What is a high value man?

[Anonymous]

I see it everywhere online with dating. ‘High value men’

It seems like it a guy that’s a millionaire with status, tall, handsome, really fit too and then loyal funny etc… from what they say

crazy but that’s all we’re worth to women perhaps

Yep that’s what they mean

No it’s not

[Alli112]

Far as I can tell, that's a concept that pretty much only circulates in male-oriented or generally anti-feminist dating discussion spaces online. I've never once heard someone use that term in the real world, especially not a women.

It's pretty much a concept derived from the tabloid-style media representation that "rich, hot dudes get to go whatever they want". From there some angry, jealous guys jumped to "women only want men who are rich and hot", likely to help justify their anger with a sense of objectification.

Actual living breathing sane women don't talk like this (or rather, those that do are in such as small minority I couldn't even tell you where to find one). The thing to remember is that everyone has different values, priorities, and tastes in finding a partner. For example, my best friend and I have pretty much opposite taste in men, so unless we're discussing like, literal models, we often disagree on who we consider attractive.

So sure, everyone, men and women alike, would generally be happy to have a successful partner with a good personality and model-like good looks, but in general, this is not the expectations that people (men or women) are judging potential partners on and I don't suggest listening to sources that are telling you otherwise. In all likelihood they either looking to convince you to join them in their insecurity (misery loves company) or their trying to profit off your existing insecurities (those youtube videos are making revenue, don't forget).

Women aren't objectifying you, but if you buy into that crap, you probably will end up objectifying yourself.

[DishLady]

No, those are superficial values. A “high value” person (male or female) is someone who respects themselves and others, is confident, honest and mindful, showing an understanding of what their time, attention and resources are… and what the time, attention and resources of others are. A high value person knows how to give and receive affection, attention, etc. in a generous, humble, genuine way that garners the trust, loyalty and gratitude of others. There are lots of high value people who embody the dignity of the human spirit without having a lot of money or particularly good looks. A high value person simply offers class, dignity and sincerity in their daily thoughts and actions.


There are lots of examples of high value men here on g@g — I won’t pick favorites; you know who you are — and I can tell you that from among those I consider high value friends I don't know their salaries or looks, I just see their character.


(Same goes for the women.)

[Nirmroth]

Stop listenting this bs and live your life and do your thing. The world doesn't resolve around dating or even dating apps.

by the way I am neither of those things you describe as high value man. In my past rl the girl earned more and in my current my girlfriend even earns more than double than me. I dont value my manhood based on the career path I choose.

[Anonymous]

A man of character. That is it! End of list!

Some women will make the mistake of chasing the new car and fabulous prizes. But the REALITY is money comes and goes, job are gained and lost, economies rise and fall. But a man of character will remain constant! He will always fight take care of the woman he loves (as she should do for him).

[TheRealPepperPotts]

I find it interesting that so many women apparently want all these boxes ticked when it comes to the product they're buying... er, I mean, a potential partner, but they don't measure up to their own requirements... :D

I might love to own a Bugatti Veyron, but unless I have the income for it, I'm dreaming...

[Asker]

Im sorry to say but y’all suck you prove you don’t really love men for who they are

Girls are disloyal

[TheRealPepperPotts]

I might be offended at the generalization, except I know you are hurting and don't know me at all. :) It's OK, I hear that.

[Asker]

You get me though at least

But high value is literally insane they mean like so high up. It’s almost like multimillionaire isn’t enough

[TheRealPepperPotts]

With the girls, is there a possibility you might be shopping above your pay grade, too? Are they the chicks that all the guys chase (blonde hair, blue eyes, cute, tanned and relatively fit)? Because a slightly plainer girl (I don't mean fat), might possibly be more reasonable. Kind of like the good-looking guys get all the attention, so do the 8's, 9's and 10's women. Maybe check out a 6 or 7 and see if your results are the same? I'm not judging at all; everyone is attracted to pretty or handsome people. But again, how do we rate by comparison?

You're still young and this is a great time to focus on the person you want to be and your goals, instead of getting hurt by girls who don't value your potential. I'm really sorry you have been facing that kind of treatment. People can be cruel.

[Asker]

Well I like really pretty girls. But when I write down what I have going for me I am rarer than those stunning girls. But whatever I’m looking for a 8/9 out of 10. That would be perfect for me. A girl with so much following for her beauty is always going to be a shit person unless she meets a billionaire who’s way rarer than she is. There’s literally endless beautiful women in the world but they’re treated like there’s only 3% of them left

[Asker]

Blonde is nice, brunette is nice. Not a big deal for me. Both are nice.

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Something to consider, assuming you're looking for LTR. Think about ten years down the road when she's thirty-four. Does she have good health habits? Good values? Good friends and family relationships? Is she health-conscious and does she have a simple beauty and hygiene regimen? Is she working on improving herself and practicing kindness? Is she capable of investing in anything and working hard?

Extremely pretty girls often rely on their looks alone, which is why they are often not very nice and think they can have it all. They don't have to work for anything. But after about ten years, the next group of hot stuff comes in and suddenly they are scrambling because guys aren't responding to them the way they used to. That's when they suddenly snag the average guy who's been working on reaching his personal goals and building his portfolio and who's been ignored the whole time. Just a tip to keep in mind, it happens more often than you might think.

[Asker]

But those men have to settle for used material and being second best. That’s the problem. Pretty women are all around shit as they all just want more and more till they realise they can’t get more.

I hate how women always win. They always get to marry some guy and be secure enough to screw him over in the future. I’m sorry to say but I hope the tables turn one day. Women preach equality, and it’s about time they have to suffer.

With all the tik toks I see about really shallow and materialistic commands from women, women I know always like that shit you see on insta

[TheRealPepperPotts]

I hear there's a lot of that going around, although I don't hang out on Instagram. Maybe it's time to consider not making the prettiest face or the thirst trap girls your primary goal when trying to find a relationship. I'm not saying to settle for someone who isn't attractive to you. Just maybe not pursue only the 10's. There's a lot of 6's and 7's who are still very pretty. They just may not have an almost perfectly symmetrical face like Ariana Grande. You don't have to stick it out if it doesn't work, but you might be pleasantly surprised.

[Asker]

Nah a 6/7 isn’t for me. I need an 8 at least. I have a lot going for me I’m just asking for a hot girl that’s nice:

Also I would bother either the girls that thirst trap and put themselves on the market like that for guys online. Those women are always going to be horrible people deep down.

[TheRealPepperPotts]

That's awesome, man. I hope you find someone amazing! She's out there; just don't let the negative experiences get to you. Best of luck to you. <3

[Sunnysunny123]

I honestly don't get where do guys meet all these women that want a rich man, a provider, someone who always pays for her and everything that she needs. I have lived in two countries that have different coultures and toughts on life i have met a lot of people, not even one woman i know is going out with a guy that is paying for everything (her rent, nails, hair etc) everyone of them is working and paying for herself except for first dates sometimes, i really have never seen such woman except on reels and tik toks i mean i really don't get it

[Asker]

What social class are you? It might explain it, are you from an average, wealthy, poor family?

[BarryLiverstone]

Let’s assume she’s in a wealthy social class.

[Sunnysunny123]

No, i was lower/middle class most of my life because of my family, now i am middle class myself i live a comfortable life, no expensive cars or flashing money also all of my friends are the same

[DarkLegacy]

Just misandry and hypocritical millennial/zoomer nonsense. It is usually women who are of the lowest standard that think this way.

[Anonymous]

Hate to burst your bubble, kid, but it is none of those things. If you want to troll, try harder next time.

[DarkLegacy]

He is just describing what trashy women think

[NathanDavis]

it's bullshit

[Asker]

Yep 🥴

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

An online BS.