Do men enjoy taking care of a woman they like?

[Anonymous]

I have been texting him (45 year old) for 2 weeks. I got sick and sent him my photo without makeup, have dark under eyes, but still look somewhat cute in that photo I didn’t want to send a filtered photo or a photo with makeup, thought if he likes me now, he’ll like to meet up me in person too

He said “Aww you look so cute.”

And one hour later he added “I want to take care of you. 🥰” It’s the second time he tells me that.

He had told me he wants to cook with me, go shopping with me, go to sleep with me and meet up with me.

Updates

+1 y

Wished me good night today and told me he wishes he were going to bed with me. Is not it a bit too sexual to say that after only texting for 3 weeks?

[Finchie40]

Yes as long as she takes care of him as well , A relationship needs to go both ways , it can’t be one sided , when a relationship becomes one sided that relationship will more than likely fail , so the fact that this guy is saying he is going to take care of you , he is pretty much talking out his ass , because the truth is he wants you to take care of him as well. Right now he is infatuated with you , basically telling you things you want to hear , but when push comes to shove if you aren’t taking care of him as well , then your relationship with him will probably fail

[MysticDevice]

If she's actually unwell, injured, sick, etc then sure I can take care of her all day no problem.


But if its a situation where she just wants the man to be the man and take care of everything and she doesn't contribute then that's a hard no for me.

[Asker]

The first one is the case. Would you say a man likes you if he says all this?

[MysticDevice]

Oh yeah. I don't see how he could be anymore obvious he likes you lol.

[Asker]

Thanks. I am scared whether he wants something casual or a relationship. What would be your guess, as a man?

[MysticDevice]

Me personally would want to go for a relationship. Start out as flirty friends that lead into dating. Strongest relationships start that way.

But there's enough guys, who just want it casual, that ruin dating for all of us by making women hesitant to start anything.

My gut tells me that might not be the case here and the guy is genuine. Based on the info you've told me so far

[Asker]

Thank you for an advice. You sound wise.

[MysticDevice]

I like to think so, but I'm just a nerd on the internet at the end of the day

[Anonymous]

id say yes lol


I've had 3 different partners take care of me when i was sick and gross. one of them would come and just check my temperature and sleep over. the other partner we both had covid, so we were taking care of each other. the last partner i had, i also had covid, and he let me stay over his house, got me medicine, and fed me until i was better.


i dont think many men would take care of a woman they dont really like, in my opinion.

[sage2021]

There are some men that enjoy being their girls caregiver when she is sick.

I know my last boyfriend (who recently passed away) was my caregiver for the last year and a half,
until he died.

I remember him standing at my bedside and saying "I love talking care of you". He was a great caregiver to me.
He loved helping people out for whatever reason.
RIP Patrick

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, many men are also motivated to be caretakers towards their romantic partner.

[Asker]

Why do they enjoy that?

[OlderAndWiser]

Some of us have nurturing instincts, some of us feel we are obligated to provide for our partner, and it makes us feel needed and important.

[PonyCar]

No. They may enjoy the feeling of accomplishment or validation they get when they successfully perform care tasks for someone, but it's not about the act of meeting someone else's needs. That's the byproduct.

Men are transactional. It is not in their nature to give without receiving. Nothing is free with them. Everything they do is done with the intention of (hopefully) receiving a greater return on their investment than what they put in. It's why men are 6x more likely to leave their wives if she gets sick. They know that a sick wife can no longer cater to or fulfill his needs, so he's on to the next person who he can convince to do so.

The whole reason men date & marry is to get their needs fulfilled, not to fulfill the needs of others.

[whistlingwh0res]

It’s obligatory. Men do need to realize that nothing is free. They might be successful stealing something from society and end up with bad women losing their self esteem and money but we are worth it. You should know your worth. There is no love until they realize that they need to pay a respect and stealing isn’t the way of receiving love.

[whistlingwh0res]

All men are thief. Don't give nothing for free

[Asker]

What should I tell him?

[whistlingwh0res]

Tell him no sex until he treat you with respect and enough money spend until you see him really paying attention

[whistlingwh0res]

Tell him that i am not going to sleep with you that fast. I have to know the person whom i am meeting and get to know him well before i go further

[Ashley1993]

@Asker
You better don't listen to the Femcels here or you're gonna end up alone, desperate, Single and frustrated going around hating men online at 40 like them

[Asker]

@Ashley1993 What do you suggest me to do?

[whistlingwh0res]

@Ashley1993 know that you are worth more than you think. Age doesn't matter. Men try to steal anything any age.

[Asker]

Also, 40 is pretty young. Don’t know what Femcel means.

[whistlingwh0res]

There still are a lot of things to steal from 40 years old women.

[Ashley1993]

@Asker
Have a precaution of course , but doesn't mean you have to always see him or any men with a bad eye/doubt constantly.. they are not pure evil as some think
So I would suggest to continue the relationship and look for signs of positive or negative affirmation
The ones you mentioned sound positive
Good luck

And Femcel means a single woman whose failure to get into a relationship made her hate all men and think all men are bad/evil
I can see she replied but I've blocked her so I don't know what she replied but good riddance

[whistlingwh0res]

@Ashley1993 you will see someday

[DextroShade]

Men are designed to take care of women, at least to an extent. Her being helpless all the time would quickly get annoying but if she's sick or something, the guy is taking her seriously, and he isn't an asshole he will take care of her.

[Asker]

Do you think this guy wants a relationship or something casual?

[DextroShade]

If he's willing to take care of you like that chances are he wants something serious.

[KrakenAttackin]

@DextroShade. Agreed 💯. A man can show live toward a woman by taking care of her and making her life easier. Men will do things like taking care of your car, fixing things, and doing dirty tasks, as well as caring for you when you are sick.

[Asker]

@KrakenAttackin Check update

[KrakenAttackin]

Well, he finds you attractive.

[Massageman]

Yes, until they believe they are being taken-advantage-of, though. Fo now, accept his generosity and see what happens.

[Asker]

Do you think he wants a relationship or something casual?

[Massageman]

That would fall under that "see what happens" part. :- )

[JacobJordan]

I do. When my wife was pregnant I carried her to and from the bathroom during the day and at night. I helped her get up and lay down. I helped her get her shoes on. I lifted her belly several times a day to relieve pressure. When she is sick I make her food, make sure she is warm and comfortable etc.

[tzdc21]

They enjoy taking care of a woman who they like. But most importantly, they enjoy taking care of a woman who APPRECIATES HIM. If she leaves little doubt that she respects and appreciates him, there's not a damn thing he won't do for her.

[serious_miss419]

If people don’t know each other, it’s weird and desperate to flatter them and say things like that. Like what’s his rush and urgency anyhow?
Why’s he not with a lady his age?
Don’t let him be your ball and chain.


He disgusts me lol

[AmyHew1tt]

Yeah, I got creep vibes for some reason

[PeachyPie93]

I'm not sure, I feel all men talk like this but it isn't sincere. They just want to get into your pants tho I could be wrong.

[Phoenix98]

Of course if I'm serious with her, it's how we were designed it's part of who we are and why we're often seen as the protectors and providers of the family.

[Avicenna]

Yes, we do

[Asker]

He just knows me for 2 weeks though.

[Avicenna]

Makes no difference. If anything, if he's just met you, he may go out of his way to do it.

[Asker]

Makes sense. You think he wants a relationship?

[Avicenna]

He probably does if that's what he's doing

[Asker]

I asked what he means by taking care of me and he said “cooking for me, snuggling with me and doing anything that makes me feel good.”

He texted “Good morning, beautiful” today.

[Avicenna]

Give him a chance. He seems very motivated.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I would think they would, same goes for a woman.

[Anonymous]

As long as I’m getting something in return. One sided relationships never really end well. If one person isn’t getting little to none in return.

[RavVid]

Yes we do. It is one of the ways we give love.

[exitseven]

Yes, I have been taking care of somebody for a long time. It is never a chore

[KrakenAttackin]

For a good, faithful, feminine, woman; men will do anything.

[HouseMoat]

To a point

I mean, it just depends on what exactly she needs

[Anonymous]

You’re dating your dad, why wouldn’t he take care of you?

[Asker]

How’s he a dad, he’s just 18 years older than me.

[Asker]

19 years.

[Opinion Owner]

Troll, he’s a creep and you’re a dummy. When you get older and he leaves you for a younger woman cause that’s his fetish don’t cry.

[Opinion Owner]

I couldn’t imagine a guy who could be my dad saying that to me lmao gross

[ImalwaysrightOK]

He's relationship material.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

That last update is way too sexual for only 3 weeks if he was genuinely interested in a romantic relationship. It started out sounding good but then he turned from being romantic to saying he wants sex from you, watch his actions not his words.

[FenixG45]

Yup, he does.

[Asker]

Haha, he does what?

My question is whether he wants a relationship or something casual?

[FenixG45]

Sorry. I would say a relationship.

[Minahh]

Be aware he might be love bombing you

[Miristheiss]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

We all do in the begining

[ienjoylookingatgreen]

Obviously

[Lieutenant00]

He sees u as a bitch

[Asker]

Why do you think so?

[Lieutenant00]

U can't know men better than me right? Even though he doesn't like u, he will say, oh amazing u r so cute, u r so hot :) as he wanna f*ck u.

[Asker]

He’s in a different country and will travel to meet me. Do men travel oceans away to meet “bitches”?

[Lieutenant00]

If they r both desperate and murderer why not? I suggest u to stay away from him.