4.1K opinions shared on Dating topic. This is a good question because this sort of thing actually happened with me...
I don't want to go into details, but, in August one summer, my girlfriend was not quite 17, I was older and in college. She was a local girl who'd been my girlfriend for almost a year. I was not local; my home was 3 hours south of my college which was in the metro area of my girlfriend. I was her first boyfriend, she was my second girlfriend. Her mother was very cool. Her father was out of the picture. Well, I had quit my job suddenly at the end of July so, since I had no reason to stay near home and since I also needed to find a place to live for the coming school year, my girlfriend and her mom (who was not quite 38 and rather attractive) let me live with them. The mother almost certainly knew that we were not virgins, but she also likely knew that her daughter and I lost our virginity to each other.
It was nice being with them. It was like I was the man-of-the-house and this was a new home that they just moved into. The mother and her boyfriend were a bit on the outs at the time (they are married now).
I miss those days actually. Living with them while I was not in school was the beginning of me feeling integrated into the community. Because of them, I had reason to travel around that metro area beyond my college town. Ultimately, I ended up living in that metro area for 30 years. I miss it.
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19.3K opinions shared on Dating topic. Hell no I don’t even want her dating at 16 if I had one all that does is just lead to sex absolutely no way not happening on my watch
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Asker+1 yYes you’re smart
Asker+1 yIt’s true I wouldn’t even let my daughter date at that age , like wtf you’re still a child to me😂
Do I like the boyfriend and think it is a healthy relationship? If the answer is yes, then I would let him stay over but on these conditions, first I would need to talk with his mom and make sure she feels good about it and that we agree on any rules. Second he would be in a guest room or sleeping on a couch.
If I do not like the boyfriend or think it is a bad relationship then I would simply say no (I would not even give a reason, just no).
Then again I am 25 and do not have kids yet so some things may be easy for me to say lol.10 Reply
She would have boyfriends that visit. That is customary and normal. However, there is no possible reason that her boyfriend would stay the night. It is not like he lives some great distance from us. And, I certainly would not approve of bundling, regardless of what board is placed on the bed between them.
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u +1 yThe only reason for him to spend the night would be for him to have sex with her and I doubt I would want to condone that for a 16 year old girl. However, I also understand that if she wants to have sex, I won't be able to stop her.
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+1 ySure... he would sleep in the guest room.
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Goodbye, Columbus?
Stay over? He'll no. My 16 year old son's girlfriend maybe. Sounds sexist but my 16 year old son isn't going to get pregnant, isn't going to need an abortion, isn't going to be out of school for two years, isn't going to have me supporting financially and raising a baby probably for 10 years.
No I wouldn't facilitate my teenage daughter's sex life. That sends a bad message.
I've been that guy staying at a girlfriend's who has "cool" parents and let's just say those girls had low moral values and didn't end up in good places.
00 ReplyDepends on what you mean by "stay around". Come over to the house, sure. Not in her bedroom or behind closed doors. Basically, he can visit but I think 16 is too young to have sex. I may not be able to stop them, but I'm not going to help them.
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+1 yI maybe about to contradict myself.
It depends. If the boyfriend was 30 I would certainly not entertain it.
Assuming they were age appropriate, I had met them before, I would hope by 16 my kids would be mature enough to make their own decisions. They could be working, riding a motorbike on the roads, making decisions on their academic future, even joining the army. I'd make sure they knew that I knew what might happen. I'd make sure condoms were available and I'd encourage my daughter to be in the pill.00 Reply
+1 yDefine stay around 1st. if you mean come over watch movies on the couch in the living room couple times awk sure come over and eat with the family sure be alone with my daughter ( if I had any kids ) oh hell no don't think so. if the boy is older then 18 don't think so. after your 18 your an adult you date adults not children. if the boy was hoodrat nope don't think so. if boy mistreated my daughter as in raise there voice to them lay a hand on them etc then that boy will have to deal with me then. i once was 16 before and I know what 16 yr old boys think and want but with this generation now who knows what they want.
00 Reply13.2K opinions shared on Dating topic. You mean like overnight? Yes. I would make sure she was on birth control and STDs weren't an issue. This is very common in the Netherlands and guess what? They have a very low rate of teen pregnancies. Where are there a lot of teen pregnancies? In the parts of the US where they have "abstinence-only" sex education, which means "no sex education".
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+1 yI let my daughter's boyfriend stay over at the age of 17 had no issues but l made sure she was on the pill. Because if you are not open with your kids they will be doing it behind your back.
I always made sure I have a good relationship with my daughter so she can cone to me with issues in her life
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Anonymous(36-45)+1 yDepends on what you mean by stay around.. As in live in my home? Hell no, hang out once or twice a week? Maybe. On that same token, it also depends on his age.. If said man was 30 or even 25.. They are likely to get shot if they come around my home if he is 16 to 20, I'd have little issue with it.
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+1 yYes just so I can make them both cringe with the birds and bees chat
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+1 yYes, I'd rather my kid had a safe spot in their home - no matter the gender over them going behind my back, doing stuff in unsafe envirmoents.
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+1 yYes. Here she'd be legal for sex if that was something they wanted to do. And better safe at home then God knows where else?
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+1 yAbsolutely not.. I don't need my kid being a teen mom trash bag.. that is such a setup for disaster to let them ruin their lives like that..
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If I had a kid then yeah I would. I would like to think I’d be the chill dad.
If I thought the boyfriend was an idiot though I wouldn’t let him.00 Reply
+1 yAs once being that 16 yr old boy... I can tell you why he's hanging around your house with your daughter
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Asker+1 yWhy?
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It's not to do the dishes and help mow the lawn
Asker+1 yObviously sex duhhhhhh
Yes, her choice, if she's safe she can have sex whenever and with whoever she wishes.
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+1 yI ain't raising no dirty butt. She going to stay clean in morals if she wanna remain my daughter, or she can go be the devil's daughter.
10 Reply16 is the legal age of consent and if she’s going to have sex over night I can guarantee she will also have sex during the day. So yes he boyfriend can stay over
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yI don't know if anyone wants to be round, maybe a healthier shape😂
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Opinion Owner+1 yOhh okay lol I mean I wouldn’t let them be sleeping in the same bed or anything, separate rooms maybe on the weekends would be ok. Some people would be more strict and that’s perfectly fine, but in most cases she would just sneak out to go see him anyway.
Anonymous(18-24)+1 yI heard back in the 40s and 50s, a kid had to sit with the girl in front of everyone and talk to her if she was coming over. That's probably how I would do it. There's no reason for them to sit in their bedroom together alone.
00 Reply8.4K opinions shared on Dating topic. Yes, so I can keep an eye on him,
10 Reply1.4K opinions shared on Dating topic. my house my rules. both must abide by them
10 Reply881 opinions shared on Dating topic. yea really couldnt care less
00 Reply669 opinions shared on Dating topic. I don't know probably no
00 Reply"Oral only. No Intercourse."
00 ReplyYes I would.
00 ReplyEasier to keep an I on if they are near
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20 Reply1.3K opinions shared on Dating topic. Yes I would
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