We were never serious about each other, we just dated for around 7 months.
Should I tell her about it? I do feel like there's no pint in telling her about my past about it's also making me feel like I am hiding it from her. I'm just confused.
One of my basic rules is to never discuss past relationship, whatever the reasons as to why that relationship failed, does not mean to me that you are the same person you were at that time with that person. Because I am not the same person, and whoever the new person is, they are definitely not the same person either.
It took me a long time to really understand why people told me all the time not to discuss previous relationships. Like I honestly do not care why you got divorced, all I care is about is that you are divorced now.
So yes, I tell people I have history, I was married, and I am divorced, and I have had other relationships... but none of them worked out for one reason or the other. But honestly, I have learned a lot over the years and I and because of that I am best version of myself that have ever been. But I am not the type to look back, because everything still in front of me.
So as a standard rule I do not get into the why and what of what happened, because honestly none of that has anything to do with the person you are dating now.
I have found that the ones, including myself, that get fixated on needing to feel the need to explain it all to me... are the ones that are not over it or have put it behind them... and they are just using me to justify what happened to themselves.
Its a RED FLAG. So yes, tell her you have had previous relationships, but you don't really want to get into details, because those were all different people at a different time and place and you a have grown beyond all that, and looking for something more or better.
Now for the ones that you tell that to and want all the details... be aware of those types of people, because those are ones that will use whatever you tell them against you later. So anyone that feels the needs to share all those details with me is RED FLAG, and for the ones that feel they need to know all that upfront, is a RED FLAG.
Now at some point in time, once the relationship gets to a certain level... then yeah you should be safe to put everything on the table... but too much too soon can cause more harm than good.
u 1. She will probably learn about it sooner or later. Tell her now, or let her learn about it some other way and then she can wonder why you were hiding it.
2. Did you and the guy have a sexual relationship? Be prepared for your cousin to ask you that question.
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It’s okay. Just because you dated him, he is not your property. He is free to date whoever he wants, and you don’t have to sabotage his relationship just because you once dated him.
Try to move on and live your life.
She might be really unhappy with you one day if you don't tell her, plus you have nothing to lose!
Yeah, my cousin growing up who is now my wife. Yeah, no. Her father is the is the brother of my mom, she was younger than me and I noticed that one summer when she was 15 she had really filled out especially in the breast area. We grew up together, and she grew up hot, you know. She fuckin' grew up hot and all of my friends were trying to fuck her, you know, and I wasn't... I'm not gonna let someone, you know, one of these assholes fuck my cousin. So I, you know, used the cousin thing as like... like an in with her. I'm not gonna let someone else fuck my cousin, you know? If anyone is gonna fuck my cousin it's gonna be me, out of... out of respect, you know.
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I don't think that's it important to tell, or not to.
My best buddy once got together with my earlier girl.
We only ''found out'' years later - and smiled about it.
He May Say Something. Not Sure. Nonchalantly, Mention He is a Cool One, hun. xxoo
I don't see the point, something may have already been said about it already.
You might as well. She will find out anyway and you will look bad.
No, he will conquer your family from the inside, all calculated. Your mom is next, just keep her away...
Tell her. But don't be negative about it
Yea I think it should stop b4 it gets serious
Tell her before he does. And he will.
Just get over it. Everyone has exes.
I would just leave it alone at least for now.
People can change, let them figure it out
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