Is it creepy/borderline pedo shit if a 22/23yo dates a 19yo?

[Anonymous]

yes

no

A total of 178 votes were cast: 61 girls and 117 guys. See detailed results

[MelWinter]

Well I started dating my boyfriend as a 19yr old and he is a 25 years old. I just turned 20 and we have almost a 6yr age gap cause my bday is at the end of the year.

But I haven't seen this as weird in any way. We've had a normal relationship, we laugh together a lot, have same kind of humor, watch movies together and he is always willing to help me. He recently met my parents, grandma and even aunt. My parents liked him very much and he felt the same about them ☺️

Of course there can always me exceptions though🤷🏽‍♀️

[EnglishArtsteacher]

Creepy? A little. Even though it's legal in many cases, I haven't wanted to date teenagers since I was 20 years old, and even then, I would have never went below 19 years old when I was 20. A 22 year old might only be three years older than a 19 year old, but there is a big difference in maturity between 22, and 19.

Now, borderline "pedo"? No, not at all. Pedophilia generally refers to physical, and mental attraction of kids under 14 years old. There is a big difference between a 19 year old, and a 13 year old (even disregaring legal differences).

[Sharkstealth]

Pre pubescent is the definition of pedophilia. It's funny how people are surface dwellers which is my term for just accepting every comment a news reporter or social media influencer says as fact.

[EnglishArtsteacher]

@Sharkstealth I'm very well aware of that, and I even alluded to that in my comment.

[Anonymous]

You morons need to learn the definition of pedophile, since you misuse the word more than any other except "literally". A pedophile is someone who is sexually attracted to prepubescent children. Does a 19 yr old sound like a prepubescent child? If you're 22 and asking this question, a 19 yr old girl might be too mentally mature for you, so you shouldn't drop down to 17, but rather, wait until you know better than to ask such dumb ass questions and grow up a bunch.

[IrishStewed]

Not at the ages that you quote. After 18 everything is legal, though not necessarily moral.

[loveslongnails]

In this example, there's nothing at all immoral OR creepy about a 22/23 yr old guy dating a 19 yr old girl.

[Anonymous]

A pedophile is an adult who is attracted to pre-pubescent children. The word gets used as a derogatory term of shame for anyone who does not follow the dating rules of the left. (The same left that says you shouldn't shame a girl for being fat, or for being a slut.)

[AngryCarl]

It's funny what the "left" gets blamed for these days. Wasn't it Clinton who liked to date young interns?

[Opinion Owner]

@AngryCarl Indeed!

[antelope51]

It's creepy if an 80 year old dates a 19 year old. But, age of consent and all says it's not pedo if they're at least 18, even if a lot of 18/19 year old start looking like children as the rest of us get older.

[FunkyMonkee]

No, it's perfectly normal. How is 3 to 5 years any difference? The first girl I fucked was 18 and I was 24. The second girl I fucked was 22 and I just turned 26. Big deal!! There's absolutely NOTHING creepy or pedo about it!!

[Apple1996]

Nah but it's a little weird since a 19 year old is in a completely different place in life than a 23 year old. y'all shouldn't relate on anything and If you do maybe you need to spend time growing up a bit instead of dating

[EnglishArtsteacher]

Finally, someone else here has some sense.

I don't think enough people in our age range remember just how much different the average 22/23 year old is than 19 year old. It may not seem like much, but a LOT of maturity, and major life experiences happens throughout those ages. It's not equivalent to a 27 year old dating a 31 year old, or a 33 year old dating a 37 year old.

My 23 year old self was so much different than my 19 year old self, and that's true for most people I've met.

[Apple1996]

@EnglishArtsteacher yes 19 year olds are so naive about the world. They still have the mind of a literal teenager

[EnglishArtsteacher]

Right... because they're a literal teenager lol.

[Sharkstealth]

I dated a 19 year old when I was 29. We were very attracted to each other. She is still single and lives close.

[Sonorous]

Obviously not pedo shit 💀 legit two consenting adults bro

[strateguy632]

even age 55 with 18 isn't pedo. she could be age of his daughter, but she isn't daughter nor minor.

[Anonymous]

No. Pedophiles are attracted to prepubcent kids. Its never pedo to be attracted to legal 18+ babes.

[caitycat21]

It’s a bit of an age gap but no lol.. they could realistically both be in college or something

[SongBirrd]

I agree! It really doesn't matter
What do you think about 18 and 17?

[EnglishArtsteacher]

You can realistically be in college at almost any age.

[Apple1996]

@EnglishArtsteacher exactly. My cousin graduated high-school super early at 15 and went off to college

[JoshMa]

@SongBirrd ones legal ones not...

[EnglishArtsteacher]

@Apple1996 Right, there are child, and teen prodigies.

There are even elderly people who attend college lol.

[RebelinSteel]

I think that covers a lot of college / uni / working relationships.

[PeachyPie93]

How is it creepy? At those ages you are both still immature and relate to a lot of things.

[Nikki1989]

Borderline and questionable, very much so.

[Jersey2]

No. But if so, Leo DiCaprio has some ‘splaining to do. I was 21 with my now wife 19 years old when we started dating.

[HelpfulWoman]

Only morally. But it definitely is weird they have to go for younger and naive people to date...

[Sharkstealth]

19 year olds have hit puberty so no its not possible to be a pedo seeing that it is the definition. I dont think that qualifies as borderline either.

[exitseven]

no. they re both adults and 3 or 4 years isn't a big deal.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is in his mid-30s and we've never had a problem.

[pickles77]

Not at all she’s only a couple years younger and an adult

[AngryCarl]

It's a 4-year age gap and you're both adults. No need to call the cops.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Lol no

[TadBehaya]

Not in the least

[Thestupidusername]

Not at all

[Ms_Facesitter]

remove 10 years and it would be

[Jmmmfi4]

NO--

[LiamJHayden]

I don't care whom consenting adults date.

[Anonymous]

Yes, that is a huge age gap

[getwiththepg]

Not at all

[JustinTheGreat]

Not really

[shortster]

Not even close.

[riverrat3]

Nope should be fine