Is the seven year itch a real thing?

[Dutchgirl97]

[Anonymous]

It's called "limmerance" and it's a lot shorter than 7 years. It's generally anywhere from 2 months to 3 years. Most people that say they were in love actually NEVER WERE. What they experienced was limmerance. Limmerance tricks your brain into feeling attachment to someone. If after 2 months to 3 years. When the limmerance where's off if you are not bonded with that person through something deeper (what we call "love"), then yes, people tend to go their separate ways.

If not for limmerance people would never fall in love. Because when you think about it logically. It really doesn't make any sense that people ever meet and fall in love.

[lightbulb27]

What's real is the effort one puts into forming and maintaining a relationship and the effort they put into being their best self, honoring their commitments, loving others, and doing what matters.

People are going to change, hormones change, emotions change, they grow and evolve, situations change. There will be temptations and low points, and times of difficulty. You make choices. Itches occur, you're gonna have itches.

If someone is really thinking about this, they are asking in fear. That is really fear of separation and lack of security. That is the fundamental human condition that Christ solved, ultimately.

[Account]

What is that? How am I not familiar with this slang? I know most of the new shit why don't I know this? 😩

[TheSpaceGnome]

I never heard of it either, people make up too much crap these days.

[Account]

I dont mind it, it is just that I am annoyed that I have never heard it since I am usually aware of most of the new slang stuff 😅

[Account]

Oh I just googled it. You don't wanna know. 🙄

[TheSpaceGnome]

I'm almost never aware of new slang (or most old slang). I swear sometimes gen z sounds like they are speaking an entirely different language.

[Dutchgirl97]

@TheSpaceGnome it’s actually a psychological study.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Doesn't look like a valid study method to figure out anything tbh.

[Paris13]

... And The Near Five Year DITCH. lolxxoo

[BarryLiverstone]

I’ve heard every 3-4 years that people change. Guess the key is to change together so you don’t drift apart. If there is truth in that, then after 7 years it’s been 2 cycles of change.

[Lonelydudewantsagirl]

The way these generations are people are lasting about half that time before giving up. Oh well. My parents have been happily married for almost 4 decades and my grandparents on both sides for more than 60 years.

[Unit1]

Are we making things up now?

Oooh, how fun! Let me do it too.

Is asking random pointless things a real thing?

My eyes say yes.

Yeah, nah, it ain't fun.

NEXT

[Dutchgirl97]

That was a complete waste of your time to comment on this post lol.

[Unit1]

I don't think so

[ChicoFromThe305]

That all depends, although people have been less patient in general but I think patience is what it all depends on

[sawno]

I always thought that was 2 years, but I believe its real yes.

[boggboss]

On year 7 and planning to get married at year 8 so nope not for me anyway

[LiamJHayden]

I've never had a relationship anywhere near long enough to know. I do have a neighbor who told me, "The hardest part of marriage is the first 25 years. After that it is easy."

[DarkWinterNights]

Almost everyone I know who has gotten a divorce typically happened between 5-8 years.

[Anonymous]

I think so. Also, sometimes it kicks in MUCH sooner than 7 years in!

[Alex-Snow]

I have read about it on the internet but I really have no idea. Is this happening to you?

[JonAsk69]

Idk… Honestly I bet it probably is real. I think communication and both partners encouraging each other to grow would help to keep that away.

[KrakenAttackin]

The average first marriage lasts eight years before the 80%-90% likelihood the wife files for divorce.

[Crankor]

I'd say it's more to do with how your priorities shift and lose sight of those values.

[nawtee_me]

What happened to the 50 year anniversary? Maybe 50 years since the itch?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yes. Maybe sooner. Most people eventually just get tired of another person as time goes on.

[dolemite58]

I think it happens after a couple of years, women get bored of relationships and sex faster.

[NathanDavis]

use protection people...

[TheSpaceGnome]

You should go see a doctor about that.

[Mediterraneansoul]

she's been itching for 7 damn years 😂

[TheSpaceGnome]

@Mediterraneansoul I'm glad someone got the joke xD

[Dutchgirl97]

Lmao 😂

[JacobJordan]

What the hell is the seven year itch?

[Nice222]

Yes it was for me.

[Joey4576]

Haven't made it that long

[Zestyassmf1997]

The what?

[Dutchgirl97]

After “seven years” people tend to contemplate another relationship

[TheSpaceGnome]

If you don't know if you like a person 3 years after meeting them, then you shouldn't be in a relationship with them. If its a real match, you never tire of them.

[SciencePreacher]

@TheSpaceGnome so you're talking about "limmerance" as the anon who I suspect is @chitown
with disabled replies described as chemicals by the brain? Then why not block these chemicals with drugs and evaluate things rationally? Coom jars aside, I do think this type of drug use is underappreciated.

[TheSpaceGnome]

@SciencePreacher What the hell are you even on about?

[SciencePreacher]

@TheSpaceGnome people say it's just our brain releasing chemicals that make us blind to the person being shit, that we don't really like them. So I say, why not block these chemicals?

[TheSpaceGnome]

@SciencePreacher Thats a load of bullshit, it doesn't work that way.

[SciencePreacher]

@TheSpaceGnome the heroic coomer has returned, this time with enough XP to link articles.

academic.oup.com/.../2652884

Cooming without oxytocin release. That's a step toward disassociating cooming from catching feelings.

[TheSpaceGnome]

@SciencePreacher Thats not how it works, oxytocin is a byproduct of pleasure, not its cause, and it has nothing to do with urges, love, lonliness, boredom, or compatability.

[SciencePreacher]

@TheSpaceGnome go read science. You're wrong in disagreeing with me and you'll regret it. For one, mice were conditioned to place preference by cooming and endorphin inhibition reversed the place preference.

[TheSpaceGnome]

@SciencePreacher I've studied wildlife/biology/evolution for nearly my entire life, you're the one who's wrong.

Don;t buy into every stidy you read online, most stidies are non replicable and have assumptions or methodology problems polluting them.

[TheSpaceGnome]

study*

[SciencePreacher]

@TheSpaceGnome well I remember more than one study stating that oxytocin reverses telomere damage caused by social isolation and loneliness. As it reverses all other measures of damage from loneliness.

[TheSpaceGnome]

@SciencePreacher telomeres are said to unravel from stress hormones, however its growth requirements are nutrient based. So there would be a point where nutrient intake could exceed stress hormone induced degredation, and vice versa. Oxytocin does not by itself reduce stress, instead, when happy, the body makes oxytocin. We know this because increasing oxytocin levels manually, does not effect mood (though it does dull pain, which can indirectly effect mood if no other cause besides pain is negatively impacting mood at the moment).

[TheSpaceGnome]

Oxytocin's job is to switch off pain receptors.
But it won't make you love someone or feel less lonely.

[SciencePreacher]

@TheSpaceGnome inhibiting endorphins does more than just prevent oxytocin from rising but even just that would be a significant step toward reducing the bonding with a coom vessel.

[SciencePreacher]

@TheSpaceGnome although this area is influenced a lot by the species, here is at least one study about the telomeres influenced by exogenous oxytocin www.sciencedirect.com/.../S0306453018309089

Here is more exogenous oxytocin on behavior www.sciencedirect.com/.../S0306453009001784

At least animals aren't susceptible to the placebo testicle enlargement.

More conclusions about oxytocin www.frontiersin.org/.../full

Normally I find ways to download full text but these are so common sense I think the abstract is enough.

[TheSpaceGnome]

@SciencePreacher Bonding isn't biochemical, its relatability based.

If she likes drawing and video games, thats bonding material. Any woman with a nice body is able to cause me an orgasm, I'm not going to bond with her just over that. Love is not lust.

Your link posting has nothing to do with the topic, and is just pointless even if it had been (since its no better than our conversation at verifying).

Use logic instead.

[SciencePreacher]

@TheSpaceGnome logically, blocking endorphins is the same state as a heroin addict missing his dose. In the state of withdrawal, is one less likely to feel satisfied with cooming?

[BigBootyKay]

What is it

[Luckycharms12]

No idea