Do you consider yourself a "high value man"?

[Apple1996]

Yes I'm a high value man ⬆️

I'm just a normal value man 🤷‍♂️

No I'm a low value man ⬇️

Something else/I'm a woman/see results

[zeitgeist057]

I'm not. At least not in the mainstream GaG definition of "high value". which as far as I can tell means you are celibate (waiting for your "one), monogamous, net worth somewhere over $1M (or at least on your way, making a minimum of $150K/annum), 6'1"++, hmmm what else? I'm sure I'm missing a few parameters, but you get the idea.

But actually, I am an extremely high value person, at least according to my own values. I'm a very romantic person, and polyamorous (which is founded on my values of honesty and my perspective on the infinite nature of love). I have a strong sense of community, and am closely bonded to many amazing people. It's something I laugh about, but I joke that if I *really* want a woman to fall in love with me, I just introduce her to my family and friends. They are some of my biggest assets as a "high value man".

I'm cultured and intelligent. I've traveled the world, and actually spent significant periods of time in the countries I visited; they weren't just a 2 week tours of taking pictures and sampling cuisine. I'm adventurous: I've sailed thousands of nm, backpacked and hiked thousands of miles (backcountry and rural areas), slept in jungles, snow, and volcanos. Studied and practiced a wide variety of sports, creative arts, and analytical pursuits as well. I'm well rounded.

In fact, sometimes I find the issue I have in dating is that the other party is intimidated by me. Not through any intention of mine, but I've been told more than once that all that I do and have done is incredible. One ex had a consistent half-joke that she thought I was an undercover super spy. I don't act superior; I see the beauty and value of people who haven't experienced as much as have, but they feel intimidated all the same.

In conclusion, yes I am a high value person, but I answered "no" to the poll, because I don't think I fit the standard definition that I think was implied by the question. I am also valued and sought after by women, which I think implies value to others as well.

[Levin]

I've read a few of the responses and it's interesting a lot of men see their values in externals, suggesting a lack of value or attention given to inner cultivation.

Materially, I am doing okay, but there is nothing huge there to impress women. If our value is defined in how we impress women.

But I definitely consider myself a high value man. And value is clearly subjective with respect to what women value. Different women will value different things.

I place value in a lot of the things I have. For example, my health is largely excellent. People tell me I look at least 5-10 years younger than I am. My facial structure is fantastic. I'm extremely fit with a 6 pack. Inwardly there is a lot of cultivation and self awareness. I have a good set of morals and I am inwardly rather strong and incorruptible. Of course, I'm not perfect. But for example, I won't sleep with a woman out of some kind of weakness or cheapness. I value quality over quantity and keep standards in myself and others. I'm aware how to look after my health with alternative practices. I am an extremely sensitive and passionate lover! I have fantastic sensitivity towards women. I know how to treat with respect and value them for who they are without having to change them. I encourage them, like I encourage myself, to challenge oneself and be a better person. These are the things that a lot of other people would not value, but you can bloody well bet I do!

[Levin]

Also, according to the scientific website, howlongismyschlong, I have a member well upwards into the 90 percentile.

[coachTanthony]

It don’t get any higher than me. Let the hate begin 🤣🤣🤣

[CoolCatMar1]

🤣🤣🤣

[AnusNdaPainus]

I think we can all agree coach 🤣🤣

[Strong_Warrior]

You are insecure, beta and feminism supporter. I am sorry but you are a beta male.

[coachTanthony]

@strong_warrior you hate me cuz you ain’t me…. don’t be jelly

[AnusNdaPainus]

@Strong_Warrior don’t be hatin

[Strong_Warrior]

You are not a real man

[Strong_Warrior]

@AnusNdaPainus Its not hate but fact

[AnusNdaPainus]

@Strong_Warrior
He is talking
we are all awake
Sure feels real😂

[AnusNdaPainus]

@Strong_Warrior topshelf haterade

[coachTanthony]

@AnusNdaPainus 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Strong_Warrior]

@AnusNdaPainus are you his lawyer? Wtf happening you?

[AnusNdaPainus]

@Strong_Warrior the defense rests

[Flatmanlewis]

This is a bait term to me and straight from the world of the whiners that live in incel-land.


I have some value. I am financially quite successful, I have succeeded (and continue to operate) in high-risk/high-failure-rate field which demands high levels of mental and physical stamina. I dress well, caring much about style and fashion, and have been often accused of being smart. I drive a nice European car. I wear nice watches. I have a pretty nifty collection of passport stamps from traveling. My wife is a equally successful woman in her own field, and considered very pretty by many. I live in a large home with a pool. I have two healthy and (so far) successful children, and dogs that consistently pee outside. There’s food in my refrigerator and a well stocked bar & humidor. Not too bad. Is that high value? Probably not - but I have some value.


There are countless men in better shape then me physically, financially, or status wise. No doubt their “value” is higher than mine but in the end it’s all relative, isn’t it?

[WhiteSteve]

I don’t really like the term, just because I see it most often used by these Elliot Rodgers types, lmao.

I’d like to think a gal could do a lot worse than me. I’m a good dude, first and foremost. But to some women that may be less important than me being ambitious or something. It’s kind of too subjective of a concept, what one woman values highly may differ from another. I usually think dudes who say that think it’s all about having money, a nice residence, an expensive car, fancy clothes, etc, and they seem to be the type who view the woman as more of a trophy of accomplishment (which reeks of “I couldn’t get laid just based on who I am throughout high school/college, but now I’m monetarily successful and looking for payback on people who slighted me back in the day but probably haven’t even thought of me in years! Look how jealous they are of my hot girlfriend! I win! I WIN!!! Ahahahahaha!!!”🤦‍♂️).

If a dude is really “high value”, he probably doesn’t need to tell anyone who will listen, lmao. If that’s you, you don’t say it; the rest of us will just know it.

[Widower123]

Being a high value man is a mindset. If you believe yourself to be less than, then you're less than. You have to embrace the fact there are certain things you can't change about yourself without surgical means. You can't control your height, you can't control your dick size, you can't control your frame (bone structure). But you know what you can control? Your weight, your routine, your mental health, your social skills, your flirting skills, your intelligence (read dammit), your morals, your ethics, your pay (promote or don't be scared to go for a job that makes six figures or become an entrepreneur). I think the most important thing men (high value men do this) can do is master not being swayed by the "power of the pussy." You stop giving women all the power because of their pussy and stop trying to get laid and lower your standards or do pathetic "simp" shit for these women, then the power swings back to the man. Then you're not focusing on sex, and you can flirt better, you can hold a conversation better, you seem not interested or I should say affected by their pussy, and this makes you more desirable to women. You can also choose, have self-control, and focus your time and attention to the type of woman you deserve (or think you deserve).

[Dargil]

I am Ordinary. A problem that so many of us face is that a lack of negatives does not result in much "market demand". Honor, integrity, fidelity and duty do not show unless you get an opportunity to display it in a relationship. More often than not, Karen will say: Pfft! Guys like you are a dime a dozen. Your looks, wallet, prestige and dick are not enough for me. Then they meet up with their version of Bill Clinton and later ask: Where can I find a decent guy? Many of us eventually become VolCels because the game is simply not worth the risks and we buy Harleys, Pickup Trucks and have Labrador Retrievers as companions instead. I love women and I love sex but the price I have to pay is not worth it.

[Starrrboy]

The funniest thing is that incels keep going on and on about high value men and social hierarchy among males and they don't realize that by doing that they're basically saying " there's a guy who's way better than me and it's so unfair that women choose him instead of settling down with me " lmao 😂... everyone is just out there enjoying life and these guys are so far gone in their pity party acting like drama queens lol... a girl rejects a guy, normal guy's reaction : oh alright.. insecure man : I knew it, women are only after power and status or good looks, I need another guy to teach me how to be a man and conquer women and get them trophies 😔...

[ProbablyClueless]

I do, but I would never describe myself that way. I think the reality is that I've earned the right to be confident in who I am as a man. I've definitely achieved some rare-ish things in life, and I've been able to secure a decent income and lifestyle for myself as a result. I'd like to be able to share that with a woman who is excited to live life by my side.

The only problem with that line of thinking is that I run the risk of attracting women who are with me for status instead of who I am as a person.

[TCredo]

Interesting question - and got me to do a little Googling :) I found this definition:

"Online culture defines a high-value man as a respected, successful, likable, confident, and attractive man. A high-value man has a clear purpose in life and achieves his goals to get there. He is always learning to better himself emotionally, mentally, and physically."

And I found lots of other insights - like a long list of attributes on this site: https://theadultman.com/live-and-learn/high-value-man/

I think I have many of the attributes - including lots of confidence but not sure folks who know me would say "formidable" :)

So... I'd say I'm between your "normal" and "high" choices :)

[glennos89]

I don't consider myself high-value at all! But I do consider myself different then most guys out there...

For example...

I don't cheat in a relationship and when I'm single also don't fuck anyone just for the fun of it. I actually try to keep my body count as low as possible.

For the rest I consider myself just as valuable as any other person out there because in the end we are all human so I value everyone the same.

[Unit1]

"High value man" is a myth.

But it sounds like it used to generally refer to someone, that is rich and drives sports cars and can get gold diggers easily. Or a top 5% man. Not top 20% but 5%. Blue GAGers seem to view Andrew Tate as one of them.

[MikeTheBartender]

-Make 6 figures

-Over a mil in assets

-multi lingual

-multi passport

-over 6 inches down there

-6 pack

-can fight if need be

-artists/musician/business owner

While I do consider myself high value I also must acknowledge these are shallow things. Girls shouldn't always go for high value men. We don't always treat them the best, as I've cheated on many girlfriends, and many women I met I wanted nothing more than sex from them. So just because a man is high value, doesn't mean he's a great catch.

[Lionman95]

No though I try to improve and I try to be curious and to distance myself in terms of what I achieve and I´m able to from other guys I don´t call myself that way. I also think that guys that are "high value" are so because they are seen as of high value to others not because they think of themselves as such.

[Anonymous]

I don't agree with Coach's, as well as the incels' definition of a High value man. Someone, who makes a lot of money isn't necessarily high value. Charisma, personality, intelligence, altruistic, kindness and empathy, being a good person, having a good sense of humor and helping those in need are way more important traits in my opinion. At the end of the day, money doesn't always brings happiness and looks fade...

[ChicoFromThe305]

I would say so because I value women, which seems highly rare nowadays but Id be lying if I said I didn't have certain issues to work on as well so I guess it would depend what makes a high value man

[Apple1996]

Yess that is very rare tbh. Not many men value women

[ChicoFromThe305]

I can say my perspective on women is changing tho, at the very least Western woman

[blondfrog]

No not really. I am not here to play any societies social construct rules. You try following all these standards and you will be chasing an impossible goal and you will never be happy. If I just so happen to fit into certain categories that's just cause I am just being myself and its a coincidence.

[blondfrog]

I like soccer, mma, cooking, playing video games. I also likes to exercise but also like to eat and have been on both sides of the spectrum. I have been skinny, average, and fat before. I like guns but not to kill, animals just to target practice. I work in IT which is clearly not a masculine trait in any country. I like to do the laundry. I also believe we should have free or a way more affordable health care system. I am also not going to join either party which are both paid for and have become way to extreme with their belief's. I also practice ji-jitsu. So you can tell my traits and belief's are all over the place. Take me or leave me.

[Strong_Warrior]

Yes I am a high value man.

I am dominant

I have 107 IQ

I earn good money

I am ambitious

I am kind

I am a good person

I lift weights and take care of myself

I study in a good universty

the list goes on

[DollarBillcheapman]

Doesn't matter what the producer thinks. It's the consumer. How would women rate you anonymously? Do they trust you? Are you attractive enough that they open you sometimes? Are you extremely attractive to where they stare at you a lot, get nervous, laugh at everything you say, and blame the girl when things don't workout? If not, work on yourself. Guys don't get the luxury of waiting for them to come to you usually. If you are having a really rough time, geolocate to a place where they like you more. Go to the gym. Rack up accomplishments. There's somebody for everybody

[Sonorous]

Yes & no. It always depends on he criteria & perspective. To someone I am, to another I am not. It is highly subjective.

[larry69]

Men in today's world are generally less value than women.
Men did this to themselves by their actions.

Men with extreme good looks, athletic abilities or wealth are high value to women.

Me I believe we all put our pants on the same.

[Dat-Alpha-Lion]

Okay being blunt, I rarely ever hear this term in good faith. Mainly in the context of female incel circles like r/FemaleDatingStrategy.

[Apple1996]

I never hear it in a postivie way either lol

[Apple1996]

I'm more just asking cause I'm curious about what men think of themselves