How attracted do girls have to be to you for them to message you first on tinder?

[Anonymous]

10/10

Other

A total of 35 votes were cast: 12 girls and 23 guys. See detailed results

[noemiii]

Men always message me first on tinder. Some match and say nothing but the man always sends the first message. I am attractive though, but I’d guess even decent looking women on tinder still get men who message them first. It’s common practice for, you know, a typical man who doesn’t chronically use G@G.

[Asker]

Men message me first too

[noemiii]

Then maybe you should change your username to MyOwnBoy2.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I used Bumble after break up, got thousands of people like me very shortly.

It was very hard to pick whoever to message, because on Bumble there’s a rule, you message first as a girl.

[Asker]

I get hundreds of likes too if I look for gay dudes. Men are just super horny.

[Huntingnfishin]

So I've had girls message me first like it's not uncommon. And I'm told I'm like a 7ish. I think the personality of the girl is the biggest factor tbh. Some girls don't have a problem messaging first but yes I would say the majority of them want you to come to them

[Avicenna]

Well, they do need to be quite attracted because there are probably hundreds of guys messaging them. And that doesn't include anyone they meet on other dating apps, on Facebook, or IRL.

[coachTanthony]

Most girls on tinder your age are bots or prostitots. Now for people who are 40ish and up most are real. crazy I know.

[SexyBrunetteNY]

Why are you waiting for girls to message you first? I can be totally crazy about a man and I won't message him first. I stopped doing that, period. Because guys SAY they want that but then when a female makes the first move, they honestly don't treat her well. It doesn't pay, it works against us. Why do it?

[MysteriousDarkness]

@SexyBrunetteNY
That is a common excuse to not do the approaching/asking out. Why ahould guys always do it?

[soulOnDisplay]

It can be complicated but generally men MUST message first, it is an expectation. Man if I had a dime for every womans profile that said "I don't message first" or " You need to message first cuz shy" I would be rich. WOMEN, YOU DON'T NEED TO TELL US THAT YOU NEVER MESSAGE FIRST, THIS IS COMMON GUY KNOWLEGE.

[Anemone978]

I have never used tinder but on other dating apps I would never message first.. Even a guy I thought was 10/10 because I need to see he actually has interest in me and has guts..

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

On Bumble, there’s a rule girls message first.

[Anemone978]

@LaFemmeFatale_1 I know but that is probably why I wouldn't use that as an app of choice lol

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

My girl friend married a very successful and a cool guy she met there.

I think that’s a pretty cool APP.

It’s nice, as a girl you do the choosing.

[Asker]

@LaFemmeFatale_1 my boy friend did the same

[Anemone978]

@LaFemmeFatale_1 That's cool it looks like a good app.. but if I ever break up with my husband I probably won't date again

[Anonymous]

Dude, it's the internet. You're just as likely to be talking to a 300lb. Guy.

Basically she's got be attractive enough to worth messaging while average enough to still be believable that she actually talk to you. Because any guy with a lick of sense knows about his attractiveness level. If not, his stupid ass is going to find himself taken by many-a- catfish.😆

[Asker]

You're under estimating the appeal a foreigner has. It's called the purple cow strategy. Visit a different country and turn your tinder on. Get out of the western world.

[MikeTheBartender]

Be a man, never let them message first. Whether you want to fuck them or date them. Regardless of looks. If it's a match you were interested in something

[RoseySaraah]

Most guys have a swipe bot going to swipe every girl in there lmao!

[Anonymous]

i don't use Tinder because I have friends with benefits so if i break up with a guy i have guys to have sex with if i wanted to, but if i were on Tinder i wouldn't message a guy first no matter how attractive he is

[Anonymous]

Not especially... They could think you look like a good person, that's what I do - and if I think they might be a bit shy I message them first.

I don't even match with a guy who is shirtless.

[Opinion Owner]

But to note: If I message the guy first they usually think I find them sexually appealing and try to sext or they are just not that interested - so I have stopped texting them first.

[Reichmann75]

10. If a girl messages you first on tinder it means you are on the highway for sex

[DiegoO]

Women's are like a fisherman. They take whatever they want or need, from the net. Us men are like the fish, but with a fortunate result—or maybe not, for some.

[Luopio27]

I got cold shivers of lonelyness just by looking at this pic. Those are goosebumps.

[Anonymous]

Most never will. It's got nothing to do with the guy and everything to do with her.

[shades777]

tinder is a numbers game and way more men are on it like 2-3 times more

[Anonymous]

Only losers use dating apps.

[Zachgoat308]

It takes one to know one

[DarkLegacy]

Lol at pink anon

[inhua]

as least on par with Ryan Gosling

[DarkLegacy]

I wonder why 70% are lying

[BunBun369]

I don't have tinder

[KarimScreamy]

I don't use tinder or other dating apps.