Why would a guy want to know when you were last intimate?

[Anonymous]

Why is that his business on a first date

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Maybe he thinks I’m a slut

[Miristheiss]

I agree 100% that this is not 1st date conversation. If that is when he asked then that is off.

But before he gets intimate, let's say you and he were about to have sex together he'd want to find out in case you are the type to sleep with 2 or more men during the same time period, sleep with Mike on Friday and Steve on Saturday, for example.

If any of another man's swimmers are still in you he may not want to go there and definitely not go down on you if Mike was just in there the day before and left a week's worth of his swimmers in there.

If you only have sex with one person at a time and it had been a long time since you were with someone else then you should have been good. Of course, this is not 1st date conversation. Maybe it would come up when you two are heading towards intimacy.

[Paul_in_Indy]

He doesn’t think you are a slut. In fact, he is hoping you have had sex in a while and are getting very horny. It’s a way to try to bring up a sexual topic: for his own gratification, in the hole of getting you aroused, and to make it easier to talk about sex going forward. If you told him when you last had sex, I bet he asked you how it was, and I bet he asked for details if you answered that.

[Asker]

He does think I’m easy bc of the suggestive pics I post.. but he never love bombed me or called me sexy etc … in fact he complimented a pic with me smiling…

I just had a feeling he only wanted sex tbh… it was nothing he did specifically but I felt like it..

I did insecurely ask him a few times if sex was all he wanted…

On the date he said “I think you want me to be interested in sex…I think that’s why bred the question…”when were you last intimate” I told him a year ago

I forgot what else was said but he said I should “listen to my body “ … and he joked about me having a “collection “

[Paul_in_Indy]

i don’t think he ONLY wants sex, but he wants sex; and as soon as he can get it. From suggestive pics, he wants to transition to sharing some details about your sex life, then to naked pics, then to sharing erotic stories, then…

[Paul_in_Indy]

I should add that with the right girl, this is very effective.

[Asker]

Well I feel like saying that on a first date rubs me the wrong way. I didn’t feel respected or wanted by him saying that…

He also said he was scared to sleep with me because I would be “crazier “… which felt demeaning and he did end up saying “does your dad know you post those pics?”…. Like huh?

[HelpfulWoman]

i mean, if you're on a date, you're both probably aiming to eventually get intimate.

its probably a round about way of asking if you're still fooling around or taking the meeting/date serious

[Asker]

Yet, when I ask him he looks away and laughs lowly…

[HelpfulWoman]

then call him out on that. if he can't answer a question he poses, he shouldn't ask it in the first place.

[Asker]

I wish I did… I wish I didn’t just sit there quietly looking stupid.

[HelpfulWoman]

i wouldn't call it stupid not knowing what to say to it when it's happened for the first time. i wouldn't choose to go on more dates with him myself but decide haha

[Asker]

I was hurt by that fr… I felt deeply hurt bc we had talked for about 2 weeks and our talking stage wasn’t perfect but I thought he cared… I was the one who had my guard up and told him that I was protecting myself… and he asked what was a safe way to interact with me

I wasn’t even looking to date.. I just wanted to place hold until he found someone else… but no sex involved.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Not sure…

I’ve never been asked that on a first date. Would be awkward. Because It’s been 3 years since I had sex.

[ArrowheadSW]

Yeah that is way too much of a question for someone to ask on a first date. It is questionable to ever even ask that at all really. Back when I was more involved with dating, I had been asked that a few times though from women who I had been talking to. I never answered that directly. I don't recall what my specific answer was, but something like "I'd prefer not to discuss that".

[Flatmanlewis]

Doesn’t seem like first date talk to me. Not at all. Life before your being a couple doesn’t count. I’ve been with my wife over a decade and a half and we’ve never asked about how much time before our first date and any previous interactions with others may have happened. It just seems intrusively disrespectful.

[BaronVonBarron]

maybe you are afraid do know.

[Flatmanlewis]

Why would I be afraid? We all have a life before we meet others.

[mandyfire98]

Creepy ass question on a first date.

"So when did you have sex last?"

Wtf?

[Asker]

That’s what I’m saying…. I think he wanted to know because I kept asking him if sex is all he wanted.. he said no.. then he flips it on me and says “I think you want me to be interested in sex”… then he asked me when I was last intimate… I told him a year ago and he said “oh you must have a collection “ (referring to dildos)

[mandyfire98]

Bizarre for a first date. I've never even discussed sex on a first date.

[Asker]

That’s what I’m saying. I felt disrespected

[RebelinSteel]

Because he’s an arsehole, no one asks that on a first date, well single people do…. It’s just weird and stupid to do that. That is not how to get to date two.

[Asker]

So he just wanted sex…

But he said he was scared to sleep with me because I would be crazier

[RebelinSteel]

It’s the fact he brought it up, he assumed that you would be putting out sex. Total loser and creepy tbh.

[Asker]

I was hurt by that fr… I felt deeply hurt bc we had talked for about 2 weeks and our talking stage wasn’t perfect but I thought he cared… I was the one who had my guard up and told him that I was protecting myself… and he asked what was a safe way to interact with me

I wasn’t even looking to date.. I just wanted to place hold until he found someone else… but no sex involved.

[LaurenM1997]

So basically he wanted to sleep with you and then just bugger off and not come back?

[Asker]

Yeah ig so… I’m just hurt because I felt like he wanted me to redeem myself from all the drama I caused

[LaurenM1997]

I’m so sorry that happened to you some men are trash and that guy is an example of one

[LaurenM1997]

The guy you were on the date with

[Asker]

But he said he was scared to sleep with me because he said he’s scared I would be crazier

[LaurenM1997]

What a loser you deserve better

[ohvanillalattegal]

He wants sex casually and wanna see if you’ve been sleeping with others

[Asker]

But when I asked if he wanted to do friends with benefits he said “why me”

[AviatorTom]

It's one of the recommended questions to ask, according to men's magazines. Her answer is a good indication of whether the guy will have sex with her.

[LaurenM1997]

wtf if I got asked that I’d be walking away and going home that’s none of his business it’s only your business only it’s got nothing to do with anyone else

[Daniela1982]

He wants to know if you are interested in making a new appointment for some.

[Asker]

That’s the reason he’s asking…? On a first date

[Daniela1982]

Apparently. He must be a horn dog.

[Massageman]

Maybe he considers a "date" an "audition"?

[sheikalana]

That's really none of his business. That question would put me off immediately and I probably wouldn't see him again.

[Asker]

Is it really that bad of a question?

[sheikalana]

For me is a deal breaker. It's a personal question that I wouldn't ask anyone.

[Fireguy17]

that is not a first date question in my book, and I never recall asking someone that ever.
It isn't my concern.

[Asker]

What was it then?

[Fireguy17]

if I am understanding your question, I think it was just something you don't ask someone else.
it's kind of poor taste.

[rosemilk]

that's really inappropriate of him. guess someone won't be getting a second date

[Asker]

He ghosted me

My dumb ass kept messaging him to see what I did wrong

[rosemilk]

oh nooo girl. don't do that. well, at least you know what to do now for next time during future dates

[Asker]

Ikr…. After 3 weeks he did provide closure

[Asker]

I was hurt by that fr… I felt deeply hurt bc we had talked for about 2 weeks and our talking stage wasn’t perfect but I thought he cared… I was the one who had my guard up and told him that I was protecting myself… and he asked what was a safe way to interact with me

I wasn’t even looking to date.. I just wanted to place hold until he found someone else… but no sex involved.

[Billlewis]

Because we're fascinated with the sexual encounters you've had with other guys.

[Asker]

But why? It’s not your business… we probably won’t even be honest

[Billlewis]

It's just something we find very exciting.

[Berethor]

Good way to check if a girl is not a ho, it's his business to know if he is not dating a ho.

[Tamera952]

It’s not his business. I would say so too to his face if he said that to me.

[Apple1996]

On a first date is crazy weird to ask that question

[Yoursweetgirl]

Cause he's rude?
That's a weird question to ask on a first date

[Darkest-Knight]

It's none of his business. On a first date, second date or 100th date.

[Asker]

That’s what I’m saying

[JayBones2469]

They want to know if they are pumping out old dirty cum

[RedInnocent69]

It’s not. But it’s a turn on if you answer and immediately sexualizes you even if you don’t.

[RedInnocent69]

Nah, but he does want you to be his slut.

[Fabrizio6699]

He's already letting you know he's a jealous psycho

[blkgold33]

He probably want see if he can get lucky

[Asker]

When I asked if he wanted sex he nervously said no… I kept saying come on let’s have sex… just to see

But he said he was scared to sleep with me because I’ll be “crazier “

[spartan55]

Didn't you ask him the same thing? Go away.

[Asker]

No

I asked him after he asked me

Don’t tell me to go away. You’re on my shit

[spartan55]

Lol... you are pathetic.

[Asker]

lol… you are pathetic.

[milknhoneyy]

That's not a first date kind of question 🙃

[strateguy632]

it is not his business, just curiosity

[Ms_Facesitter]

He's a guy who's looking for sex.

[DrPepper12]

Fuck off with that guy! JFC out of bounds.

[Squatting_Slav]

Most likely insecure

[jahaims]

He is trying to see if your a slut or not

[SolitarySolace]

Baggage

[Asker]

What do you mean

[SolitarySolace]

What do you mean what do I mean? Baggage. Depending on how early her last intimate relationship was she probably holds some form of resentment that’ll carry over to the new guy.

[Danny_dan92]

He’s curious

[Asker]

Why? Especially when I can’t get an answer from him

[Danny_dan92]

Because he wants sex

[Asker]

That’s all he wanted?

[Danny_dan92]

Yes.

[Asker]

How do you know

[exitseven]

Sounds like a perv.