What to say when breaking it off after 6 dates?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been on 6 really good dates with the nicest man. He’s a lovely person and we get on well but the last date that we went I just realised I didn’t feel how I should after 6 dates.

on our last date, I could tell how much he liked me by the way he was acting and he even told me he had deleted all of his dating apps. At this far in, I feel I should be really happy to hear that and I should be happy that I can tell he likes me a lot.

to be honest it just made me feel bad. I went home and I instantly felt really bad that he’s deleted his apps and feels so set on me while I don’t have any feelings for him and it’s not growing the way it should.

I think the kindest thing to do at this point would be to call it off. I’m worried about hurting his feelings as I’ve not met a man as kind as this in a long time.

any tips or advice on how to word this? I’ve never called anything off this far along before in dating.

[scooogy]

This is strange to mention here, but my ex crush had kept her dating app account for at least 18 months into her oh so happy relationship. I thought this was weird to do even a single week into a new relationship, until I read your question.

[Asker]

I’ve also deleted my dating apps out of respect now that he’s deleted his.

[scooogy]

So is it lacking respect for the partner or lacking trust into relationship when not deleting dating apps?

[Asker]

I personally would say respect. We are not in a relationship but I still deleted it out of respect when he said he deleted his.

[scooogy]

So what would you say are consequences of lets say her not respecting him even 18 months into the rel

[scooogy]

*relationship and talking to other men even if just friendly though he asked her not to?

[Asker]

I have no idea on the circumstances but it is disrespectful to her partner

[LiamJHayden]

"he even told me he had deleted all of his dating apps"

But he didn't ask you to be exclusive, which is a sign of hesitancy / weakness. He might be nice, but if he cannot be assertive here after six dates he might never be.

[LiamJHayden]

As for what to say, just tell the truth. He is kind, but you do not see a future. If he gets belligerent here, you know you made the right choice.