Would you pursue a serious relationship with somebody you met online who lives far enough away that it’s not possible to see them super often?

[Anonymous]

yes

no

unsure

[zeitgeist057]

Yep, I'm doing this right now and have been since October 2022. She was in MN, moved to KY. I am in CA. She has come out twice, for a little over a week, last winter and this winter, and I have gone to visit her once for three weeks last August.

We are both really big fans of our relationship, it feels good. We talk or text almost every day, though there have been some periods of up to a week where we didn't talk and only texted minimally.

For me, there are a couple factors. One is that we are poly/ENM, so it's not like we're making a decision to be with this one person and giving up all other opportunities to date anyone else. Another factor is I am very busy with work and school, so it's not like I would have a lot of time to spend with her even if we lived together or in the same place. What we are doing is working for now, and it's fun for us to talk and plan for possible futures where we are closer to each other.

[Asker]

you met on Grindr?

[zeitgeist057]

Not sure how you deduced that, but you made an error somewhere in your logical process.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I said no. For me, the whole point of talking to women at all is to give my one-eyed purple-headed yogurt-slinging snake and nice warm wet hole to shoot yogurt in.

Based AF

I'll talk to women just like I'll talk to any dude... but we're talking about pursuing a relationship that I assume is romantic in nature... and my romance needs to enable me to park the meat bus in Tuna Town.

[Thestupidusername]

No not now. If the person is planning to move or I am then sure or at least meet. But am not doing long distance relationship. Long distance friendship sure.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I’m doing this right now. We met on ChristianCafe and are both marriage minded.

[Asker]

never heard of it. what’s that like?

[Opinion Owner]

It’s a dating site that focuses a bit more on people’s religious values as a means of finding a match; meaning that a lot of the questions for your profile are faith based. It does have a few shortcomings; not many people know about it which means not as many people to talk to, and of course there are people who use it for hookups like other dating sites.

[OlderAndWiser]

Is there any reason to think that the distance problem could be resolved if you started dating and both felt strongly attracted?

[Anonymous]

Did it, and if it wasn't for the lockdowns and one thing in my private life preventing us from meeting soon enough it would have been a lasting relationship (Or possibly even marriage). So even though luck was against me it would have been phenomenal otherwise so I am definitely open to it again.

[Asker]

where did you meet him from?

[Opinion Owner]

Online Q&A website where girls and guys can ask each other questions

[Asker]

how did that happen?

[Opinion Owner]

She had posted a challenge if people could guess her preferences and personality based on a cryptic picture and I got it right. And not only did I get it right, I nailed it so well she got interested and we moved into the DM's.

[Asker]

I’m curious about the challenge. Where is the post?

[robhazelnut]

If I were ready for one, it's conceivable. A benefit of not needing sex is that words are enough.

[robhazelnut]

There's no such thing as a casual relationship.

[Jessikaah91]

Yes, moved to him have a 1 year old and pregnant again been together 3 years... :)

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

When I was 19 and desperate, perhaps. These days, no I will not pursue a girl more than 2 towns over

[DreamLife7]

I dont understand why you people on gag won't go out and meet people like a normal person? It's weird

[JesseP1nk]

How is that "serious relationship" when you dont see them "super often" I think that is contradiction

[rosemilk]

no way. waste of time too

[LiamJHayden]

No. I would not see the point.

[dudeinohio]

Nope... too far away.

[TadBehaya]

Nope.

[Anonymous]

Nope.

[Djaay]

I mean like.. WHY?