When someone says "I love you" how do you know what love means to them?

[sage2021]

[FunkyMonkee]

I guess you have to hope it means the same that you think it does. This is part of what dating is for! You're supposed to figure each other out and decide if that's the one you wanna spend the rest of your life with BEFORE you choose to do so! That's why so many marriages only last a few months to a few years, these days! A few dates, a couple quick fucks and they want to get married right away! As soon as they do, the beast comes out of the cage and they both find out they made a big mistake rushing into it, like that!

[sage2021]

@FunkyMonkee
They really get married and divorced? It's so expensive to get a divorce!
I had mine in 1979 and it was $600 back then.

[FunkyMonkee]

Well, look at Cher, for instance. She divorced Sonny after about 10 years of marriage, then married Gene Simmons and divorced him, about a week later and married Gregg Allman, had a kid with him and got another divorce shortly after that. For all I know, she's been married 4 or 5 times! Quite a few others have done likewise. Marriage no longer means, forever, anymore. Either that or forever doesn't mean forever, anymore! Had dad lived `til mom died, they'd have been together for 60 years. His oldest brother got married at 18 and, like dad, if he'd have lived as long as his wife, he'd have been married to her for at least 82 years! Except for dad and uncle Mike, all of mom's & dad's siblings got married and stayed that way `til death! Mom's brother, Mike, got married in the early `50's, had 7 kids, broke up with her in the very late `60's and married another woman and had 2 more kids with her. Dad got married in either the late `40's or early `50's, divorced her a few years later and then married mom.

[OlderAndWiser]

You could ask, but some people can't articulate an answer very well, and some of them don't have great self-awareness. If someone loves you, then you should be able to see love their actions, the way that they treat you, and how they include you in their life.

[Bethany22]

When a guy says that when he thinks he might be able to get sex out of you when you're in the middle of making out on the couch, you know it doesn't mean a thing.

[Ju_nishi]

No idea. We judge the others based on our values. So we hope they feel the same as we feel when we love someone.

[DannyUk2017]

Well that is a diference from earth-moon, and back...
When a man says i Love you he has to show it by : Wallet, Car, Clubs/Nights out, Pampering, Villa, Fat bank Account...
When a woman says I Love you, that comes down to... Tits, Ass, pussy, ass in panties, tits in bra's, sexy pose's, teasings, etc...
Love Actually IS NOT WHAT IT WAS BEFORE... Loyality, Charisma, Promises (unbroken), etc...🤦‍♂️🤷‍♂️

[NathanDavis]

I've never doubted it at all...

because that feeling of love is one shared... it means as much to me as it means to them

[Iron_Man]

At your age, if a man says he loves you take him seriously because they’re mature and wise and have experience they knew what they want in most cases

[sage2021]

@Iron_Man
You are so right. The one thing about me that kept him with me for 7 years was because I was the only "Normal person" he knew. He'd say everyone else is crazy.
I don't do drugs or drink and I think that makes a big difference in a relationship. Once you introduce drugs and or alcohol into a relationship, that's one too many - like a third person that destroys a relationship.
He died two months ago FENTYNL killed him.

[Iron_Man]

I’m so sorry to hear that. Yes we talked about him. I’m glad you were a good influence on him.

[sage2021]

@Iron_Man
It leaves me to wonder if he didn't do drugs if we would still be together and close like we once we're. We used to laugh a lot together! Then it just stopped, and the meth took over. It got to the point where I couldn't even have a decent conversation with him anymore because he didn't understand what I was saying.
All of this happened in just a few weeks (his personality change).
Thank you for putting up with me 😎

[Iron_Man]

What about taking him to rehab back then overnight for a few weeks until he was better

[sage2021]

@Iron_Man
He had really severe ADHD this the reason he took the meth. VA doctor would give him ADHD meds because they gave speed in then. So he bought it in the streets. The problem was, he really started liking the meth and told me he didn't want to stop.
It was only these last couple of months when he decided to take more and more and more, cause that what meth does. Then you go crazy. I thought he had gone from my sweetheart to a crazy man I didn't know during the past few weeks before he died.
He's better off now. If he didn't have such a bad case of ADHD and got clean, and went back to some semblance of a normal life, that would have been different. But to go from one crazy to another, what's the use. He was tortured his whole life with the symptoms of ADHD. It's a horrible affliction to have.

[Iron_Man]

Did he have a military funeral?

[sage2021]

@Iron_Man
No. His brother had him cremated and he has his ashes with him. In January the family will have a memorial service for him sponsored through the VA.
The VA wouldn't even pay for the coroner. The family had to pay $1500 for him and the work he did on him.
I really don't think they have funerals unless the person was high rank, then maybe. But I could be wrong.

[Iron_Man]

If he was honorably discharged, he should’ve had one

[sage2021]

@Iron_Man
I think he said he had a general discharge because he had been in trouble for getting caught with pot. But I'm not sure. He did 10 years in the Navy though.

[RavVid]

You don't of course which is why you look at how they behave to you.

[RealMarek]

Only with a lot of conversation, time, and consistency.

[Jennz6]

When a guy says that he’s in love, he’s probably talking to my pussy.

[BLP11520]

You are right unfortunately

[DannyUk2017]

🤣🤣🤣... That's a Fair point! 👏👏👏😄😄😄... now this made my day...

[Jennz6]

@DannyUk2017 you think? lol

[DannyUk2017]

@Jennz6 well i don't think so..
I know so 😉🤫

[Jennz6]

@DannyUk2017 What or who are you talking to now? 💃

[DannyUk2017]

@Jennz6 no one.. just talking by myself...🚪.. i'm out

[Likes2drive]

You don’t, you have to take their word for it and their actions

[BLP11520]

Look, many people have no clue what real love is. Sacrificing thing to gain true love is evidence of sincerity and not hormones

[Anonymous]

You don't. That's why I don't care how many times she says it if she doesn't show it.

[sage2021]

What if he says it everyday and shows you, but behind your back, he's also showing another woman? How would you know then?

[bededazzle]

by their actions/love languages

[Al_Musafir]

You ask them about it.

[slatyb]

By their behavior. Talk is cheap.

[Twalli]

It varies for each person

[SotiCoto]

You don't.

[nawtee_me]

You ask them

[Slim57]

You don't