Would you be in an online relationship/long distance relationship?

Question

Why/why not?

CallMeDave · Accepted Answer

If there was no other option available, I suppose, but it's certainly not my preference. I much prefer to actually be physically with my partner.

I have high scores on both Quality Time and Physical Touch on the love languages quiz at www.5lovelanguages.com That means I need to spend a lot of time with my partner and have physical contact (not just sex, but things like cuddling and sleeping next to each other) in order to really feel good in a relationship.

Years ago, I tried a LDR twice - in one case it became LDR after we'd been together a few months because I had to move for my job and in the other case it was LDR from the beginning. Neither lasted a year. I think it's just too hard.

People with low scores on Quality Time and Physical Touch probably have a better chance of making it work, but it's not an ideal situation at all for someone like me.

Marethyu · Accepted Answer

Yes. When you're actually in love and happy with someone, then I don't see a reason why not to.
There'd be no point in replacing that person with someone you care less for, simply because you can't get physical as often.
Distance doesn't matter and won't last forever, since you'll move together at some point.
Also.. A long distance relationship actually requires tons of communication.. Since you can't meet, you'll have to talk which is the best way to get to know your partner.

Goddess_Lexii · Accepted Answer

No.
When there are no physical memories together, and there is enough distance, both individuals will eventually find it hard to maintain such a connection; the moment another special someone enters their life. This is because there are no true memories, and it’s easier to avoid confused and/or aggressive exes when they are hundreds of kilometers away.
9/10, at least 1 person will get hurt; if not both.
Maintaining long distance friendships on the other hand is really good; make international connections while you’re young, and you will open thousands of doors for yourself.

PondyPand · Accepted Answer

I have and we've been together a year and moved in with each other 😂

witherwing · Answer

No, if we hadn't met face-to-face, I wouldn't call it a relationship, more like getting to know someone.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I could if I liked them a lot and enjoyed talking to them enough that I didn't need to be in the same room as him.

Logorithim · Answer

Online? No way. LD is tough and not suitable for most people, although I am in one right now.

ImSoSquishy · Answer

i don't know how far apart you have to be for it actually to be considered long distance, but i'm assuming that if it's in the same country it's short distance? i don't really know. but i've never been in a long distance relationship, i never even thought about trying it because i just don't think it works with no physical contact such as holding hands, or hugging. besides that, depending on the country, there might be language barriers. say i meet a chinese girl at um... germany, but although we both speak cantonese, i can't speak german. so while we can still communicate, it's going to be tough for me to find a job without knowing any german, and same goes for her moving into usa, her English will be so terrible that even if she doesn't need to work being with me, she'll have a tough time to even go out to purchase things without knowing how to speak, read, or write English. and i don't want to find no chinese girl and live at china, china fucking sucks ass. i hate going back every time i had to go back to visit my dads' side of the family there lol.

TheAsianDutchy · Answer

As a rule of thumb I always say, for the right person it will always be worth it. But the issue is, we are not the best person to refer as judges whether or not this person is worth it. Because we are often blind to love and fail to see it in its entirety. This is where having family members, close friends or anyone close who knows a lot about you have a say regarding this girl, because their perspectice comes from an unbiased foundation. They aren't love blind and they care for you, so let that be a guide to i influence your judgment whether or not this is the right person.

Long distance relationship requires two commited people who are both mature enough to grow out of the teenage phase in order to prepare a very rocky, and difficult journey.

You will be taking a lot of extra miles, having to trust this person more when you can be doubtful, commited to this person even though the loneliness grows your heary cold, to make the effort even though life schedule keeps you occupied.

Again, for the right person it is worth it. But you need to seriously examine yourself, not the "do you have what it takes", but the "Are you willing to go on a journey that may end up for nothing, that may turn out the way you didn't want" because you believe that if there's a possibility, this person is worth the risk.

Platypus007 · Answer

No, reason being, is there is something internally that is happening, psychologically and emotionally, people may not be aware of... if you can’t have a relationship with this person, on life’s terms, meaning you can’t just hop on and hope off, at your convenience, with a flip of a button, and hide behind a facade behind a computer screen, where you can calculate your answers, you can say things you wouldn’t likely say, “like sexting for example” which most of the time, you wouldn’t be able to replicate verbally looking them in the eyes, because it’s artificially confidence, that boundary between both of you, is effecting your behavior, resulting is attraction that is misleading, so you are a different person online, and they are now attracted to this person you aren’t in person, plus you fill in blanks with all the best case scenarios so reality is substituted with fantasy, it’s not healthy

JulieXO · Answer

No. I don’t think online relationships count as real relationships, I mean you’ve never really met the person. I couldn’t do a long distance relationship either, even if I met the person in real life. I need to have frequent physical contact with my boyfriend.

KenM9215 · Answer

To each their own, if you can make it work more power to you.

I myself tried it years ago, and personally, I learned it was not for me. I can handle even a little bit of a drive to see a girlfriend, but for me, It couldn't be at most an hour away.

KitKnickKat · Answer

I used to be in a long distance relationship. I’ll just say, you REALLY need to be able to trust to be in one. I trusted mine, but then he left me to be with another girl that lives really close to him. It can be very hard but also it’s important to try and see eachother at some point or another

devilman666 · Answer

Yes, I am right now. I have troubles meeting local women I like and online gives me more potential to meet someone I could like. Few women in this town are my type. It does have trust issues included that I tend to dislike, so I avoided it for a few years (I had done ldr before but it left a sour taste in my mouth) till I met my current girlfriend and everything just works so well that we decided to try to make it work.

Mei95 · Answer

Right now, no.
In past years i had some long distance or online relationship but it's a totally fail...
depend on a chat to know about the other person, not coincide in times, being busy in daily life (real), feel that lack of contact and human warmth is annoying and frustrating...

Metal4life98 · Answer

NOPE! did that once and the girl was cheating on me constantly and she called me an asshole when I found out lmao but lucky for me, some dude she was dating cheated on her and she kept posting shit on Instagram saying cheating is wrong lol what a stuck up bitch. by the way, the dude that cheated on her, she was cheating on me with him!

zbivinz · Answer

I met a girl and we started dating in college, she transferred, and we did long distance for like 8 months. We saw each other every couple months but would talk on the phone nearly every day. Then she started to not make time for us, and in turn she fell for another guy who was closer to her. So no, I think I'm probably done with long distance at this point.

BRAM852000 · Answer

Yeah, I am in a long but realy long distance relationship. The moment we met it felt like we know eachother for ages. Now, we're in a relationship. I think it's perfectly possible but not forever. In August, she's comming over for 4 weeks so than we will see eachother. If it's someone you love and you wanna put effort in your relationship, it is possible.

Anonymous · Answer

My emotions drifted without being able to control them. How can I, he is an amazing man. It is not easy though. As far as I'm happy with him, I sleep every night with a broken heart knowing that there is no hope for my love. Needless to say the painful feelings of jealousy that fill me when I think how many women out there can attract him an I can do nothing to keep my man.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes of course i would. Im in a online long distance relationship. Which is one of the most far long distance relationship.(16,934 km) I know people said it's hard. Because when u got into a fight or arguing you dont know how to settle it and you never meet them. But i believe they work, no matter how far you may be from each other. It's worth it. If you two are deeply in love. Distance is not a problem. As long as you both trust and love each other, your relationship will be strong. I know you always crave to see each other but just know that one day it may come true. Put in so much effort, stay strong and hope. The only important thing is you have to pray about your relationship😊 Dont think about the negative comment.

Oldfashionedman93 · Answer

Long distance kills current relationships, the intimacy the face to face communication and the little good parts, imagine starting a relationship on the base that kills it, its like dosing a newborn infant with poison, it takes one hell of baby to make it through..

bennnnnnnnnn · Answer

Yes!! If we really loved each other, I don't see any problem. Even if she is feeling lonely and horny, I will give her hall-pass cos she is also human and have needs (not saying this so I can play around behind her). Because if she really love me, her heart will always be with me.

skeetskeetskeet · Answer

Like one that starts online or something? I had one of those for about 2 years with a girl from Sweden then eventually I met up with her in Barcelona for 3 weeks and we did nothing but clubs, drugs and sex... Then a couple months later I was going to go to sweden to see her and about 4 hours before my flight she emails me saying she couldn't see me, turned off her phone and emails and vanished..

gnome30 · Answer

For me it would depend on how long the relationship would be that way and if we shared history together. Reason is because even though the emotional connection would be there i also like the physical connection. It's one thing to hear i love an missed u and a whole other feeling when u have that physical connection with it.

KAF87 · Answer

I tried this once. It seemed like a good idea at the time. I enjoyed the attention. I ended it when I found someone closer. I think that's the underlying issue, eventually you need to meet to satisfy some of your desires. Never meeting doesn't work.

loveisbeautiful · Answer

Sure, if we connected well. I'm open minded to stuff like that. You never know where love could find you. I know it would be work but, nothing in my life isn't work. So, I'm up for the challenge especially if it feels right.

KumiNakata · Answer

I did. But turned out he just wanted my body and played with my heart.

However, when I let his actions speak for him and if I find him sincere and truthful and worth my effort to be with, I would. Because for real love, nothing but each other’s feeling matters.

Jia22 · Answer

I'm in a long distance relationship. Distance doesn't matter if you truly know your partner. I met him online and he courted me for almost 2 years. We also managed to meet our families and friends both sides. I can say, a long distance relationship is tough, that you can't be with him/her instantly if they needed you but you'll focus on how will you make him/her FEEL your love since you cannot SHOW. 😊

Afrenchgirl · Answer

If I know the guy before and we love each other, I think I could handle a long-distance relationship. But before doing it, you have to be sure of your feelings and you have to have good communication.

Elaine_17 · Answer

After doing it for awhile on multiple occasions, I don't want to do it anymore. I'd rather see someone face to face because it's more intimate that way.

toidle72 · Answer

i wouldn't like a long-distance relationship. i'm a bit needy when it comes to affection and if i'm not around someone be much i kinda "forget" why i like them.

AbdKilani · Answer

I see many broken hearts here 💔💔💔
My first one was perfect, but it was all lies ( from here part)
Second one, i hoped it work, but didn't.
Thank you G@G for those
Third, maybe i am human ane repeat my mistakes in the name of love

MistQueen23 · Answer

I think if it's really the right person it can work out!

jimyee · Answer

No, i need physical contact. Not necessarily sex but just their physical presence. I want to be able to look them in the eye while talking and video chat doesn't count.

Daechir · Answer

I would. Love can be found in many places, taking many forms. Having someone you care about is beautiful. Using the world wide web, you can connect on a personal level, an emotional and intellectual level. Is that not the best part of a relationship?

tartaarsaus · Answer

Only if there is the prospect of getting together in real life in a relatively short time, otherwise nope. There are just too many problems with the very nature of a long distance relationship

OhnoRKagain · Answer

Yes, absolutely. I'm headed to school across the country and i know that people say it never works out but if you don't at least try then you shouldn't be together.

Mi2mi2a · Answer

If we hadn't already buit a strong foundation before starting the long distance or online relationship then no.

TuMeManques · Answer

Yes because if you really love someone you do whatever it takes to make it are ork. I wouldn't seek one out though because they are crazy hard at times.

Sarisalive · Answer

If it's meant to be (the relationship) then yes. Distance doesn't tear love between two people apart.

Legendary_Shark · Answer

Don't want to be in any relationship but online would be better, less troublesome, less tiring and can be maintained with less efforts.

lourdesfrance · Answer

Ldr, yes. Online relationship, no. It works for some people, but I just think it helps to know and to be close to the person you're dating.

DonRomeo · Answer

Yeah, and have been. So long as there's commitment to meet, its sexual, and ideally Im allowed to hook up with other people closer by

Nemesis78 · Answer

I would talk to someone online but I'd never consider them a girlfriend. I would just talk to them because I want to talk to people.

EM9389 · Answer

i tried it for about a month, didn't work out as all online long distance relationships go.

psychoticallyawkward · Answer

No cause I couldn't handle it mentally or emotionally.

Anonymous · Answer

No. I would rather not invest so much time and energy into something that isn’t tangible. The prospect of dating my phone or laptop isn’t very exciting or appealing to me.

Kayla45 · Answer

Nope, the risk of cheating is too great in my opinion

sawno · Answer

Absolutely open to it as long as there is a viable plan for a local future.

BlueStorm89 · Answer

I think I would if I met them before the moved for went of somewhere, but if I met them off the internet no.

Jboogey · Answer

Yes, I'm completely in love with this girl in Oregon, but Until I know she is ready... I can't do anything... Women choose their husbands.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm supposedly in one, and I don't know if it's going to work out. Besides the distance we have a racial issue.

Goddess_Gag18 · Answer

hahaha Someone then would have to work as hard as I would.

DanielOfTheNorth · Answer

Yes. And so far that is what all of my relationships have been so far

CandacePerry · Answer

I met my current boyfriend on facebook. I did virtual dating before I met anyone.

sjoes006 · Answer

No because it takes away from actual human connection in my opinion

ecfresh · Answer

LDR, at least that's a real relationship with a real person.

ShawnK521 · Answer

If I could meet them in person then had to continue online/ long distance for some reason. Then sure. But I can't talk to someone online continually.

neesa · Answer

No because there's only so much you can do in an LDR it's more exhausting then anything

The_FallenOne · Answer

Totally, but I would have to break it if they had no plans of moving to the country I was in.

aceexp · Answer

No, I can't do it. Tried it, ended badly. Face to face is really important to me

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't recommend it at all as someone who's experience this. Once someone in the real world, close to them comes along your nothing to them anymore.

Eighty-five · Answer

I wouldn't *choose* it, and those sorts of things need consistent feedback if they're going to mean anything. The worst part of any LDR is random long periods of radio silence where your mind drops to the worst case scenario.

Mahmoud0JN · Answer

Yeah, it's possible to love someone through internet, and it might workout as it's hard but if you both stay faithful and loyal, it so workout no way!

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