Why would a Guy ask when the last time I had sex was?

[LovelyBones13]

Coworker. I had a crush on him. He had/has a girlfriend so i never expressed it. We became friends, good friends. Now i am a bit oppenly crushing on a new single coworker. He teases me with that. Says he smells the pheromones.
Now today we were working, talking, joking etc. He said at one point blunt and with nothing related to the previous subject (i was saying i dont like to be told i am not good at something at the job) and then he asked; how long had it been since you had sex?
I couldnt reply and he didn't mentioned it later on

[Jan_Classic]

Apparently, the question is not polite and should not be answered under any circumstances. Such the private things people use to share with best friends, normally same gender. Once I answered such the question to a woman like "I can't remember". Then nothing serious happened and in a few days we broke up without even a night together and she claimed "that's why you'd never have sex any more". Tho I had no problems with that actually.

[LovelyBones13]

But why would aguy who has agf and is Friends with me and teases me slot about my new crush act like this? Or is he jealous?

[Jan_Classic]

That's a part of a terrible polygamous behavior most of the guys show. I must admit, I am behaving that way too often. And the worst thing is that near a half of ladies like that.

[LovelyBones13]

So he wants me for himself? So he is jealous?

[Jan_Classic]

I may uncover the worst men's secret, all the men would want you for themselves. When you are young, beautiful etc.

[LovelyBones13]

I am 6'1(185cm) about 110lbs (50kg) so tall Skinny and with blonde collarbone lenght hair and Grey eyes and i am super witty with cute/angelic looking face
So i am a trophy?

[Jan_Classic]

The shape is good. May be =D. The bad thing is I cannot really tell you if the guy is worth the efforts.

[LovelyBones13]

Thanks :D
The Guy is 6'5(195) and around 165-175 lbs (75 or Mor kg) black Hair dark eyes atheletic smart (sometimes) funny confident and smooth but also bit of a dumb weirdly sometimes. He isn't worth my romantic feelings so thats why i am not crushing on him but he is Nice so thats why i like him as a friend and we are friends

[Jan_Classic]

Well it's not easy to say about his quality based on his appearance. I'd say "watch at his clothes and watch at his watches". Even the Iphone is so broadly used, It wouldn't say the person is successful. But if he has some real croc leather or Rolex watch = that's cool.

[LovelyBones13]

Well he is good looking but he such An goofball and a bit quirky and arrogant do thats why i turned off om him

[Jan_Classic]

The main rule is: the man is so into you, as the % of his income he spends on you. So if he still has not spend a penny on you (a gift, maybe a breakfast in your office, flowers etc.) - this is just not serious. Well It could also count if he would fix your laptop, your car or your garden chair.

[LovelyBones13]

I am very independent and whenever i forget my food i am like no thanks i dont your money i Just what cafetaria free food (wich is the worst) or when i dont have money to take the bus i Just walk rather then accept money. From him or anybody. But he did over me moment sometimes in situations as stated but i refuse so yeah

[Jan_Classic]

Well a little gift for a holiday, a little help with coffee. It does not really make anybody bankrupt, but the fact that somebody makes an effort is a sign. And like helping you with work or with your home or with anything you have problems. If he does not make any efforts and whines by the telephone, well, that's just nothing serious.

[bloodmountain1990]

I don't know I've had a girl do it to me on the first date upon asking other personal shit like number of partners, favorite style of oral, etc and I'm thinking WTF! none of your fucking business.

All I need to know is that they're clean, loyal, and don't have kids.

[LovelyBones13]

Have you Read the whole thing?

[bloodmountain1990]

yes and that's still inappropriate for him to ask

[MaiaLikesAnime]

His name is Jesus. He must judge your sins. On judgement day you will be divided into sheep's and goat's. The sheep will ascend to Heaven to live with God and the goats will be condemned to Hell.

[LexiR1992]

Maybe he likes you, but he should not have said it around other people

[LovelyBones13]

And he has a girlfriend

[GingerGuy]

Some people have no "filters" and will talk about anything with anyone (then wonder why bad things happen to them lol). I'm guessing he's just one of these people? But only he could answer this.

[LovelyBones13]

He also blabbers about his drug use and stuff around work so i guess so

[Dxk007]

Well, I can't think of a reason but, I assume that, he's trying to make a move and, you should keep your guard on.
It could be just asking as a part of a conversation and maybe, doesn't realise that he shouldn't be asking something that private.

[LovelyBones13]

Yeah but he has agf do thats why i think is Oss that my sexlife or dating is so interesting

[Dxk007]

Well, maybe you keep it hidden and, he's kinda curious to know.
Maybe, his relationship isn't going well.

[LovelyBones13]

Yeah of the conversation drift towards sec i shrugg and dont really respond because i dont wanna talk about my sexlife in a public work Place you knoww

[Dxk007]

Yeah, everyone should respect another person's privacy. Maybe, you should have a comeback line if, he does that again.

[LovelyBones13]

I usally say (in a non work environment) when a Guy asks me a sexual question; so you wanna know about my sexlife? Wanna be a part of it?
But thats not appropiate at work

[Dxk007]

Well, you can say, it's less than the sick leaves you take.😅😅
Or maybe, can't count that on my fingers. Or, anything like that.
Maybe, ask him a personal question so that, he hesitates answering.

[Shahbaz117]

Ok first of all I'm a scientist band he's full of shit, that's not how pheromones work the fuckin eejit.

It's a dumbass question asked by dumbasses that's rooted in individual insecurity and/or power play.

[UltraGamer]

Sounds very flirty but since he didn't bring it up later on here may feel the he might of hit a sensitive topic and backed off from it. But I wouldn't worry about it.

[LovelyBones13]

He often mentions his sexlife and i act like yeah sure because i am not gonna share that

[UltraGamer]

Well how does he mention it? Like does he mention past relationships or does he talk about experiences?

[LovelyBones13]

Both
Me; i like the movie the revenant
He; yeah i started to watch it once with a girlfriend but never finished it
Me; why?
He; oh we started to fuck i think
Me;...

[UltraGamer]

Oh well then, I mean both isn't too bad but do you get hurt any when he talks about his ex's

[LovelyBones13]

First kinda but now that i dont really like him romanticly anymore i am like who are you trying to impress ya wanna be stud

[UltraGamer]

Welp he got friend zoned c:

[Manlymillennial54]

He's obviously comfortable enough to ask you.
Don't be offended. He considers you a close acquaintance and enjoys teasing you.
Typical big brother behavior.

[LovelyBones13]

Haha i thought so this morning thats it so strange that i really liked him romanticly and now i see him very Brother like. But its not flirting or something? Or him being jealous of my new crush?

[Manlymillennial54]

You already said he has a girlfriend though.

That tells me that he doesn't see you romantically.

[LovelyBones13]

Lust?

[Manlymillennial54]

There's something you ladies never understand about men.

Not every man wants you sexually.

[Chaz269]

He might feel like your interest in him, and then the new guy, is a sign of sexual desperation. Or maybe he's just one of those people who can talk about anything with anyone.

[random56286]

He wants to let you know he is a controlling type of person

[LovelyBones13]

So he is jealous of my new crush?

[random56286]

That is what I read. If he wants to know about you, he would have asked about you. Since he asked where you're been, he wants to know everywhere you go.

[random56286]

Not unless he has already offered his history to you

[LovelyBones13]

He sometimes mentions stuff about his sexlife without warning or relation to the topic

[random56286]

That could be a mutual point of trust between you if he is willing to share. I would be happy to discuss this myself but I would never ask.

[spartan55]

Very inappropriate for him to ask you, in any context. Tell him nunyas.

[Karnak09]

If your answer is "since a long time" he would be able to answer that he can help you with it

[LovelyBones13]

He has a girlfriend

[Karnak09]

From your experience, is having a girlfriend stopping some guys to look for sex with other women?

[LovelyBones13]

Nope especially since he flirts with me aswell. Is he jealous if my new crush that i express more? That he is losing my attention a bit?

[Raajk1995]

Maybe he said it by mistake or maybe he found or feel some kind of sex appeals from your gesture or any other

[LovelyBones13]

Is he attracted then?

[Raajk1995]

Well does he ever showed to you that he is jealous or attracted to you ever you noticed any change in his gesture while you tell him about your new crush or ever have you told he was your crush before new one

[LovelyBones13]

haven't told him but some say it was obvious. We spent a lot of time together and of we have to work together he would sometimes just waiti till i went to the rest room so he could go because he didn't leave me out of his sight and if i be talking to another male coworker he would be like"attention back to me" and he would flirt on occasion with me and i was always hesitant because of his girlfriend

[Raajk1995]

Well did you ever met his girlfriend did you ever talked to that girl did he ever let you to listen there conversation

[LovelyBones13]

No i only see this Guy at work

[Raajk1995]

Well if you also never found him talking to her so maybe he is attracted to you and made some sort of stories for being a stud between other boys (boy with girlfriend then other)

[LovelyBones13]

He sometimes would be talking like yeah i a big fan of monogamy... Lets het drunk i wanna see you drunk

[Raajk1995]

He wants spend some more time with you i guess that's why he trying to take you out hope went out with him to know more

[Raajk1995]

About him

[LovelyBones13]

So he wants sex with me?

[Raajk1995]

According to the things you are telling it shows that some how he is trying to show you that he want to have but all time i guess he shows it as a joke never being serious so maybe his intention is to have sex with you or may be he wants more from you or maybe its just his nature to do flirt with girls if she attracted to him it would be great for him if not he is getting his entertainment by teasing you with these things

[LovelyBones13]

Guys are weird

[Raajk1995]

Yes we boys are weird cause everyone has different perception some love girls some fuck girls and some tease girls some rape girls some beat girls some are more cruel so always be careful with things and try to love those who are true lover never fall for wrong guy

[Raajk1995]

Well i hope you had got your answer take care

[Raajk1995]

Sorry if my last message (we boys are weird) hurt you not intentionally want to say but its true

[LovelyBones13]

No not at all :)

[Raajk1995]

I hope you got your answer for which you are awake till now

[LovelyBones13]

Currently at work and Bored ;)

[Raajk1995]

Sorry haven't read the reply may i help you to avoid boredom☺

[Raajk1995]

Looks like my reply irritates you sorry for irritating😑

[LovelyBones13]

No not at all! I Just turned my attention away from this site so sorry! Message me if you want!

[Raajk1995]

Sure and thanks

[important_nihilist]

There's no way anyone can give you a qualified answer to why. It could be part of the teasing you mentioned, it could be something else. Ask him.

[readywriter]

because he has no manners? Because he is a bore? Because he hasn't had sex.

[LovelyBones13]

He has a girlfriend

[nerdEboi]

It seems like he's just an attention slut to be honest.

[johnboymuscles]

Maybe you're coming across as desperate and in need of D.

[LovelyBones13]

Because i crush on someone?

[johnboymuscles]

I don't know I'm not there. It might be the vibe you give off. The only time i would ask is if you was giving off major vibes or i wanted to have sex with you and cut all the crap in the middle out. Straight to the point.

[johnboymuscles]

But for me to think thr latter to work you'd have to be giving off vibes anyway

[LovelyBones13]

Vibes like sleep with me or anyone sleep with me please?

[johnboymuscles]

How am i supposed to know what vibes you give off via the internet?

[kdhingra307]

To start adult talks or might be hint toward friends with benefits

[LovelyBones13]

Have you Read what i wrote above? Why would he say that in the middle of work with coworkers around us etc

[kdhingra307]

Lol, read again

No where u mentioned about co-workers xD

[LovelyBones13]

General at work there are coworkers

[kdhingra307]

Maybe he thinks u are desperate.

[LovelyBones13]

Whoohoo

[kdhingra307]

Basically this is the logical conclusion from this data only.

If u can give more information, may be able to help you better

[EnigmaticLament]

If you have a crush on him why wouldn't you respond to his clues and leave some for him. Do that before he start thinking you are totally not into him

[LovelyBones13]

He has agf like stated above. And he talks very living about her. So thats why i dont act on my feelings

[EnigmaticLament]

You said single coworker

[LovelyBones13]

The one i am currently crushing on i am flirting with a lot and we are texting etc a lot so thats going okay

[EnigmaticLament]

Cool!!

[LovelyBones13]

Yeah buty former crush/current friend is teasing me with my crush and alles me when the last time i had sex was

[EnigmaticLament]

Sorry didn't get you 😁

[Nice222]

He probably hasn’t got any from his girlfriend in awhile and was wondering if you both haven’t had any. Suffering together.

[Zoufie]

Bc elegant guys don't like girls who've had sex with many people

[zagor]

And elegant guys don't ask girls that question.

[LovelyBones13]

But we are Friends and he has a girlfriend

[Zoufie]

Then he was probably just you know talking about stuff as a Friend!

[LovelyBones13]

Yeah i never really had Guy Friends so i dont know

[Zoufie]

Why don't you ask him why did he ask you that question?

[LovelyBones13]

Because we were working and im not gonna discuss my sex life in the middle of coworkers/curstomers

[Zoufie]

Don't you guys hang out? You know just find a chance to clear things up

[LovelyBones13]

No i never Saw him outside of work

[Zoufie]

I think he was just blabbering you know he didn't even asked you to go out on a date but are you interested In him in a romantic way?

[LovelyBones13]

Yeah as stated above. And he has agf

[Zoufie]

I know I may sound harsh but you either have to be evil and set up a plan to separate them or just stop waiting for someone who's​ taken and meet more guys you never know when you'd meet "the one" but in my opinion I recommend you to move on

[LovelyBones13]

I already did as stated above. My new crush is single. But this Guy (my old crush/current friend) still asks me questions like the one above and still has a girlfriend

[abhijeetmaurya]

Ya he might be trying to kiss you up

[Cool12345]

I won’t ask