What does it mean to be a high value man?

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What things does a high value man do? What does he not do?

Sun_Kim-Ai · Accepted Answer

For me it basically means being a good human being - be coscentious, respect others and be ready to help who needs it without expecting something in return, and overall make people around me feel valued.
Naturally, in the most popular definition "High value man" mostly focuses on the economic side of things - have a steady income, at least two or more expensive cars, an excellent career, and a big fancy house.

I admit I do have those things, but they don't make a high value man in that sense - the steady income and well paying career come from being in the board of directors of a company... the family company. So I got the position just because I'm the owner' son.
The big fancy house was of my in-laws and they gave it to us after I married their daughter - to quote a popular movie, I "married my way into that house".
The expensive cars come from the same well too.

So technically I am a "High value man" - probably only "handicapped" by the fact that I'm married - but in my eyes I actually did very little to actually deserve it.
So what do I do to be such a man? I do like I said earlier - I do my best to help others, recognize when someone is more qualified than me and cultivate them and their career, put all my efforts in doing the tasks given to me in the best possibile way, do my best to be a good and patient listener.
I hope to at least manage to be "decent" at it.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

It generally means a few things:

extremely confident
above-average looking (not necessarily "model" good looks, but fit and well groomed)
financially successful (such as, making $100K or more for at least 3 years in a row)
regularly associates with and has the respect of other high-value men
is typically either in upper management of a medium-to-large company or owns his own company, or is otherwise in a leadership position.

These are the men that most women would consider in the top 10% of all men when it comes to relationship desirability. If they're a doctor, they're probably heart or brain surgeons. If they're a lawyer, they're a partner at a major firm. They typically own a large home or a high-end apartment (if in a major city), and would have no trouble affording a week in Europe (or pretty much anywhere) every year. They tend to know exactly what they want and they go and get it. They don't take crap from anyone.

hsshannah96 · Accepted Answer

He doesn’t tell people “love yourself and then someone will love you” as if love is fucking conditional. That’s the first one. He doesn’t vape, drink, or do drugs. when he does drink it’s occasional or once or twice a week, not every single night. He doesn’t work more than 50 hours a week, so as not to become a workaholic completely absent from his family or girlfriend/wife/fiancé. He doesn’t lie and say he has a driver license when he doesn’t and then later bash his gf’s car into a tree and then blame her because he couldn’t wait for her to move the bag of fast food they got before driving. He doesn’t respond to his girlfriend’s panic attacks with “oh my god can you stop seeking attention all the time. You’re so dramatic. Get over it. Hannah you’re so obnoxious you’re always pissed about something”. He doesn’t do that. he doesn’t lie and say he is in a relationship when he’s really married. He doesn’t cheat on his wife/girlfriend. He doesn’t wear muscle tanks daily and sit on the couch and play video games. He has a job that makes a decent living. He doesn’t lie. He doesn’t live in vein. He doesn’t have contempt. He isn’t bitter constantly. He doesn’t bash others. He doesn’t shout at his girlfriend. He is NICE and respectful.

hi_it_is_me123 · Accepted Answer

"Evolutionary Psychology studies suggest that women prefer slightly older or similarly aged partners... Several recent studies have shown changes in male reproductive parameters as a result of increased age. In the current review of medical literature, we found evidence that much older men are more likely to be infertile, women with much older partners are more likely to experience problems during pregnancy, and children of much older men are more likely to have genetic abnormalities. Based on these findings, we suggest that reproducing with much older men does not represent the best reproductive option for women, which would explain the female preference for only slightly older or similarly-aged mates." -google search

So healthy (tall) masculine strong men in their 20s with low bodycount in my opinion

bamesjond0069 · Answer

High Value man:
Leader
Principled behavior
Masculine behavior
Good looks
Provider
Protector
Self control especially with emotions
Sexually skilled
Social influence/power

Low value man:
Follower
No principles
Feminine behavior
Ugly
Broke
Physically weak
No self control especially with emotions
Sexually impotent
No social standing

Essentially women choose this stuff. Im just taking my best guess here based off what I see women prefer. I've always tried to be my HV list and its gave me excellent dating results so i dont really have any doubts about it.

Adam1978 · Answer

That is really up to women isn't it. But it usually a big earner, with good looks and physics. What most women today doesn't understand is that most millionares lives a regular life and you can't see the difference between them and a normal man. It's just the people who are extremely wealthy or those who is wasting their fortune you can see with bling.

Alyssa_11 · Answer

A man who is confident in his manhood is a high value man. By this I mean a man who does NOT need to sleep around/have constant female validation to feel MAN. He is a MAN through the respect he treats women with, through the relationship he has with his family and through his career (i. e. he is a provider and doesn't want to live off a woman's money).

ODC2112 · Answer

Value of people depends by social context in which they are embedded and that context social values.
Strange but true, many social circles reward psychopaths as people of high value.

The value that I think is missing most in modern societies is the coherence between saying and doing. This determines everything else.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

A high valued man is imaginary described and defined by others.

In my opinion a high valued man is someone whose happy with himself and his true to his nature.

Doesn't pretend to be someone else to satisfy others.

He need not be a leader, a protector and all that crap.

He should just be himself and belive in his path

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Same as the high value woman thing, it’s just a load of bollox really. the person you are with is high value, you have them you are happy with them.

QuasiaRobinson · Answer

A high value man has him self together is not toxic doesn't do bad guy stuff is respectful to his girlfriend women and people in general respects him self says what needs to be said is not soft doesn't back down protects him self and his people alway stands up for him self

SecretsofKB · Answer

It is a load of crap that guess with ego and self- confidence issues use to describe a person that is more likely to find a person to date.  Giant load of crap.

Jayplays900 · Answer

Value is subjective. What one person values in someone is different than another, and so there is no universally "high value" man. There's only "high value" men depending on the person who's judging.

gamernerd · Answer

Never chases a person whom he's attracted to but instead, attracts them.

Always taking charge of things in his life.

Being a man of his words.

Respecting one another no matter who they are.

Never stops working on himself.

LightOfTruth · Answer

Why, looking for high value man because you probably don't look good enough to get one. No offense but these women are top 1% and do it as a job.

es20490446e · Answer

as simple as this: what he thinks, says and does are the same.

WowwGirl · Answer

No kids, no ex wife , no criminal record, good job, responsible, driven.

rabbitzzz · Answer

Lucky man. Because working hard doesn't always equal success.

Gangactivities911 · Answer

Physically attractive, tall, wealthy, intelligent, a bad boy but also a good person, I don't know that’s all that comes to mind.

AndrésC64 · Answer

I don't even know what that means. High value is very vague and subjective.

emperor90 · Answer

A man who respects his girl and goes above and beyond

Chthou95 · Answer

A high value man is a man that has a lot of women attracted to him, makes a lot of money and has high status

msc545 · Answer

for women, it means the man has a lot of money, and is good looking and tall.

VikingWarLord · Answer

He has a ton of $$$$$$ and a ton of HEAUXS

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