I think it would be helpful for everyone if it was before social media.
Actually the 20’s - 40’s was the best time for socializing.
Everyone worked hard, wanted to live it up, and people in certain crowds weren’t.. I don't know, “too” judgmental.
Was easy to lend a a friend a date/ double date. Easy to get to “third base.”
Everyone back then was pretty basic looking, so standards weren’t unrealistic, in a natural sense.
Guys and girls were fond and curious of each other.
ARE ANY OF YOU CURIOUS TODAY?
NONE OF YA 🤣😂
Needless to say, the gender wars make me sick.. hopefully it doesn’t go on as long as the 100 year wars, or so.
It wasn’t perfect back then, but people also did try and put efforts into their social circles back then.
In today’s day, not a lot of effort is given or readily available.
People think they “know” other people based on stereotypes. Some of those types true, and a lot are not.
Lot of generalizations made and to be fair, a lot of people DO follow the crowds in general. So those not all of those people who generalize can be put to blame.
It’s not impossible in today’s era. It’s just gonna take effort. If people are willing to put in the efforts and get new perspectives, then things can turn out for THEM personally.
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I know unattractive guys that dated hundreds of girls they met online without being rich. I am not sure what they put in their bio cause I did not read their profiles but if you don't have the top notch appearance, a free offer of dim sum or cake might get a girl who is willing to invest half an hour into meeting you for an introductory conversation. My cousin was very stunted in his professional work but he was charming and socially versatile and conveyed the impression of future upward mobility, and he never had issues finding girls willing to allow him a chance.
Social media and dating apps have created lots of “cheap thrills” that’s harmful to both men and women when it comes to dating.
One thing I’ve noticed is that many women can seemingly subside on virtual attention. They get lots of likes and comments on IG when they put up suggestive pics of themselves. Many claim it’s about “confidence”. But is it really? To me it’s insecurity and the sugar high of getting the “safe” attention online but it’s not authentic or genuine. Is that really fulfilling?
Of course plenty of idiot guys enable this crap. Onlyfans is a huge step in gross “cheap thrill” direction.
I do blame men for shooting ourselves in the foot by creating both digital technology and enabling women with their bad behavior. If men collectively stopped giving women virtual attention (which will never happen) then women would give up that crap. But it’s really our fault for setting things up this way.
In my case, I'd be dramatically more successful in a previous era. If we go back to the time of hunter gatherers, it'd be extremely easy for me because of my athleticism and such. And most of the premodern era would be pretty easy too considering weak men weeded out by war for the most part. Even if I died in war, I likely would've had at least one child before turning 20 so no worries. But I wouldve been a commander and likely wouldn't have died in battle until maybe old age. If we go back to well after Medieval times up to 50 years ago, I still would've been better off. Even just 10 years ago was still pretty good. If I had managed to get married in like 2015, I likely wouldve been fine. But I was born the right age to deal with all this nonsense now... hurray...
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No because you are still basically lacking accountability as to why you are having trouble finding people to date. Men that complain about this stuff, usually need to self improve in many aspects
I think that there is plenty of both great women and great men in the world and some…. Ehhh. Not so great
It would have made no difference, because the men who struggle with attracting women have lame personalities, are entitled, take everything too seriously and literally, don't know how to relate to others in general, and refuse to grow up.
Dude just go overseas.
Especially if you're white and American, the women overseas will flock to you especially in Eastern Europe and SE Asia. You'll live like a KING and get pussy THROWN at you. They pursue men over there, it's the exact opposite as the west. Go see for yourself.
Honestly my friend and I were talking about something like this. We talked about how life would’ve been simpler if dating apps weren’t a thing! Like what happened to going out and actually putting in the effort with someone at the bars or a restaurant or even the mall? Plus people look at social media, how many followers you got, friends, Snapchat score, everyone looks at it differently and I don’t like it.
No. before social media, there were clubs and bars and before clubs and bars, there were social events and meetings that can be dated all the way back to B. C. years. Physical attractiveness and sex appeal never changed. The way people finding other people did, but biological desires, wants and needs never did.
Nope.
Being older it was just as big a struggle or even harder before the internet.
I lived in the country, small town and the choices there were far and few between.
Then was where do you go to meet someone.
No, it is still hard, but the choices of where you get rejected are almost limitless with the internet.Yes, but you can over come that.
One give up social media cold Turkey
Two start walking up to women and start talking to them. The more you do it. The more comfortable you become.
These are the two biggest things holding you back
Statistically 90% of Women complete for the top 10% of Men. The same would be true if you were talking about within a community. The top 90% of Women would be competing for the top 10% within an area. The difference is now that 10% is part of the globe.
well for one obesity wasn't such a manor problem as it is now. Obesity also is much worse among women than it is among men. Go to any gym and you will see it is 9:1 men to women working out there. Few men approach heavy set women so it really drastically limits your dating options when only 20-30% of women are of a normal body weight
Depends on how far in history we go. Historically 2/3 of men failed to mate.
So in a way a increasing number of incels is just a return to the historical norm and a more equalised mating market due to religion or other social restraints was the anomaly.
The problem is that the ones that are successful are no longer breeding enough to compensate for it.
No, they would be less successful. Online dating is a great service for shy people. I was successful dating online for a while, entering a couple of long-term relationships, then my wife contacted me on match.
No. Losers are losers regardless of what time they were born.
Not everyone deserves a partner, and some men just shouldn't breed, let alone date.
I think so... that face to face interaction with a female does a whole lot more than just being a random guy trying to get a girl to even talk.
Not likely, but things would probably be slightly better... social media dramatizes insecurities that always existed in people. A weirdo will seem like more of a weirdo online, but it doesn't change the fact that they are still a weirdo.
Perhaps these guys would have better socal skills if they had not devoted their formative years to video games, socal media, and texting instead of talking.
Personally I don't think it would change anything for me. Whether it's fifth years ago, fifty years in the future or right now; I'd be just as hopelessly single.
Yes because women would have less to pick from and less to compare with. So the competition would be lower. Doesn't mean they would attract anyone.
I dont think it makes a difference. The girls n guys standards haven't changed since stone age. Girls get rejected for their looks, guys get rejected for their insecurities.
I lived then. People were just the same, different problems.
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