Why did he laugh at me?

[Anonymous]

I had an appointment with my therapist earlier this week and we discussed commitment issues. I figured out that I fear commitment because to me it signals growing up and that my freedom would be gone (religious upbringing/parents). I told my boyfriend while we were hanging out and he laughed at me. He said it was stupid for me to fear aging since it will happen anyway and no amount of me trying to fight it will make it go away. He thought I had much deeper issues than that? He seemed almost relieved that it was "a simple issue" with an "easy fix". My therapist and I were discussing commitment issues because I'm worried he's gonna propose soon. I wanted to work on some of those issues while I still had time.

[Billlewis]

I love a lot of your other questions, so I'll take a shot at this one. On the face of it, I know it seems like a mean way for him to respond to your genuine concerns, but there is also the aspect of -- and I hate to use this line, because it's kind of a cop out -- the old, 'Boys will be boys' relationship hurdle that you'll just have to get over. Is this serious enough to make a pretty big stink out of? Maybe, but whether it is or isn't, you need to sit down and have a thorough discussion about it.

[Asker]

Lol I'm glad you enjoy my other questions 😂 I'm pretty clueless about people and/or hangout with some real weird people. Supposedly he also has commitment issues but so far he's spearheaded a lot of our progress. Hell we wouldn't even be in a relationship if he didn't ask for one. He says nothing I can do to him will shake his commitment to me, and he can't imagine his life without me. He's not really the type to say things like that lightly. I should talk to him about how it made me feel, but I wanted to see what the Internet hive mind has to say.

[Billlewis]

Well, I obviously wish you the best of luck, and I'm hoping that maybe if I'm lucky you'll consider chatting with me for a few minutes:)

[Billlewis]

I just started following you and I'd like to invite you to follow me, as well, if it's okay.