Would average looking men have better chances with women if the internet didn’t exist?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

Great question. I do think average looking men would have better chances if the internet didn't exist.

Without the internet, women wouldn't be so picky. If they wanted a relationship or even just a hook up, they would have to pick from guys they actually met instead of scrolling through 10,000 men on-line.
And when they met men in person, they wouldn't just notice physical features. They would be able to see a man's behavior and character, which can make even a shorter and/or average looking man desirable.

Davy Jones, Al Pacino, Richard Dreyfus, Michael J. Fox, Martin Sheen, Dustin Hoffman, Robin Williams, Dudley Moore, Robert Downey Jr., Mark Ruffalo, Mike Myers, Spike Lee, Martin Lawrence, Marc Anthony, James McAvoy, Dave Franco, Jesse Eisenberg, Bob Dylan, Alan Ladd, Gene Kelly, James Cagney, George Raft, John Garfield, Douglas Fairbanks, James Dean, John Cassavetes. The list is endless. All below average height, not all of them are chizzled or particularly handsome. Granted they are all talented and became famous, but I'll bet their charisma would have shown through even when they were young and not rich or famous.

When I was growing up, I new lots of guys who were on the shorter side (5'6"-5'9") and weren't drop dead handsome by Hollywood standards. But if they had any character, charisma and confidence at all, they had attractive girlfriends/wives.

With the internet, the idea of attractiveness has gotten totally out of whack. Men wouldn't be so picky, either. I mean, how is average unattractive anyway? This thing of scoring people 1-10 based on some subjective, undefinable standard of perfection is absurd, and it didn't start before the internet. I see cute, adorable girls all the time who wouldn't be considered classic beauties. And I see supposedly gorgeous female celebrities who I don't agree are all that attractive. It's only their makeup, glamor, public personas, and promotion as icons of beauty that people are attracted to. And then there are Instagram models who play the same game. How are normal people supposed to compete?

Instead of being active, fun, ambitious, motivated and sane, women now think they have to get plastic surgery, and men think they have to be over 6' tall, have gym bods and be wealthy to be attractive. The entertainment industry, the "beauty industry", and social media have created these artificial standards.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

There's probably a lot of truth in that. The internet has probably been more beneficial for women and more detrimental for men as a whole. Because women tend to live in a fictional world to begin with. Most women today do not want the responsibility of a relationship which is why so many choose hookups and f*** buddies. These women can indulge thier fantasies from time to time and they satisfied with it. Men conversely it's more physical. Not saying that men do not have fantasies or have emotions. But men tend to display those more physically. But we have a world now where women sit at home and pet thier cat (yeah that's a double entendre😆) and indulge thier fantasies. This leaves your avg. Man (even if he is out and about and not behind a computer screen) with less options of women to pick from.

Social media has made people less social as a whole. You used to have to go out in the world and interact with people. Learn to read nonverbal communication. Etc. Now instead you can sit at home and create your own little world and sadly your own little reality. This has spilled over into our politics which is another subject that I won't get into.

YesterdaysChild · Accepted Answer

I'm sure there are way more average looking men and women on Earth than good lookers. The internet has just made things too easy to screw up, in my opinion, because you may never find the right person on dating sites like you may in real life where you can actually talk to someone and at least have a chance.

electromagnetic · Accepted Answer

Probably.
I think because it’s so easy to create this profile online of how you want people to see you or perceive you, it’s easier to maintain that lifestyle as long as it doesn’t translate into in person.
Meeting a person in public already presets expectations and there isn’t a reason to lie.

MiddleAgedClimbee · Answer

The Internet is used for a wide variety of purposes, and I wonder if some aspects of life in regards to relationships might be a little bit simpler if it weren't around. That being said, many people have found a long-term significant other through online dating sites. Perhaps if folks didn't focus on looks quite so much and focused on being healthy and kind, the dating world might be a happier place.
If the Internet were not present, I wouldn't be able to dispense this opinion🤣

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

They wouldn’t have porn killing their natural drive and women won’t have the constant validation and attention they receive from screens

and people can start living again

Hard yes. Your honor this court is adjourned!

Lynx122 · Answer

Probably but I feel like life has sucked for a lot of people at a lot of different times in history and that's just how it is. I used to think about these questions too, to find a reason why my life was not going the way I wanted. But now that I'm older and I have a lot of things in life figured out these questions seem pointless to me.

You need to keep going in a direction that will improve your life in the long term and just stay determined (keep trying even if you have days weeks or months where you can't do anything) and things will get better over time. You'll have a better understanding of yourself and life and things won't seem as dramatic or bad because you'll know how to deal with things.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Nobody needs the internet for dating. Men have been brainwashed into thinking it increases their chances. Sad!

magiusX26 · Answer

the way the mindsets are now due to the internet, even if the net were raken out of play, it would only increase the chances for average men a small amount. now if we are talking pre-internet mindset, it would increase chances by somewhere between 20 and 70 percent.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Maybe. I can see how certain sites can skew reality for both men and women.

But if they were more bold they'd likely have more success. I strike out more than Kyle Schwarber, but if you don't take at bats you won't get on base very often.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

The average guy has a girlfriend or is having sex with a woman.

The internet dating thing is typically for the best looking people to find and date each other, not for average looking dudes trying to date a beautiful woman.

shades777 · Answer

well even if there isn't internet there still gossip, newspaper, her boss, your boss, people in power at the church, her doctor, and tons of other people that hold authority and attraction in her eyes, the only thing the internet did was make everyone visible to everyone so now women will do what they always have done faster which is go for the top 15% of man of any platform,

if a man is average in person is ALWAYS the best way to convey attraction.

Chthou95 · Answer

Yes he would. Women's options wouldn't be huge and that means less attention and validation thus keeping her humble and seeing average men as suitable partners

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I think both Men and Women take to the Internet because simply they can't find Love and when they can't find Love on the Internet than they lose interest in Love altogether, yes it's a rough road for sure.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

More like if social media didn't exist or capitalize on the humans natural tendencies to be kinda narcissistic.. So not the interwebs themselves but social media. Kinda ruined human interaction..

Radiate143 · Answer

I think people would be more committed. With SM everyone is in this swipe right, uber-eats, FOMO bed-hopping flex. It's making people really callous.

catarecute · Answer

yes and if they weren't suck dicks. average men have an inferiority complex that makes bitter. its really unpleasant.

chrissykerdock · Answer

i think guys in general can find what they're looking for easier

Starrrboy · Answer

I mean, technology must've helped boosting women's ego a little bit... Can't even imagine what a female account's dms feel like 🤣🤣... but does it make THAT impact? mhmm, doubt it!..

Anonymous · Answer

It's the other way around, with the Internet and clubs I have sex more easily because it helps me find easy, alcoholic women easily.

genericname85 · Answer

i would say yes but only slightly. cause female egos are hyperinflated by male approaches in real life in much the same way.

Jersey2 · Answer

Yes. I think that is at the heart of it and now we have a baby bust.

Likes2drive · Answer

Possibly, women might not have such high standards

Anonymous · Answer

Why don't you just date average looking woman? Problem solved.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably. But also if they just got their assess off the internet.

convo_king89 · Answer

For a meet up and no sex then no, cuz of photoshop. But yes for sex as well.

Extraterrestrial1999 · Answer

How do we know that the women see the actors you mentioned, as average looking?

dolemite58 · Answer

theyd have better chances if good looking guys didn’t exist, don’t blame the internet 😂

Anonymous · Answer

Men are picky and judgmental too. Not just women.

In_Trance · Answer

probably not. I think dating history, pre internet speaks to that

msc545 · Answer

Yes, but it does, so...

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

I’d imagine so

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Yes.

GreenLanternI0I · Answer

100%

jahaims · Answer

Duh.

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