keep trying harder, the best things in life are worth it so if she is worth it continue to show her that she is good enough.

[Anonymous]

I'm having the same problem except I feel I'm pushing my boyfriend away..

[Anonymous]

She sounds like she just wants to get away from you. Let her go be a hoe.

[lilmissumshine]

Exactly hoes will be hoes. she doing this shit on purpose

[Fleece]

She sounds like Sayori

[ShesAmerican]

Welcome to depression and isolation

[boulshyte]

pretend to fuck up once so it looks like ur even

[Dest123any]

Good luck.

[boulshyte]

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