Guys, What should your partner do to make you feel “she brings a lot to the table”?

Question

I read that phrase everywhere.  What does that exactly mean for you?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It depends of course on the guy, as we are all different and have different preferences, priorities and goals in life. This is my own personal list.

Compatible priorities and goal. For me that means she is more focused on family than her career. I have no need in my life for a career driven woman. What I do need is a wife who puts her family above all else, which means being a fulltime mother and homemaker when our children are young. Children need and deserve a mother for whom they are the center of her universe. I don't want a wife who feels ok about paying someone else to raise our children five days a week just because she wants a career. She can reboot her career when our kids are old enough. I earn enough money for us to live comfortably, but not extravagantly, for the critical period in our children's lives when having a present mother is so important, so she should be less materialistic and selfish, and more family focused.
Sexual compatibility is very important to me. It's critically important in a healthy marriage. I need her to be open minded, adventurous and sexually hungry.
No promiscuous past. Call it a double standard if you want, but as a man I know instinctively that a woman with a promiscuous past is less capable of forming a solid and lasting pair bond, and science supports that.
A genuinely kind, caring, nurturing and down to earth personality, and has realistic expectations. She values the important things in life more than material things.
She's not so hung up on "equality" that she places it above pragmatism and teamwork. By teamwork I mean we each play to our strength and do the things we are best at, and be ok with her owning certain things and me owning others. I am very handy and love to build and improve my home and yard. That's my wheelhouse and I think there's nothing wrong with allowing me to focus on those things and letting her focus on the things she is better at, like making our house a home and doing more of the housework. I am a believer in the divide and conquer principle, and she should be too.
She respects and loves men and doesn't have the negative attitudes toward men and relationships that so many women have today. I have no tolerance for many of the feminist attitudes that are so prevalent now. If she is one of those women who argue that men and women are the same except for social conditioning, she doesn’t deserve a place in a good man's life.
She is a good cook and enjoys cooking and showing her love for her family that way. I am a better cook than the vast majority of women my age, and I'm fine with her not cooking as well as I do, but she better know how to cook and have no problem sharing those responsibilities on a regular basis.
She has a strong sense of commitment. So many women don't today, and that's a big reason why there are so many divorces and women initiate the vast majority of them. When she speaks our wedding vows, she should mean it. There are of course valid reasons for divorce, but I believe there are far too many and every other avenue should be explored before filing for divorce. It's very important to me that she share that attitude.
She is healthy and fit, and committed to staying that way.
She doesn’t share our relationship details and personal business with friends or family.
She dresses modestly and doesn't wear excessive makeup, big fake eyelashes, fake hair colors, fake boobs, tattoos, body piercings (ears are fine), and all those kinds of things. I want a real woman, not a fake one.
She embraces her femininity. It's important to me that she is comfortable being feminine and trusts me enough to be vulnerable with me.
No toxic behaviors.
She's loyal to a fault.
She comes from an intact family and has a healthy relationship with both her parents, especially her father. A woman's relationship with and attitudes toward her father are highly correlated with her relationship with her husband, and how likely she will be to remain loyal and committed long-term. I've seen it too many times to believe otherwise.

I know it’s a long list, but it’s not unrealistic. Most women of the past had those qualities, and many women still do today.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Because most days.. women expect a man to meet them in every way.. mentally, emotionally, physically, financially.. he has to be a man and take care of you, meaning he has to be 6 foot 2, fit with a $500,000 income at minimum… be able to protect but not be insecure to not let the woman do what she wants whenever she wants it. Man can have no boundaries, but has to be a strong man that can handle her..

While on the other end, all the woman brings is a mask of herself… face full of makeup, fake tits, fake ass, and pussy. That’s all. But has over 2k in debt, mostly credit card debt because they never had to take care of anything themselves and there only job was selling pussy pics on the internet.. and girls get mad that men have standard that women need to meet in order to be with them.

I want a woman that can bring tangible stuff to the table, is she good at bookkeeping, can she cook, can she make the house a home, even when she is working full time (and yes, that’s not too much to ask since we have to protect and do things to make your life comfortable even tho we work), can she bring organization and intelligence into my life. Is she good with my business dealings day to day. Can she help me fix things (for instance, can she help me remodeling my house, can she paint, can she do the little detailed work that’s needs to be done). Most women can’t even cook, or clean let alone do the more advanced stuff like be good with money and have an organized space.

caring__1 · Answer

First and foremost, I need to feel safe in a relationship. It has been a very rare experience for women to not eventually attempt to mold me into what they expected. If a woman doesn't like what she sees, she is free to pass on the opportunity, but she'll never be entitled to mold me like a piece of clay, no matter how much she hears "It's the woman behind the man," or "It's the woman who makes the man." I'll never attempt to hold onto a woman who doesn't like what she sees.

Show me she appreciates and values and desires me as I am, not for the potential I can become. Expect no more from a relationship than she brings to the relationship. If I can't find comfort and compatibility in a relationship, then the relationship has no value to me. Compatibility has little to do with how much we have in common but has a lot to do with not feeling threatened by any difference. I appreciate an equal partnership, not someone who feels entitled to bleed me dry.

dynamicyandere · Answer

I don’t really use that phrase, but I understand it as how does your partner contribute to the relationship.

For me, it’s not so much the tangibles (e. g. money) but rather important intangibles:
* Real Love
* Genuine Respect
* Total Loyalty
* Deep Trust
* Sincere Effort
* Emotional Support
* Consensual Submission
* Comforting Companionship
* Peace of Mind
* Great Sex (Okay, this is technically tangible. But physical touch is one of my top love languages.)

My fiancée also genuinely enjoys cooking and cleaning for me, which I appreciate, but I’d love her just the same with or without that because it’s the intangibles above that matter more to me.

aceleon · Answer

Well theoricly speaking as long as she keeps me well fed and well satisfies sexually and stays loyal i am pretty happy the most she can bring to the tablet to make me happy is bringing me other womans while she stays moogamish with me (she can fool around with those girls as long as i am a part of it call me a hypocrite i don't care also i allow her the exact same thing i want her to allow me MORE Womans) everything aside i think as long as she is a patient and kind hearted personwith same moral compassion with me i would say she gives it enough.

Lliam · Answer

I think that would mean something different to almost everybody.

For me, it would mean that we have mutual respect and regard for each other's intellect, knowledge and wisdom.
We communicate easily.
She's bright, curious and open minded.
She's feminine.
She's sexual.
She's tender, nurturing, caring and compassionate.
She adores my masculine qualities.
She's creative and hard working.
We work together toward the common goal of a happy life together.
We have common values.
She's 100% loyal, trustworthy, and dedicated to our relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Don't bring negative juju home from work and feel it necessary to share how Shannon said this and Becca said that and you hate them now.

I assure you, my day is filled with bullshit too and if I brought home all that negativity every day, you'd dread the moment I got home.

Filter out what is important and what isn't. Oh and right off the bat, just let me know whether you looking for an ear, i. e. me validate your feelings as to being totally valid, or an answee that needs to be solved.

NewgodOmega · Answer

I can answer that question but the only problem is that you Are a female and 2 things will happen
When I will say one thing as a modern feminist female the very first thing you will do is say no to that
The second thing that will happen is that being a female you won't even understand that answer
So why bother

MiddleAgedClimbee · Answer

Even if she didn't work (she does), bringing a different angle of thought, which wasn't present before we met, would be amazing! Aside from that, happiness, compatibility, and being supportive of my goals, as I am at hers are my examples.

Unit1 · Answer

Asking THIS question suffices for me. Or questions like "how can i be a good girlfriend?".

I know how asking ladies "what do you bring to the table?" puts them in a very uncomfortable position despite the intention being anything but.

YAsQuen · Answer

no gaslighting

no puttin her emotions over mine/slash logic

the least amount of lying possible

she wants 3 kids but i can get her down to 2

she wants to stay home until the youngest is 10

she can cook and bake

bonus if she can fix torn clothes

She has a green thumb

she is not a feminist (if she has no idea what feminism is sure yeah)

would prefer no uni

strongly prefer 2 -5 years younger

Masterodd · Answer

There is no "make me feel" to this age ol question... She really needs to bring tangible, hard items to the table! Not just the... (I'm pretty, or I give you sex) BS

Sevenpointfive · Answer

true love, not ordinary regular settling for someone type of love

Lover_of_big_tits · Answer

Unconditional love and being a genuine person. As long as I know you’re down for me through thick and thin, that’s all I need.

MrTuxedo · Answer

Not much to me actually. Personally, all I want from my partner is to be engaged in a relationship.

Andres77 · Answer

compatibility... a good partner of equal value.

Still-alive · Answer

Just make me feel heard, and respect my boundaries. be empathetic too.

John_Cobretti · Answer

Contribute to the marriage/relationship I guess, not necessarily financially

justabuddy · Answer

Their is no short answer to this and every situation and relationship will have different specifics. But the best I got is always being a benefit to every aspect of his life.

LiamJHayden · Answer

If she is loyal and adores me that is more than sufficient.

jahaims · Answer

If she isn't lazy and has the same morals, values and goals I'd say she brings a lot to the table.

dolemite58 · Answer

not being a cheater or crazy person is a good place to start 😂

Anonymous · Answer

Swallow. Nobody else does. Go at it for ages too.

In_Trance · Answer

Empathetic, caring, supportive and confident

msc545 · Answer

Stop complaining.

bananathunder · Answer

become a server at a restaurant...

Boysface_18 · Answer

May be kis the face

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