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Hi everyone! I am in a confusing dilemma and looking for some insight. There is this guy I know because an extend family member used to work with him. I haven’t really had a lot of interactions with this guy… the last time was when I was young. The other day he came up in a conversation with this extended member and the extender member was like oh i should hook you up with him.. I’m not quite sure if this member meant that sarcastically or in a friendly way. It’s not the first time I have thought about it though since we do have a lot in common from what I know of and have same point of view in life which is rare. My issue is he is a few years older than me and way out of my league so I feel like I don’t stand a chance. Since my extend member knows him I am worried about causing issues and looking stupid. He probably sees me as a kid which I’m not but worried that I’m out of his league and too young. I really would like this to work out since we have a lot of similarities and it’s rare to find someone with the same viewpoints as me.
Confusing dilemma?
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Just start with acceptance: you can't know what will work out, but if you want it to work out, then action is worth considering. Sometimes when you really like someone, you feel inferior to them. This happened with my girlfriend when I was your age--she's better looking than me--she's smarter than I am! But that's not how she saw it. I think you should go for it. Would it be better to know than to never know? Maybe your family member was serious. If not, will you bump into this person again otherwise? Just don't feel inferior :) no matter what happens it has nothing to do with your value.
I can understand if you don't want to bring it up. I am like you, even though I am an older man--I am anxious for things I want to work. I think here, a "meant to be" attitude is best. Maybe things are meant to be with this young man (I hope!) or maybe they are meant to be with someone out there you haven't even met. Also, for the record, if I girl I liked was awkward, I would think it was really cute, and I think the right person for you would too :)
Lol it’s just a hookup. Why thinking so much. How old are u both. Why u feel they are out of your league
@Tharithi yes I know that lol… I want it to be way more though.. we have the same values which is really rare and could see my self marrying this person if things end well… I am almost 21 and this person is 25-26ish… I am so young and this person is moved out and has everything together… and is way better looking then me even though I know this person is chill but still… I’ve seen ex’s too and I am nothing like that persons type even though I have heard multiple complaints about ex’s before… this person dose live two hours away but comes in occasionally and I don’t want things getting weird.. I still haven’t figured out if this extend member was joking or not so that’s why I’m really confused 🤷♀️
What’s their type , why don’t u fall in it
@Tharithi Their type is rich model like with tons of money and they are stunning. I am neither of those things.. I am pretty some days but i feel like i can't compete.. I have heard many bad things about those ex's though and how that person dose not like that but i am not sure i stand a chance
What ex? How do u both look. And what are the similarities
@Tharithi all of this person ex’s… this person has a type… this person is very old looking and put together and you can tell came from money… I on the other hand am almost 21 but look 14 the majority of the time even though I glam myself all up 🤷♀️
Why are u into such a old guy. Do u understand he needs to marry soon and can’t be with u. Wdym came from money how do you tell
@Tharithi yes but I’m not sure he’s quite looking for that yet… and even though I’m young I personally wanna get married soon 🤷♀️ and all of the ex’s I have heard from multiple people they come from wealthy families and they dress very rich like also.
Why are u into such a old guy
@Tharithi personally I don’t think it’s that bad of a age gap 🤷♀️ we got a lot of the same views and values which is really rare to find today and I’m looking for a good guy who’s stable not someone my age who’s just looking to have fun 🤷♀️
What value and views do u share , how do u really know about their views
@Tharithi I know about there views because the extend family member has brought it up on many occasions I am not completely sure why exactly 🤔 some examples include: political, money, education and family
you’re confused because it’s impossible right now for you to know based on the information available. thinking about it won’t help you much now. all you can do is decide your next step. generally, i think people regret more things they didn’t do than things they did in these kinds of situations. just try to talk with him when he’s around and see how it goes. i don’t know about what they family member meant, but maybe it was a little bit of both. it could have been a joke but also perhaps with truth to it—like maybe they think you would be a cute couple. just don’t overanalyze too much of it is uncomfortable. finally, your differences could but significant, or they could not
True very good point.. unfortunately this person doesn’t live here anymore and if this person is home we’d never run into each other 😕
oh i didn’t realize that. that does make it hard. can you be friends on social media?
As such a old guy he needs to have the courtesy to book weekly flights to visit u. If he’s not putting his best effort he Ain’t worth it
Why do u think they are stunning pretty , out of your league?
league? what league? you are a woman (I presume) and he is a guy. that is all there is too it. if it works it works if it doesn't it doesn't. no reason to not take a chance right. you could come to find out that he has liked you for a while and didn't want to be presumptuous
If he wants to hook you two up, mu guess is that he doesn't consider either of you out of the other's league. Plus he wants the best for both of you because he's your family and the guy's friend. Go for it.