I have two single female friends who've really struggled in there love life's and they always come to me for advice but never actually listen to anything I say and do the opposite. It's actually very frustrating it's as if they love the drama and to self pity deep down.
I have a great relationship with my partner and I definitely was lucky getting him he's amazing and all my friends see that and are a little jealous but it wasn't always like that I was once deemed undateble and was treated badly by a "man" too once but I had a good friend who I hated to begin with because he told me the truth and didn't hold back. I wish I knew what I know now back then but if he wanted to he would and there's no point in chasing men. Just be politely forward and if they say no move on and be proud of yourself for having the balls to say something, good men like confidence in women.
One of my friends the sweetest, most kindest girl you'd ever meet but she's a push over when it comes to men. She's a big girl and she falls in love with any f boy who pays attention and will do anything for them.
All the immigrate men take advantage of her at work and see her as easy because she's been with two of them. she's obsessed with one of these guys. She thinks they are good men but are all talking about her behide her back and have no respect for her she's just a easy English girl to them they won't take her home to the family but she won't believe any of what I say.
She's had one guy whose been stringing her along for ages his last relationship ended because he abused the girl and he's a pig around other woman but she doesn't believe it. She even took days off work to drive him to the airport. They've done things but a week later he had a girlfriend and she forgave him. She only goes after these guys because they are good looking but complains they won't date her because she's fat.
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You might not be able to help them, considering you’ve already tried and they didn’t listen. It all comes down to self respect, and right now these girls don’t respect themselves and are therefore attracting men who don’t respect them either. They sell themselves short, believing that it’s their appearance that holds them back. They fall for these guys because they don’t believe they can do better. I’m a fat girl too, but I managed to land a great guy because I respected myself enough to not settle for less. And he thinks I’m beautiful.
Your friends need to learn to love themselves before they can meet someone who will love them too.
Woah, that's messed up what your friends are going through. It's tough seeing people you care about make bad choices over and over, I get why it's frustrating.
Look, you seem like a good friend for wanting to help them out. But sometimes people gotta learn lessons the hard way, no matter how much you warn em. All you can really do is be there when they need someone to listen, without preaching at them.
For the girl obsessed with the f boys, maybe try talking to her when she's not crying over one of them. Help boost her confidence in who she is outside of relationships. Let her know she's awesome just the way she is. Hopefully she'll realize in time she doesn't need no douchebag to validate her.
As for the one falling for immigrant dudes, that's tricky - but you could gently point out patterns in how they act vs your partner treats you. Like actions speaking louder than looks. And remind her she deserves way better.
Just don't lose your cool if they don't wanna hear it. Keep being a real one, they'll come around eventually or won't, but you did your part as a mate. In the end we all gotta find our way, you know? Just do your thing and they'll see that positivity pays off.
There are some people that only learn from their own mistakes as many times as it takes. If they don't take your advice after asking then just ask if they have ever done so? Def no point in wasting your energy trying to offer suggestions