Would you be in an online relationship/long distance relationship?

Why/why not?

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  • If there was no other option available, I suppose, but it's certainly not my preference. I much prefer to actually be physically with my partner.

    I have high scores on both Quality Time and Physical Touch on the love languages quiz at www.5lovelanguages.com That means I need to spend a lot of time with my partner and have physical contact (not just sex, but things like cuddling and sleeping next to each other) in order to really feel good in a relationship.

    Years ago, I tried a LDR twice - in one case it became LDR after we'd been together a few months because I had to move for my job and in the other case it was LDR from the beginning. Neither lasted a year. I think it's just too hard.

    People with low scores on Quality Time and Physical Touch probably have a better chance of making it work, but it's not an ideal situation at all for someone like me.

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  • Yes. When you're actually in love and happy with someone, then I don't see a reason why not to.
    There'd be no point in replacing that person with someone you care less for, simply because you can't get physical as often.
    Distance doesn't matter and won't last forever, since you'll move together at some point.
    Also.. A long distance relationship actually requires tons of communication.. Since you can't meet, you'll have to talk which is the best way to get to know your partner.

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    • A little fact about me.. I'm in one right now with a girl from Japan (3 1/2 years already).
      My flight goes tomorrow ;P

    • Awww have a safe flight!! And enjoy your time :)

    • Thank you very much :)
      We already have some nice trips planned but even without that I'd have enough to look forward to.
      I just hope that I can catch some sleep on the plane.. It's gonna be looong flight otherwise.

      Regarding your initial question.. Feel free to ask me if there is anything more you'd like to know.

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  • No.
    When there are no physical memories together, and there is enough distance, both individuals will eventually find it hard to maintain such a connection; the moment another special someone enters their life. This is because there are no true memories, and it’s easier to avoid confused and/or aggressive exes when they are hundreds of kilometers away.
    9/10, at least 1 person will get hurt; if not both.
    Maintaining long distance friendships on the other hand is really good; make international connections while you’re young, and you will open thousands of doors for yourself.

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  • I have and we've been together a year and moved in with each other 😂

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    • How did you meet? Details! Lol

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    • Awwww was it hard for you guys to keep in contact long distance?

    • Met on there, talked for a few months on there and then the eventual visits, the dude came to me bless him, and then the dude asked me to move down and I said yes haha

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  • Online? No way. LD is tough and not suitable for most people, although I am in one right now.

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  • As a rule of thumb I always say, for the right person it will always be worth it. But the issue is, we are not the best person to refer as judges whether or not this person is worth it. Because we are often blind to love and fail to see it in its entirety. This is where having family members, close friends or anyone close who knows a lot about you have a say regarding this girl, because their perspectice comes from an unbiased foundation. They aren't love blind and they care for you, so let that be a guide to i influence your judgment whether or not this is the right person.

    Long distance relationship requires two commited people who are both mature enough to grow out of the teenage phase in order to prepare a very rocky, and difficult journey.

    You will be taking a lot of extra miles, having to trust this person more when you can be doubtful, commited to this person even though the loneliness grows your heary cold, to make the effort even though life schedule keeps you occupied.

    Again, for the right person it is worth it. But you need to seriously examine yourself, not the "do you have what it takes", but the "Are you willing to go on a journey that may end up for nothing, that may turn out the way you didn't want" because you believe that if there's a possibility, this person is worth the risk.

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  • i don't know how far apart you have to be for it actually to be considered long distance, but i'm assuming that if it's in the same country it's short distance? i don't really know. but i've never been in a long distance relationship, i never even thought about trying it because i just don't think it works with no physical contact such as holding hands, or hugging. besides that, depending on the country, there might be language barriers. say i meet a chinese girl at um... germany, but although we both speak cantonese, i can't speak german. so while we can still communicate, it's going to be tough for me to find a job without knowing any german, and same goes for her moving into usa, her English will be so terrible that even if she doesn't need to work being with me, she'll have a tough time to even go out to purchase things without knowing how to speak, read, or write English. and i don't want to find no chinese girl and live at china, china fucking sucks ass. i hate going back every time i had to go back to visit my dads' side of the family there lol.

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  • Yes, I am right now. I have troubles meeting local women I like and online gives me more potential to meet someone I could like. Few women in this town are my type. It does have trust issues included that I tend to dislike, so I avoided it for a few years (I had done ldr before but it left a sour taste in my mouth) till I met my current girlfriend and everything just works so well that we decided to try to make it work.

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  • To each their own, if you can make it work more power to you.

    I myself tried it years ago, and personally, I learned it was not for me. I can handle even a little bit of a drive to see a girlfriend, but for me, It couldn't be at most an hour away.

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  • I met a girl and we started dating in college, she transferred, and we did long distance for like 8 months. We saw each other every couple months but would talk on the phone nearly every day. Then she started to not make time for us, and in turn she fell for another guy who was closer to her. So no, I think I'm probably done with long distance at this point.

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  • Long distance kills current relationships, the intimacy the face to face communication and the little good parts, imagine starting a relationship on the base that kills it, its like dosing a newborn infant with poison, it takes one hell of baby to make it through..

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  • I tried this once. It seemed like a good idea at the time. I enjoyed the attention. I ended it when I found someone closer. I think that's the underlying issue, eventually you need to meet to satisfy some of your desires. Never meeting doesn't work.

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  • NOPE! did that once and the girl was cheating on me constantly and she called me an asshole when I found out lmao but lucky for me, some dude she was dating cheated on her and she kept posting shit on Instagram saying cheating is wrong lol what a stuck up bitch. by the way, the dude that cheated on her, she was cheating on me with him!

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  • I would. Love can be found in many places, taking many forms. Having someone you care about is beautiful. Using the world wide web, you can connect on a personal level, an emotional and intellectual level. Is that not the best part of a relationship?

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  • Yeah, I am in a long but realy long distance relationship. The moment we met it felt like we know eachother for ages. Now, we're in a relationship. I think it's perfectly possible but not forever. In August, she's comming over for 4 weeks so than we will see eachother. If it's someone you love and you wanna put effort in your relationship, it is possible.

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  • Yes!! If we really loved each other, I don't see any problem. Even if she is feeling lonely and horny, I will give her hall-pass cos she is also human and have needs (not saying this so I can play around behind her). Because if she really love me, her heart will always be with me.

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  • I see many broken hearts here 💔💔💔
    My first one was perfect, but it was all lies ( from here part)
    Second one, i hoped it work, but didn't.
    Thank you G@G for those
    Third, maybe i am human ane repeat my mistakes in the name of love

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  • Like one that starts online or something? I had one of those for about 2 years with a girl from Sweden then eventually I met up with her in Barcelona for 3 weeks and we did nothing but clubs, drugs and sex... Then a couple months later I was going to go to sweden to see her and about 4 hours before my flight she emails me saying she couldn't see me, turned off her phone and emails and vanished..

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  • For me it would depend on how long the relationship would be that way and if we shared history together. Reason is because even though the emotional connection would be there i also like the physical connection. It's one thing to hear i love an missed u and a whole other feeling when u have that physical connection with it.

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  • I wouldn't *choose* it, and those sorts of things need consistent feedback if they're going to mean anything. The worst part of any LDR is random long periods of radio silence where your mind drops to the worst case scenario.

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    • To add to that, concrete plans to close that distance might actually work wonders by virtue of making the whole ordeal more "real".

  • No, i need physical contact. Not necessarily sex but just their physical presence. I want to be able to look them in the eye while talking and video chat doesn't count.

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  • Only if there is the prospect of getting together in real life in a relatively short time, otherwise nope. There are just too many problems with the very nature of a long distance relationship

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  • Yes, absolutely. I'm headed to school across the country and i know that people say it never works out but if you don't at least try then you shouldn't be together.

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  • Yes. And so far that is what all of my relationships have been so far

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  • No, if we hadn't met face-to-face, I wouldn't call it a relationship, more like getting to know someone.

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  • I could if I liked them a lot and enjoyed talking to them enough that I didn't need to be in the same room as him.

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  • Right now, no.
    In past years i had some long distance or online relationship but it's a totally fail...
    depend on a chat to know about the other person, not coincide in times, being busy in daily life (real), feel that lack of contact and human warmth is annoying and frustrating...

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  • I used to be in a long distance relationship. I’ll just say, you REALLY need to be able to trust to be in one. I trusted mine, but then he left me to be with another girl that lives really close to him. It can be very hard but also it’s important to try and see eachother at some point or another

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  • No. I don’t think online relationships count as real relationships, I mean you’ve never really met the person. I couldn’t do a long distance relationship either, even if I met the person in real life. I need to have frequent physical contact with my boyfriend.

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  • Sure, if we connected well. I'm open minded to stuff like that. You never know where love could find you. I know it would be work but, nothing in my life isn't work. So, I'm up for the challenge especially if it feels right.

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  • I did. But turned out he just wanted my body and played with my heart.

    However, when I let his actions speak for him and if I find him sincere and truthful and worth my effort to be with, I would. Because for real love, nothing but each other’s feeling matters.

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  • I'm in a long distance relationship. Distance doesn't matter if you truly know your partner. I met him online and he courted me for almost 2 years. We also managed to meet our families and friends both sides. I can say, a long distance relationship is tough, that you can't be with him/her instantly if they needed you but you'll focus on how will you make him/her FEEL your love since you cannot SHOW. 😊

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  • If I know the guy before and we love each other, I think I could handle a long-distance relationship. But before doing it, you have to be sure of your feelings and you have to have good communication.

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  • After doing it for awhile on multiple occasions, I don't want to do it anymore. I'd rather see someone face to face because it's more intimate that way.

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  • Ldr, yes. Online relationship, no.

    It works for some people, but I just think it helps to know and to be close to the person you're dating.

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  • I think if it's really the right person it can work out!

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  • i wouldn't like a long-distance relationship.
    i'm a bit needy when it comes to affection and if i'm not around someone be much i kinda "forget" why i like them.

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  • Been there. Done that and never doing it again. Online relationship is not a real relationship

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  • Yes because if you really love someone you do whatever it takes to make it are ork. I wouldn't seek one out though because they are crazy hard at times.

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  • No because it takes away from actual human connection in my opinion

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  • No cause I couldn't handle it mentally or emotionally.

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  • If we hadn't already buit a strong foundation before starting the long distance or online relationship then no.

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    • Well... what's a strong foundation, you mean here?
      It's more like two strangers not knowing others emotions or feelings. It will be helpful if you could explain about it.

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    • Any idea.. on how to get friends in a new city... tried Tinder.. but I guess it's more like hook up app... waste of time

    • @frndlee I guess you start with the people closer to you, it's just like buikding friendships in your original just all over again.

  • See yes and no. it depends what kind of connection me and that person has and how long they live away from me

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  • They are painful and unnecessary drama. I tried contacting the guy again and he didn’t remember me. We called on the phone a lot. An emotionally abusive bastard

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