Guys, Do you like it when girls message first on tinder?

[Anonymous]

I heard over the years guys complaining that they don't like always having to message first.

So when I really like a guy I message him first.

But EVERY TIME I message a guy first I have never ever gotten a response.

And the only time I actually do some messaging back and forth with a guy is when he messages me first...

So guys what's the deal. You want a girl to message you first Or not?

[JohnDoe3000]

Yes we do, it vastly decreases the chance we'll get ghosted after three messages and takes away the pressure of having to come up with an opener.

What I think happens most of the time is that the girl is so nervous about the concept that she'll only message her hottest matches first. The hottest matches have the most options, and are more likely to have swiped you on accident or simply because they swipe everyone.

It's the same as a guy never approaching women except VS models and then complaining women always turn him down so apparently women must not like it when a guy does the approaching.

[joeincognitoe]

yeah just do it, the only reason I could think of why he wouldn't respond is because he could be busy doing something else. on the other hand if he texts you he probably doesn't have something better to do and that's why it's more likely to have a good conversation when he texts first😊👌

[Asker]

But there are over 20 guys in my message feed who've I've messaged and never heard a response. Some have been sitting there 2 months. So I doubt they been busyvtgat long

[joeincognitoe]

because they get messaged every day, if you won't text in the first few hours the chance that he'll remember for even a day are pretty low

[Anonymous]

I think they usually like it.

[Wolframium]

Ah, Tinder. Another app, where I was, but…actually wasn’t. It was great for discharging battery, that’s for sure. But…that’s kind of all. So, I would say…yes.
Here as the problem. Nobody gives me like there.
I personally do, but there might be some guys, who just…give you like and then…do nothing. For some reason. I guess. I don’t know, I never got like, so… :-D

[Renzo11]

This is what happens to guys 24/7. We always message first, and dont get a response. Responses are rare. If a girl takes initiate, you will surely get bonus points. But if were not into you, then whoever messages first the result doesn't change

[Bsjevrnsjxhxjs]

Tinder is full of people who swipe just to swipe..
You should ditch it

[jacquesvol]

They can not: I don't have tinder on any phone or tablet or computer.

[earthchildtearthling]

big personally I wouldn't care because I don't carry a cell phone with me I leave mine at home or in the car

[Nahid1234]

I like it when a girl is mature enough to message first

[MeGo99]

We love it when girls text first, it actually takes any pressure away from us!

[ohshee]

sure u can send me a message first

[Lucifer_666]

If I used Tinder I would like that

[bondobilly]

I would like it if I used it.

[zagor]

I would if I used tinder, I guess.