I feel like I have to give my love to any man who wants my love (I don’t have premarital relations though). Why?

[Kforkfkt]

I go on dates and accept the flirting of guys I want nothing to do with and/or don’t have any attraction for. And no I don’t want the attention.

I’ve also gone on plenty of pity dates.

[Miristheiss]

What does "GIVE MY LOVE" mean?

[Kfotjtbg]

Like if a guy wants to take me on a date (I don’t do relations before marriage though), I’d probably go even multiple times and truly consider like yeah let me give him a shot maybe he could be my future husband. Or sometimes guys at work flirt or give me attention I don’t want and generally I don’t understand or feel comfortable knowing how to shut it down or get them to stop so I end up being my friendly self and maybe it seems like I’m reciprocating the flirting I don't know? I don’t want to lead people on so I’m not like hitting on guys or anything at least not on purpose. I guess it rouses some feelings of obligation in me when most men acquaintances or whatnot flirt or ask me out or seem to want my love/affection. They want that warmth between a man and woman I guess.

[Kfotjtbg]

I’m empathic so i sense what people are feeling and it tends to be very real and visceral and instantaneous so I don’t get time to sit and think into it until after the fact. Then the next day they do it again and I’m lost in the moment cause I just feel things in the moment.

[Miristheiss]

@Kfotjtbg
So you mean you'll pretty much go on a date with anyone who asks you out?
Setting boundaries appears to be the area of your life you need to work on. You need to be able to say no to men. You shouldn't be going out with every man who asks.

[Kfotjtbg]

Yeah. But I don’t get asked out that often thankfully. I get flirted with ir sexually harassed a lot more which I wish they would stop but nobody respects me. They want what they want so even if I told them to stop it’s fruitless. You just lose the strength after a while. That’s how this one coworker treats me. Went on some dates he pressured out of me and a month ago I texted him ‘do not contact me again please thanks’ and blocked him. Now he’s gossiping to coworkers behind my back saying who knows what and he’s trying to approach me again presumably to ask me out AGAIN. So yeah. People do not respect me. I tend to give in :/

[sheenagwapa]

that's sad...