I’m so anxious to know why would a guy want to know when I was last intimate with someone…?

[Anonymous]

I know it’s not their business but what made them want to know? Are they insecure or do they not take you serious, do they see you as a whore?…

I don’t understand

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, why's this guy grilling you about your past like that? That's seriously none of his business.

Honestly it does usually come from insecurity if a guy is so concerned about when you were with someone else. Like he's worried you'll compare him to past guys or something dumb.

Or it could be a weird jealousy or possessive thing. Like he feels the need to know private details to feel in control. Which is super lame behavior.

I wouldn't tell him anything if I was you. Just say your past is your past and what matters is how you feel now. Guys who make a big deal about that stuff are almost always way more insecure in themselves than they let on.

You don't deserve to have someone make you feel bad or weird about normal intimacy stuff either. He should like you for who you are now, not demand details from before you even knew him.

Try not to stress - his issues have nothing to do with you! You seem like a really cool girl. Any dude would be lucky to have you, so don't settle for insecure dudes putting you down.

[Billlewis]

That's what I always want to know about a woman, more than anything else, because I find it very exciting if she's just recently had intercourse with another guy.

[Asker]

Why do you find it exciting?

I just don’t think a guy who is genuinely interested in getting to know you will ask you that

[Billlewis]

I know I'm a little bit different than a lot of guys, but I think it's super hot when a woman leads a fairly active social and sexual life. In fact I'd be somewhat put off if she says she hasn't had sex for a long time, a long time being more than a few months or so.

[Anonymous]

Women ask it as well, so I think it’s just a universal question people being up when getting to know someone in a non-platonic way.