So my boyfriend broke up with me a week ago and I really miss him, more than I thought. I met him on a dating app. I’m thinking to go back on just for maybe some dates , without a view for anything serious at the moment, just for distraction. Is it a bad idea?
Yes. It's a poor idea to go out on dates a week after your breakup to "distract" yourself.
Let your breakup sink in and mourn the loss of your relationship. Only when you're done with the grief and loss will you be ready to go out again. You don't want to fall into a rebound relationship that will fail too because you haven't done the work you need to to get over your breakup.
If you need to distract yourself, go for a walk, watch a movie, work around your house, cook, clean, knit, sew, paint, read. Do thoughtful projects. And also consider why there was a breakup. It's usually not all one person's fault.
What did you contribute to the breakup? Were the two of you not suited to each other and you hung on too long? Was one or the other of you too controlling? Someone cheated? Had the relationship run its course and you grew out of each other?
Considering these facts will help you in your next relationship to do better. If you simply run from one relationship to another, blindly, you'll never grow in wisdom. Good luck with everything.
i see you miss him a lot... if you didn't miss him and were over it, yes go on dates. but since you miss him... a lot... as you so put it, then it's a very bad idea and not fair to the guy you go on a date with. no one wants to be a rebound... don't use people for distractions because you can't handle your feelings. i'd say just be by yourself for right now. or else you may make your situation worse and messy.
yes it is. the opposite is true, it's good to process the loss, learn what you can, grow from it, and allow space for someone new... from a healthy emotional place.
chasing others to fill the void leads to more emotional messes, possible rebound relationships and a tangled web down the road.
There may be other emotional reasons you want to fill the void. If so, you need to work on yourself to free yourself from that enslavement.
This is fairly typical behavior. People don't want to suffer and feel bad. But that's part of the process of growth.
Nah, it's not bad. For me the best way to move on is to move on with it. There are those that really stick with you... but you know there is no future there. You just got to move on, and sooner the better. Because if dwell on it... it will eat you up.
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Not at all. It's up tp you to decide when it's time to move on. That can be days or months. Whatever you decide to do.
u Bad? I don't think so. Imprudent though? Yes, probably. If you really miss him that much, you should give yourself some time and space to process through what you're feeling.
It’s not bad, but just be honest with those you meet. If they are looking for long term and you are looking to just have fun - let them know.
I think so. But I also understand if you need to as a confidence builder. Odds are you're not healed yet. You talked as though you're not. So if you do it, just give the guy you date a heads up that your relationship just ended. That way he gets an idea of what he's dealing with. For your benefit and his.
I wouldn’t wait a week…. Life is too short, he doesn’t want you there are a million guys who do. Find a good one this time. Enjoy and good luck.
You are broken up. At that point, you are free and clear to do what you want.
It sounds perfectly reasonable to me. Maybe you should try some other approaches instead, though, since it didn't work out so well last time?
Just Make sure you feel healed. Hell i feel healed 48-72 hours after its over 🤣
No... just broke up? Nothing better for your self esteem than flirting with some attractive people lol
You are just going to end up raising your body count and lowering your value.
Bad idea.
Only go for serious relationships, and only if you're over your last one.
not at all you have to keep an eye on whos out there
Life moves on & so should you.
No, go let loose, have fun and enjoy being single.
What took you so long
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