How to drift off friendship with (male friend)?

[Anonymous]

So me and him talked for a little bit and I rejected him back in July. I just felt like where he is in life isn’t really fit to be in a relationship with what I’m looking for and I rejected him and left him to the choice whether to stay along as friends or move on. He stayed along but I’m currently talking to someone else and I know our friendship can’t dwindle the way it currently is if I get into a relationship. We have never had sex but I don’t want my time going towards this friendship whenever the time comes and I eventually date somebody, I just know it wouldn’t be fair to that boyfriend. How can I slowly drift it so we aren’t constantly hanging out the way he wants?

[CaliAttorneyGuy]

He needs to move on now that he knows you’re not interested. If some day you change your mind about dating him, you can reach out to him to see if he’s still single/available and interested. Otherwise, he’s just going to keep hoping you two become more than friends.

[BoopBoopBeep]

It's real easy. You open your mouth and say no when he asks to hang out. How else would you be constantly hanging out? He shows up uninvited after following you?

[AmeerX]

Best way was to be honest from the start.

And the worst way is to act like a bitch to become unattractive to him so he backs off

[Asker]

I was honest from the start

[AmeerX]

Look honey, I know you were. Tell him it's not going to work. You are in a relationship and he is taking too much of your time. Apparently you understand the game theory by now and it's a good thing.
He wanted to be your friend to deter you from talking to your boyfriend and he succeeded handsomely.
Time is not a luxury you have. You should tell him honestly that you can't keep the friendship and it was a mistake. Can you do that at least now?

[Anonymous]

chicks , like OMG.
i wish i knew how to make decisions based on my feelers.
I use my brain instead coz i have no feelers.
Dont have an answer, sorry but i ike your style

[Asker]

I have feelings, not for him. I gave it a chance and realized I wasn’t that into him lol amazing how hurt the men in this comment section are for him. This stuff happens all the time.

[BLP11520]

Tell him you are busy, don't lie. Just find something to do where. he can't just show up. You may have to ignore or delay answering his texts, he should get the hint.

[Anonymous]

You want out there's the door dont let it hit you in your ass on your way out

[Asker]

Awww how sad you are hurt for him as if he didn’t have a choice to stop communicating with me. I’ve been more than direct about not wanting to be with him.

[Opinion Owner]

After all the times you screwed him over & cheated on him & backstabbed him

[Opinion Owner]

You're an asshole

[Asker]

We never dated

[Asker]

We were in a talking stage and I decided in July it wasn’t going to work

[Opinion Owner]

You're an asshole..

[Asker]

Nope I’m not an asshole. I’ve kept it real and he chose to stay friends with me even though I rejected him

[Anonymous]

Why not just end the friendship?

[Asker]

Because we do have a decent friendship, I just don’t want to give the guy I’m dating the wrong impression

[Opinion Owner]

Then be clear with him.

[Asker]

I was already clear with him lol he’s not my boyfriend and we are friends

[Opinion Owner]

He needs to wise up before he loses you forever.