Does the average man have more options or does the average woman have more options?

[AskingToughQuestions]

Average men have more options than average women

Average women have more options than average men

[Rei13]

Women have more options for one night stands and will attract more men in general for that reason. However the point is moot when you want a relationship and not a fling. Men are more likely to just want sex, where women are more likely to want a relationship and not just sex. Men will literally match with as many girls as possible on apps (so swiping on every girl), where women will be pickier. Which equals a woman potentially having hundreds of matches to a man with only a few. It really isn’t a compliment when a guy will go for every girl hoping one says yes.

[nastyb]

Its an illusion that women have more options. Because reality is... half of her "options" are just desperate guys looking to bang or jack off to her

[Kaamraj]

Without a doubt, the average woman has much more options as men are far less choose when it comes to sexual partners, however women have always been selective and now are more so thanks to social media and dating apps which have globalized the sexual marketplace and made it much easier for people to connect with. The average man is suffering record levels of loneliness, sexlessness and disenfranchisement form society which is evident with the exponential rise of the RedPill and other MGTOW movement.

[coachTanthony]

Women will always have more options for sex. Many women though today want a man with ridiculous credentials simply because a high value man gave them a little attention so now they think they deserve to lock one down. Sad state of dating out there today.

[nastyb]

Women won't settle for less because they "want" a man but they dont "need" a man. When you want a man but dont need a man, you can have much higher standards. Women can pay their own bills, take themselves on vacations, even have kids on their own. They don't need to settle for bare minimum

[coachTanthony]

@nastyb You went from higher standards to bare minimum. Nobody is saying to settle for bare minimum but this thing where a woman is making 100k and won't date someone who makes less will keep them single for quite sometime. Money doesn't make the person valuable.

[ManOnFire]

I think most men feel that women have more options, but women also want men to think they have more options as well, and they want men to be envious of it.

[Unit1]

See for yourself.

Sign up on online dating with 2 accounts.

One account as a man.

One account as a woman.

Pick pictures, that you'd consider fine (nothing over the top for the female account).

And then see how many matches and inbox messages you get on either account.

You will find, that the man's account will be a Sahara desert and the female account will feel like you're a celebrity.

[Saramad_Hill]

The current dating app scene is broken and saturated with too many males. And a lot of them are kind of jerks.

You'll feel a lot better cutting out dating apps altogether. What I think would work, is in the future, AI does the matchmaking, just got to let it learn what you like. It'll be years from now I bet.

But yes, the Internet has created a supply and demand issue. Men are in high supply on dating apps. And a lot of that supply could use some humility.

[Unit1]

@Saramad_Hill If that would be a thing, I'm pretty sure they would charge a monthly subscription fee of no less than $99.99 per month. No money, no honey either way.

[nastyb]

Men outnumber women on dating apps because men are the more desperate gender

[Anonymous]

Options for what? A good looking man with a decent personality has a near unlimited supply of opportunities. But that doesn't make very many of those opportunities good. Most women are highly toxic.

But on the flipside women have endless opportunities (especially if she puts out) to date. But that doesn't mean those will develop into anything of any value (especially if she puts our early on).

So again, opportunities for what? Because most people you meet in life, while not the devil, will not bring anything really measurably positive to your life.

[patrick994]

A woman of average appearance will have many more opportunities than a man of average appearance, men tend to be less selective than women who for biological reasons tend to prefer males with certain physical, economic and social characteristics

[JDavid25]

The average woman without a doubt... Even over good looking men, the average woman has more options as most men are sorta kinda simps by nature.. But that's mainly casual options they have... Not so much quality relationship building options.

[WhitneySnow]

Dating wise I think girls in general have more options because there are more guys out there looking for dates (though I think that changes as you get older). Career wise I think guys have more options.

[BigRed1987]

*Woman walks into a bar*
“Who wants to take me home?”
*every man in the bar rushes over and begs to be the one*


Haha…
But in all seriousness, in either case, do women have more quality choices than men? This I’m not so sure either gender has a leg up in either direction

[Notfrommars]

It really depends on what you’re talking about. As a woman, I feel like I have a ton of options for a one-night stand or something casual, but not for somebody who wants commitment. My younger brother might not necessarily have women swooning over him for his looks but he’s never had a problem finding a girlfriend because a lot of women want someone who will commit

[EricSummer]

It's exactly like that. I also found that a man can do reasonably well with women if he is ready to commit. It gives us a competitive edge.

[Anonymous]

In dating and sex they obviouly have a great deal more options than men.

In life in general women have more option as well. They have multiple paths to success and happines whereas men have but one, which is to have a lucrative career. Women have much more freedom to "follow their heart" and do something fulfilling without the pressure to earn a high salary.

[HighValue]

Average women have more options. High value men have much more options than high value women, and low quality men and have very few options.

[LazerBean]

Women have more options at this time, simply because men are no longer raised to have standards and respect themselves.

[bros26]

Lol harsh but truth

[LazerBean]

Yes, sadly

[ManOnFire]

Are women raised to have standards and respect themselves?

[LazerBean]

They clearly have higher standards than men and therefore respect themselves more than men. So while they still are not generally as good as they used to be they are still not doing as poorly as the average man.

[ManOnFire]

I think if women had higher standards there wouldn't be so many who are perpetually dating the wrong men - and knowing it, but thinking they can change them or that they are better than a decent man. Then so many of these women go on years later to talk about how they got out of a relationship with a "narcissist."

[LazerBean]

Men are no better about thag. I totally agree though. That just doesn't negate the fact that even though womens standards are not as high as they need to be, men's standards are still yet lower than women's.

[ManOnFire]

Most women set standards that they themselves are not even following or living, they just create these so-called standards as a way to basically say to men: "if you want me, you'll need to jump this high/have these qualities." Most of the women who talk about having standards are the very ones who will sleep with low value men but try to make decent guys work for it, and I have known a lot of females like this over the years. That is far from high standard to me.

[bros26]

Both gender have high n low standards...
Enough money can unhooked girls bra without using hands.
& Same time men's money doesn't attract independent woman.

So chill & relaxed.

[LazerBean]

Indeed, @bro26 It's very simple capitalism, supply and demand.

Someone even posted a question today covering this very topic. It asked people if they agrees with this statement: to please a woman you must be interested in what she has to say, buy her things, and live her, while to please aan you just have to show up naked with beer.

Most men agreed with that statement. And that very humorously proves my point.

[LazerBean]

@ManOnFire you're mistaken at what I am saying. I'm did not say that women today have high standards. I just said that they are higher than men's in the dating world. Hence why so many more men complain that they can't get dates or sex compared to women

[ManOnFire]

I understood you completely. I'm saying that women’s standards are not as high as you would like to think.

[LazerBean]

Then I think you underestimate how poorly I think of most people. You genuinely think that if an average man can get as many dates as an average woman could?

[Jamie05rhs]

The problem that women are the way they are (not you, @LazerBean; the others) is precisely because men's standards aren't high enough.

[Vegasrunner]

@LazerBean Women will always have more options to get laid men will always gave more options to get relationships.

[LazerBean]

@Jamie05rhs exactly

[ManOnFire]

@LazerBean I'm not saying men have the highest standards. I'm saying that women's standards are no higher, they are just pretending they are. And the truth is, women don't actually want men to have high standards because it would compromise them as women. If men started walking around like women and proclaiming all they would need in order to date a woman, most women would feel upset, frightened, or like men are being unfair. Women depend on male desire and men being less picky to give them the 'options' they love bragging about.

[LazerBean]

You didn't answer the question. I wonder why.

[ManOnFire]

@LazerBean You're dodging what I'm saying.

I believe the average guy has the capability to get dates or even sex no differently than a woman. If it's online dating, probably less, because women on dating apps are looking for very specific men. I am a guy who is NOT a 10 and I oddly still am able to have dates.

Most men take a few rejections as meaning they don't have a chance or that they'll never get a date. But women also want them to feel that way. Women want and need men to have fewer options so that they as women can always have their pick and have control of sex and dating, and they also need men to be convinced that they will always have fewer options.

[LazerBean]

I guess if you truly believe that then we are at a standstill. And I'm not dodging what you were saying anymore than you were dodging my question.

[slatyb]

Male / Female has nothing to do with it. People who are less selective have more options. People who are more desirable have more options.

[normalice]

Men have infinite options for relationships. Women have infinite options for sex. Because neither wants those things.

[MikeTheBartender]

Men will fuck anything, a girl who is a 6 probably has ten times as many options as a guy who is a ten.

[Sonorous]

It's not even a competition 🤣 Men are far too thirsty to win this one.

[Nikki1989]

We have more options, but that doesn't mean those options are good.

[HiveBee]

A lot of men are bad men. But also a lot of men are good men who just don't know what to do.

And that's sad.

[236color]

This doesn't mean they're GOOD options, just that there are more of them.

[Billlewis]

Even an unattractive woman still has more options for dating than the average guy.

[4ngelic]

for sex girls for sure

for dating i think its the same level

[zagor]

Are you talking about with regards to sex/relationships or in general (career, education, etc.)?