How attracted do girls have to be to you for them to message you first on tinder?

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noemiii · Accepted Answer

Men always message me first on tinder. Some match and say nothing but the man always sends the first message. I am attractive though, but I’d guess even decent looking women on tinder still get men who message them first. It’s common practice for, you know, a typical man who doesn’t chronically use G@G.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

I used Bumble after break up, got thousands of people like me very shortly. It was very hard to pick whoever to message, because on Bumble there’s a rule, you message first as a girl.

Huntingnfishin · Accepted Answer

So I've had girls message me first like it's not uncommon. And I'm told I'm like a 7ish. I think the personality of the girl is the biggest factor tbh. Some girls don't have a problem messaging first but yes I would say the majority of them want you to come to them

Avicenna · Accepted Answer

Well, they do need to be quite attracted because there are probably hundreds of guys messaging them. And that doesn't include anyone they meet on other dating apps, on Facebook, or IRL.

coachTanthony · Answer

Most girls on tinder your age are bots or prostitots. Now for people who are 40ish and up most are real. crazy I know.

SexyBrunetteNY · Answer

Why are you waiting for girls to message you first? I can be totally crazy about a man and I won't message him first. I stopped doing that, period. Because guys SAY they want that but then when a female makes the first move, they honestly don't treat her well. It doesn't pay, it works against us. Why do it?

soulOnDisplay · Answer

It can be complicated but generally men MUST message first, it is an expectation. Man if I had a dime for every womans profile that said "I don't message first" or " You need to message first cuz shy" I would be rich. WOMEN, YOU DON'T NEED TO TELL US THAT YOU NEVER MESSAGE FIRST, THIS IS COMMON GUY KNOWLEGE.

Anemone978 · Answer

I have never used tinder but on other dating apps I would never message first.. Even a guy I thought was 10/10 because I need to see he actually has interest in me and has guts..

Anonymous · Answer

Dude, it's the internet. You're just as likely to be talking to a 300lb. Guy.

Basically she's got be attractive enough to worth messaging while average enough to still be believable that she actually talk to you. Because any guy with a lick of sense knows about his attractiveness level. If not, his stupid ass is going to find himself taken by many-a- catfish.😆

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Be a man, never let them message first. Whether you want to fuck them or date them. Regardless of looks. If it's a match you were interested in something

RoseySaraah · Answer

Most guys have a swipe bot going to swipe every girl in there lmao!

Anonymous · Answer

i don't use Tinder because I have friends with benefits so if i break up with a guy i have guys to have sex with if i wanted to, but if i were on Tinder i wouldn't message a guy first no matter how attractive he is

Anonymous · Answer

Not especially... They could think you look like a good person, that's what I do - and if I think they might be a bit shy I message them first. I don't even match with a guy who is shirtless.

Reichmann75 · Answer

10. If a girl messages you first on tinder it means you are on the highway for sex

DiegoO · Answer

Women's are like a fisherman. They take whatever they want or need, from the net. Us men are like the fish, but with a fortunate result—or maybe not, for some.

Luopio27 · Answer

I got cold shivers of lonelyness just by looking at this pic. Those are goosebumps.

Anonymous · Answer

Most never will. It's got nothing to do with the guy and everything to do with her.

shades777 · Answer

tinder is a numbers game and way more men are on it like 2-3 times more

Anonymous · Answer

Only losers use dating apps.

inhua · Answer

as least on par with Ryan Gosling

DarkLegacy · Answer

I wonder why 70% are lying

BunBun369 · Answer

I don't have tinder

KarimScreamy · Answer

I don't use tinder or other dating apps.

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