Timeline to assume you’ve been ghosted?

[Anonymous]

How many days should pass before it’s officially ghosting?

[Cynicaldreamer]

Not so much a timeline, but watch their actions (or lack of) as well-

If a guy that went from texting or messaging me daily and responding quickly or in a timely manner, suddenly goes down to large gaps between communication with little to no explanation (ie: hours, or a day later to reply back to you). Or his replies get distant- like they don't seem as interactive or interested in communicating with you: think replies that are a few words, to the point, and as if they are trying to end the conversation, unless it's regarding a topic they're interested in or want to discuss.

I look at that as a warning that, "This person is either bored of me, distracted, or about to ghost me..." As for specific timeframe? It really does depend. If said person is going days or weeks with minimal to no stable communication with you, or at least warning you, "Hey, I'm busy doing x right now, so I can't talk as much..." you're probably getting ghosted.

Or if you're the one initiating all the conversations, yet you go... I'll say a day or two without starting the conversation and they make no attempt to reach out? Yeah...

Just use your best judgment- if they're not making the effort to talk to you, they're probably going to ghost/ghosted you.

[TenderFantasy]

Yeah I agree, there's no exact timeline, more about watching their lack of investment in the relationship too or change in their demeanor, especially if you've known them to be more engaged before. Have had this happen to me unfairly with an ex male friend. Super selfish of him to do, and cruel. But yet, I am not surprised. A lot of men (white and maybe other races too but more white lol), are selfish assholes.

[Asker]

It hurts.

[sheikalana]

If you texted more than once and they never answered back you've been ghosted.

[Somoneelse]

I would say a week or two. But most times the action/responses of the person itself are also important to note. Especially if the person is usually slow to respond, dry texting or doesn't iniate contact themselves.

For instance a person who used to reply almost hourly with long paragraphs, but over time the responses were being shorter and took longer to recieve. It may happen slowly, or abrupt. Most times you can kinda feel it coming when the prson responds so little or dry, that it takes a lot of energy to keep the conversation going.

But it also depends on the situation they are in. I know some people who took a week or even 1 or 2 months to reply. Mostly due to busy schedule, travel or bad internet. Or they never replied at all because they were so busy, they just forgot about it.

[blueonblack22]

Some women think ghosting is when a guy stops reaching out to them.

Nah that’s not ghosting. Ghosting is when a person intentionally stops responding to you and/or blocks you. And they do it with no explanation and/or any legitimate reason either.

[blueonblack22]

Just to clarify the first above sentence better. Some women think it’s “ghosting” when a guy stops initiating contact. However this same guy would likely respond if she initiated contact (even if it wasn’t right away). To some women this feels like a loss of power because the guy isn’t asserting his attention anymore. However that’s NOT the same as ghosting.

Not saying it’s a good sign when a guy starts doing that. It usually means he’s lost interest. However sometimes he’s got something major going on in his life and doesn’t feel like talking. It’s also possible he feels like he has given away too much of his power i. e. contacted her too much and decided to pull back.

But all in all that is not the same thing as real ghosting. And I know EXACTLY what real ghosting is. I once got ghosted after dating a girl for 9 months. THAT was real ghosting.

[Asker]

Thanks. This was just a shock I guess. Our last convo was normal. Intimate. I don’t understand why he disappeared. I just wish he would have said something before just “leaving”.

[blueonblack22]

Well did you try messaging him?

I have a “2 punch rule” when it comes to that. If I send two messages with no response then I’m out.

[Asker]

Yes, but I don’t think he’s read the messages. I guess I’m out, too.

[blueonblack22]

Sorry you had this happen. 95% chance he saw the messages and just want to respond back to them.

I’m hearing more and more about guys doing this bs to women lately. It started as female bs a few years ago and now guys are doing it. It’s f*cked up all the way around.

[blueonblack22]

*just didn’t want to respond

[Asker]

Even if he hasn’t been active on the site? How would he see them?

[blueonblack22]

Wait. Are you saying you two never exchanged phone numbers?

[Asker]

No we didn’t

[blueonblack22]

Oh come on. You can’t expect anything out of anybody you “connected” with on a website. That completely changed the entire dynamic.

There is no such thing as a “virtual” relationship. No. People are usually at least 50% make believe online. I never counted someone who didn’t respond back to me on a website, dating app, etc. as “ghosting”. No. I have been ghosted after a real life connection was made.

This isn’t worth at all getting upset about. The “connection” you had with him was mostly fantasy.

[Asker]

Thanks but you have no idea what our connection was or for how long. Thank you though. You are right. It’s almost like you know him…

[Asker]

I would explain more but I’d prefer to do it in private.

[blueonblack22]

Well if that “connection” was so great then why didn’t you two exchange numbers or at least connect on IG?

I will never get my hopes up about anyone until I got their direct number.

[Asker]

You are right. Just a fantasy. Thanks.

[Asker]

He’s still a coward for not telling me how he felt. I thought he was emotionally mature.

[blueonblack22]

Well this is a WEBSITE you DM’d on and you two never connected outside of it. Did you two ever talk about meeting up in person? Do you even know what he looks like and/or vice versa?

It sounds like he pushed a few of your buttons emotionally. Probably said somethings to you that hit a deep chord somewhere. Anyway I never get my hopes up about meeting anyone online unless:

1) I know what they look like (and vice versa) and we at least find each other semi attractive

2) we have each other’s direct contact info

3) they live somewhere that’s local or at least easy to visit

If none of the above are fulfilled it’s a best a friendship but considering anything deeper is an exercise in futility. .

[OlderAndWiser]

What's the difference between simple ghosted and officially ghosted?

[Joshydavid25]

Depends on the initial frequency they've been texting me.. If it was often then all of a sudden it became slow, and then all of a sudden it's been more than a day, they definitely ghosted my a$$.. LOL.. So basically it would have to be a full day before I think somebody ghosted me..

If we just started talking and they don't reply for a few hours after just starting to converse, I also assume they didn't like me after all and Ghosted..

[Kaneki05]

When you have no confidence that they will respond. Perhaps one only talks to someone every now and then but the fact of knowing they will respond means one hasn't been ghosted.
And how to know is just by how ya speak to each other. So if you are in doubt that's one thing, but if that confidence of response is now at zero then yeah you are ghosted.

[Asker]

Great insight. My confidence is not at 0 yet.

[ProbablyClueless]

People are so weird and inattentive about their phones. I would say that you can assume you've been ghosted (most of the time) if you've had two texts where the person doesn't respond in a few days, over the course of a month.

[FreyaRed]

When someone had an accident and spent months in comma it's not ghosting otherwise I would say a week

[Anonymous]

Just you can feel it. I can anyways with even this x I have. However, he or she may come back after a ghost period but do not be trusting of that neither. They can and do usually do it again.

[QuickToAsk]

3 days is offically ghosting.

[PeachyPie93]

I would wait two days then I will cuss them out. Then wait one more day if they don't come for the drama they defo are gone. lol

[Asker]

Yes! But I won’t. I will in my head though.

[DreamLife7]

You cursing them out is childish grow up and move on. You can't make someone like you and want to talk to you

[PeachyPie93]

@DreamLife7 It was a joke, but clearly you don't understand jokes lol.
Aren't you still a single bitch giving her pussy out for free to anyone willing to pay?

[PeachyPie93]

*pay for a date

[DreamLife7]

@PeachyPie93 aww still mad 😠 😡 no guy likes her bc she's too ugly lol 😆. Good luck on valentines day all alone

[PeachyPie93]

@DreamLife7 Why you acting like you are a 10, do you see yourself?
I want to be alone, I'm not a desperate hoe like you :*

[DreamLife7]

@PeachyPie93 aww ur post says you want to sleep with a guy so he can like u. What a prostitute like ur momma. This is what happenes to fatherless chics 😆. All alone for v-daym what a loser lol

[PeachyPie93]

@DreamLife7 Where did I ever say I want to sleep with a guy so he can like me? I actually know my father unlike you. And he loves me and is still in my life because I am not a slut disappointment like you are.

[DreamLife7]

@PeachyPie93 tough life loser 😆🤣

[PeachyPie93]

@DreamLife7 Don't choke on that bag of dicks, cunt. :D

[DreamLife7]

@PeachyPie93 aww ur so angry must hurt not to have anyone to love you. So ugly u have to resort to dating apps and a fake profile pic 😆🤣🤣

[PeachyPie93]

@DreamLife7 Mhhm I got off dating apps since apparently you don't know how to read. And I use my real pics. I am sure if I put out like you do I would have a lot more guys but nah I ain't trash like you.

[DreamLife7]

@PeachyPie93 too ugly to meet a man in person like a normal person. Hides behind toddle cartoon pics🤣

[PeachyPie93]

@DreamLife7 Okay I am not ugly so get something more original.

[PeachyPie93]

I don't go out enough to meet people.

[DreamLife7]

Because you're ugly 🤣 that's what ugly people do

[PeachyPie93]

@DreamLife7 Okay I am prettier than you, sluts are the ones in the street, normal people stay in lol.

[DreamLife7]

@PeachyPie93 is that why you have a fake profile pic 🤣. Nice try ugly

[PeachyPie93]

@DreamLife7 Yeah I have a fake pic so I can be an asshole and have nothing come back to me, plus i don't need desperate guys hitting me up for no reason.

[DreamLife7]

@PeachyPie93 u have one because you're ugly and angry at the world lol. Not our fault your ugly with no friends and can't get a boyfriend 🤣.

[DreamLife7]

@PeachyPie93 you're 30 with no kids, no husband, no friends and a toddler profile pic 🤣

[PeachyPie93]

@DreamLife7 There happy that is me.
You are almost the same age and don't have anything more than me.

[DreamLife7]

@PeachyPie93 went and got a fake profile pic of an obese woman 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[PeachyPie93]

@DreamLife7 That is me retard. And I rather be chubby than have your face :P

[Asker]

@DreamLife7 can you both stop? Immature. Gross.

[DreamLife7]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 lmfaooooo even worse

[Zestyassmf1997]

Two at most, I think. A text message takes only a few seconds to type and send.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I normally believe I've been ghosted after a full day cause normally no one stays away from their phones for so long.

[Asker]

It’s true. ☹️

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yep 🙃

[Fuentes]

If 2 days go by u been ghosted honestly if I didn't get a response by the end of the next day imma just block them.

[Anonymous]

There's nothing "official" when it comes to ghosting.

[boggboss]

Depends on how much u was talking before I would say 3-5 days

[Asker]

We talked every day or every other day at least.

[boggboss]

And thats the context for how the last messages where sent

[Tharithi]

How long has it been ,

[Asker]

Our normal messaging. Nothing weird.

[boggboss]

And yes how long

[Asker]

2 days

[boggboss]

And who normally starts convos?

[Asker]

Me I guess but not always.

[boggboss]

Then I would say maybe a day or 2 but not looking good

[Asker]

I know. Thanks 😔

[Tharithi]

Who are they to u

[Asker]

@Tharithi it doesn’t matter now. Thank you

[Tharithi]

Huh? Be a man a chase her

[Asker]

@Tharithi I’m a woman…so…

[Anonymous]

Yes it hurts a lot. This girl I like from work gave me her number, then after trying to text her, she didn't even respond, probably blocked me. 😞

[Asker]

That sucks. Sorry 😞

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

Little late to the party here, but I'd say if they haven't reached out to you by the weekend its a very safe bet you need to call the ghost busters

[Nikki1989]

I can't say I have ever taken any notice. If people want to talk, they will talk, but it is not the end of the world if they don't.

[ShadowGirl7]

I'd say it depends on what the relationship was like. But I would say a month tops.

[whistlingwh0res]

He is probably flying away to find other bug to spread his sperm while he is alive for one day.

[Anno2]

We're talking about ghosting, not your dad

[whistlingwh0res]

@Anno2 don’t land on me. I am full

[CuriousMufuxka]

Days? Shit 3 hours is reasonable cause.

[WhitneySnow]

I think two weeks is long enough