Do guys like quiet and introverted girls? I always see guys always go for the outspoken and extroverted girl and never the quiet girl?

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caring__1 · Accepted Answer

For the most part, introverts get along best with other introverts. Sometimes, introverts are drawn to extroverts, hoping the extroversion will rub off on them, but it doesn't work. Being around extroverts tends to just lead introverts to become more introverted, to protect themselves from that which they see as overwhelming.

Introverts can appear more outgoing within their familiar structure, but, without a functional structure, introverts tend to fade into the woodwork. The most important tool an introvert can have is effective communication skills. Once they know what works, what doesn't, and the reasons why, they can more easily interact with others. Make sure to be taught by someone who is qualified to teach these simple tools. Don't just claim you are working on it by practicing your familiar dysfunctional patterns.

I personally prefer quiet, yet communicative, women. They tend to take time to think before speaking rather than rambling aimlessly, in hopes of getting their point across. Their clarity and conciseness makes communication much smoother. It's about quality, not quantity. Their slower, more determined approach helps introverts be more aware of how their choices impact others, which often makes them more considerate of others, whereas extroverts can be oblivious or don't care about how their choices impact others.

Lionman95 · Accepted Answer

I would say yes guys also like introvert girls the issue in such situation is that guys go by signs a girl gives him. Outspoken and extrovert girls have an advantage there because they clearly show and say a guy if they are attracted or not, quiet and introvert girls are harder for guys to figure out and might therefore feel like no guy is attracted to them.
I think what a girl in that scenario has to figure out is what she can do to get a guy´s attention and interest in because if she manages that it´s more likely that he will make a move.

sheenagwapa · Accepted Answer

my mom is an extrovert, my younger sister is an extrovert and what i notice about extrovert people are that they care so much about their social status. it's fine if it involves just themselves but if it already affects other peoplw then i think it's not rigjt. for example my nephew who was a kid back then had a public meltdown on a restaurant ( the restaurant is just regular) only because he wanted to wear a slipper instead of shoes. we the slipper doesn't look bad but we my relatives are coming so my mom and sister keep forcinh him to wear shoes. i look at my mother and sister and i just feel so mad at them. my nephew just keep cryinh at the restaurant, didn't eat we have to but him slipper. extrovert people care so much even on little things that introvert people don't find important.

this is just a suspicion but extrovert males are the ones who are more likely to want trophy wives

CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

It's less about guys not liking introverted women and more about extroverted women just putting themselves out there more so it increases their chances of finding a partner. Introverts tend to get along with other introverts better. I consider myself somewhere in the middle, I'm an extrovert but with a significant amount of introverted traits, almost like an ambivert, and I personally find that I prefer someone like myself too. I'm okay with someone who is also somewhere in the middle but I can't see myself in a sustainable relationship with someone who is on the either extremes.

ohsheeT · Answer

I like to shy quiet introvert type girl But it was confident as a beautiful heart who is smart who can speak with her eyes who can smile and who is happy

coachTanthony · Answer

quiet people in general are boring AF. Who wouldn't want to be around a funny vibrant extroverted person?

Avicenna · Answer

Sure, introverted ones are also liked. It can be harder to get to know them though.

RoseySarah · Answer

Honestly as the quiet girl your roght the guys rarely try for us. The out going girls are more fun so why work more?

In public we are also harder to approach and look closed off. But we still want attention we are just shy about it and our flirty friend well gets the guys with her flirting while we are at the table sipping or sad drink.

Dating sites are emotionally trashing is and most guys just want sex if they try.

However some guys will try and while not all are treasure... really 🥺 look out prince charming needs to be tested on dates and no sexual pushing!

Few guys will like you and go for us shy girls! My hubby did and I'm so glad he took a risk on me and kept talking with me. Befriending me before asking me out.

You will find someone amazing and make true love together! Take small steps small baby steps and try to be a little outgoing from time to time. See what guy you catch 😏

Keyboardkat · Answer

There was a book out maybe 25 years ago called, "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus," which made the point that opposites attract. Each personality type seeks out what is missing in themselves, in order to complete themselves. So introverted guys will be attracted to extroverted, outgoing women. And extroverted guys will seek out more quiet, introverted women. I'm a natural introvert, and I always was very attracted to bubbly, outgoing girls who like to laugh a lot! The problem for me, in our younger years, was that this type of girl was the least likely to want to settle down with one guy. But I eventually found one, married her, and she's great! We've been together 52 years! So this principle really works!

Anonymous · Answer

I like the quiet girl, but one, guys see the quiet girl as the easy one so it's not exactly the best look if you're at a gathering or party and you spend most of the time sitting in the dark corner with the shy girl. Especially when you're younger, I think.

And more importantly, I don't know anything about you because you don't talk. So now I have to worry about I have no idea what can of worms I might get into if I flirt with this girl. It could be anything from a fight with her boyfriend to getting involved in drama to being accused of being some kind of creep.

Sharkstealth · Answer

I would say yes but I was shopping after work yesterday and this very pretty girl stepped in front of me and said hi. It caught me off guard as I was debating which potato chips I should buy to go with my Cajun deli turkey sandwiches I would be making soon. She then went to the end of the isle I was in and appeared to be making a list like a vendor would do. She gave me a hard on but I did not go back to speak with her. Hopefully I will see her again there when I return every Saturday for groceries.

Point is if she had not said hi that I may never had even noticed her. Also because I did not pursue her I may never get the chance ever again. A person must be aggressive in his endeavors. Doing nothing can work but it would have to be with a continuous on going relation such as church, school, activities. Even then the person may move suddenly or just fade in to the abyss of life. None of these things can be forever so eventually even these examples will end.

Pegases · Answer

Quiet girls are actually my preference, and from what I've observed most men prefer the qualities that quiet girls tend to exhibit. Women that are more outspoken simply get more attention because its easier to notice. In other words, causation does not necessarily equate to causality here.

b_lova · Answer

I'm an introvert, but I was with an extrovert for 20 years and hated it, because she always wanted to do the social stuff. We never figured out a balance for it in our relationship.

One would be happy while the other would be sad.

Now I'm with an introvert and we are both are happy with our social lives.

qupid911 · Answer

A lot of people assume that the quiet ones are boring. In fact, I know a lot of guys and girls that are quiet, but once you bring up a certain topic, they won’t shut up! It all depends honestly. It may be hard to get to know a quiet person but they’ll never be quiet for long

CaptainOverthink · Answer

We like introverts too. It's just that it's easier to get talking with those who meet us half way.
Especially if we're introverts too or if we're just not socially skilled, or just shy/emotional. It can take a lot to try and be that social motivator/lubricator.
Going for someone more extroverted may just be easier.

Constatine · Answer

A guiet girl is in need of a quiet man. Those people do things differently.. They are on a different plane. Never ever... Uhm nope say only 0.01 percent of the quiet men will choose extroverted girls...

I guess for the same reason girls do. ( in the end they can't handle it and they get mentally exhausted) There are enough men loving the " quiet" type 🥰

DreamLife7 · Answer

No offense, men don't like weak, timid chicks who don't have connections. They're weak and boring. Here they may tell you guys like that type bc they have issues themselves. Nirmal healthy men do not like the quiet introverts because they come off as weird , insecure, timid and boring.

smilelots · Answer

It’s always going to depend on the person sometimes introverted girls or guys don’t get notice because they are very quiet. You have to put yourself out there a little bit be in the right situation around people for someone to notice you and go from there.

CaliAttorneyGuy · Answer

As an introvert sigma male, I like girls that are shy. If she’s too shy, it could be an issue since we’re both introverts. But sometimes really outgoing extroverted women can overwhelm me. Sometimes they’re too much lol. It really just depends on chemistry and if she reciprocated and shows interest back. Shy girls can be fun since it can be a bit of a challenge to get them to open up and talk more. And some of the most attractive girls I’ve known/dated were shy.

zagor · Answer

Yes, a lot of guys like quiet girls. It's just hard sometimes to notice them, and being shy they may give the impression of wanting to be left alone. But probably the biggest problem is, being shy, they tend to not spend a lot of time at the very places where people meet.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

They do but it's hard to gage interest with quit, introverted, shy women. When her reaction to a guy she likes is the same as to a complete stranger she sees on the subway she's not going to find many suitors.

TLDR- shy girls rarely show their interest and thus get overlooked as not interested.

Paul09 · Answer

Well if introverts don't present themselves, how will anyone know she's available or single or what not? I know I'm kinda introverted myself. Im ambivert ish. Mostly introverted, but become extrovert with the right people. So in the end I'll be single forever, since many women do not know i exist. We need to push ourselves out into the world more often.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Quiet and introverted girls are just boring so that's why they don't get attention besides the fact their attitude and body language projects to leave them alone.

Outspoken and friendly women make others feel welcomed and like which makes men feel comfortable talking to them.

Bigmell · Answer

Guys like the quiet introverted girls the only issue is it's hard to get to know them because it's hard to get them to speak, they're so quiet and shy. They probably don't care for a conversation, or you would get one word answers from them. So if you really really like her , want to get to know her you will spend that time and , energy trying to get a conversation started. Find out what she likes and what she don't like.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I've always liked women that are less outspoken, and not because I can control the conversation and feel macho, I just like someone who thinks about what they have to say and not spout a bunch of crap all the time.

glennos89 · Answer

I love the quiet introverts the most but the only problem I'm facing is that I'm also a quiet inteovert myself so getting a conversation going is exactly easy to brake the ice when you have 2 quiet introvers together for the first time 😮‍💨

RavVid · Answer

The upside of extroverted girls is they take up the verbal bandwidth and the guy doesn't have to say much. Which suits me.

I guess I should make more of an effort with quiet girls because they are probably going to make better partners.

Anonymous · Answer

Because a lot of them quiet girls aren't shy they're just narcissists. And those extroverted girls are aggressively flirting that's why. Most of them may be completely full of 💩 telling the guy what he wants to hear. But they're giving him attention. Women don't typically give guys attention. So of course guys are going to be drawn to it. This isn't gender specific. It's human nature. People like attention.

girlypop909 · Answer

yes they do. you just have to find the right guy. and don't listen to that "introverts go better with introverts" crap. trust me it total BS!! my boyfriend is an extrovert and im an introvert, we've been together for 8 years!

(imma girl by the way, I don't know why it says im a guy)

abbyjgriffin98 · Answer

I think they do. But if you are too quiet, they might find it difficult to tell if you are into them. Also, it is easier warming up to an outgoing person.

nastyb · Answer

cuz outspoken extroverted girls tend to be more fun and every guy tends to know them. if you're an introvert, nobody really knows you... nobody knows how cool you are... guys know nothing about you

Kaneki05 · Answer

I maybe a introvert and I do like an introvert of course but I don't like a shy introvert. There is such a thing as a outspoken introvert and those are whom I love.

rosemilk · Answer

in my experience, no lmao. it took me so long to find someone who was okay with me being quiet and introverted.

Anonymous · Answer

Im not a guy, but i assume reason being is because, we all know well, guy like to have 'fun' hence that can be hardly find in introvert girl, at least not until they reach certain level of comfort only then the girl will become more funny (?)

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I, personally, do NOT like quiet and introverted girls. I've had too many bad experiences dating women like that where they freak out over the smallest stuff and then totally shut down.

moconnell · Answer

as a quiet person yes, but you have to be able to open up in front of them and show them that you have character and you're not boring.

Sonorous · Answer

I think I prefer introvert girls. The loudest or most talkative girls have never really attracted me. Also I'm more of an introvert myself.

Hinaaaaa · Answer

I'm introvert but not boring one I talk when I vibe with someone... especially sense of humor.

Billlewis · Answer

As long as she has the kind of personality that's compatible with my own, she doesn't have to be loud and boisterous.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

I've been with a lot of women... once you get them angry there's no such thing as an introvert female. :(

Twalli · Answer

If we're out looking for a girl, the quiet introvert is not out, because she is a quiet introvert. As a quiet introvert, I know that we prefer to be in small groups or alone. So we don't see you out, because you aren't.

elizamichale1 · Answer

Coz they would need more efforts with introverts

Yunakim · Answer

I love the vibe these introvert people give , that makes me curious

joeND · Answer

yes women need to keep it shut. 90% of what they worry about is all in their heads not real problems.

MysticDevice · Answer

Yes. Very much. The issue is that I can never find a girl like that because, well, she's shy and introverted.

havingfun2023 · Answer

I prefer introverted women. ☑️✅ if they're submissive, that's even nicer 🎊🎊🎊✌🏻☮️

RingOfFire · Answer

Cannot stand loud extroverted women. I'll take shy and introverted every time, although by definition they are more challenging to meet. That's not a bad thing because it's worth it.

Likes2drive · Answer

Usually go for friendly ones so I guess they don’t appear shy, the shy ones usually don’t look friendly even if they are, maybe if they smile a lot they would get approached

Rohaan2020 · Answer

Many guys including me get attracted to introverted girls but we find it difficult to approach them bcz mostly we do not get much response from them…. And as a guy i am also an introvert one and I don’t get approached by most women either

WhitneySnow · Answer

Yes! A lot of guys like quiet introverted girls

anon1903 · Answer

If you're introverted, there's a good chance people don't get enough interaction with you.

stratford · Answer

Quieter girls are my type, but they are so often hard to reach and don't always give the right signs.

RedInnocent68 · Answer

OMG, yes! The extroverts are just easier to talk to because they’re more aggressive when it comes to approaching, talking back, and flirting.

standardguy · Answer

I like the quiet and introverted type of girls. But sobetimes they have to stand up for their rights too. Of have to say something to solve a situation.

feelsbadman · Answer

Just seems like it because most people are extroverts. Also as an introverted man myself, I'm attracted to introvert girls and I make moves sometimes. Never works 😜

dragoblack · Answer

I like introverted women. Easy to get along with and not running all over like an energetic dog. Introverted women also tend to be nerds, so plenty to get along with there.

Nikki1989 · Answer

The good guys can like that. The rest, well you don't need them anyway.

MonopolyGuy · Answer

Extrovert person is better so I can understand what she wants.!

sheikalana · Answer

My husband chose a quiet and introvert woman to marry.

Stopbrhr · Answer

I’m quiet as heck. Some guys flirt. I’ve benne asked out sometimes. I don’t always say yes. I’m cautious. But in general I get the idea men don’t really want a serious relationship with me anyway. So I don’t think any guy takes me SERIOUS.

Lokiion · Answer

Me personally I like introvert girls then again I’m introverted myself so that’s probably why

jeffend888 · Answer

Well you’re 21 so this is what you’re going to see now.  Give it 5 years or so and you’ll see how that completely flips.

Juxtapose · Answer

I prefer social women who are outgoing because they can make things happen where I won't have the same boldness.

Anonymous · Answer

Thats not true. Guys go with whoever is pretty. I've seen pretty quiet girls get attention all the time. So does the extroverts.

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