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I know both are bad but I seem to have put myself back into one again and wondering which one is worse.
Friends with benefits is where the dynamic relies on an agreed-upon, platonic friendship paired with sex.
Situationship is an ambiguous, unlabeled romantic connection that lacks clear boundaries, often causing confusion about whether the pair are dating or moving toward a real relationship.
Friends with benefits is where the dynamic relies on an agreed-upon, platonic friendship paired with sex.
Situationship is an ambiguous, unlabeled romantic connection that lacks clear boundaries, often causing confusion about whether the pair are dating or moving toward a real relationship.
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They’re basically the same thing. Women just call it situationship to feel better about the dynamics of it. A situationship is basically a girl who is in a man’s friend zone w the exception of him having sex w her. She’s really not relationship material if he’s putting her in a “situationship.” It just sounds better to the girl than being told straight out you’re just a friend I fuck. Most situationship aren’t going to lead to something serious just like a friends with benefits.
Thanks for the honesty. I'm 34 so I know as much.
Is this your situation?
Yeah but he was honest with me. He said it's not a situationship. We're just good friends that fuck. And I respected him for it.
I see. So how did that make you feel? Yes things like that is just giving a man what he wants as far as sex but most likely he will never take her serious. If a girl is worth it he will scoop her up quick before someone else does. The term situationship I think just sounds better to women than an friends with benefits, cause I think women hope that there’s potential that it will turn into a real relationship whereas if it’s labeled friends with benefits you already know what it is.
I'm okay with it. I've given up on us. Or any relationship for that matter. I'm just going to have sex with him because he's good at it but that's about it. I've given up on love or getting married and having a family. It's not for me anymore. I'm too old.
Well I wouldn’t say you’re out of the game just yet, there’s still hope. It may just not be as fruitful as when you were younger. Is there a reason why you never met someone when you were younger? Or were you in a long term relationship before that didn’t work out
I was sexually assaulted in college. That kept me from dating for a long time. I didn't date someone until my early 30s.
I’m sorry to hear that, that’s understandable. Did you seek help after that?
Yes I did. I went to therapy for it.
How did you end up in this situation w. this man? Would you say there’s still things now that keep you from having a relationship? Things you might do that sabotage it?
He's someone I used to be with. I was hoping for a long time we would be together but I see now that it's never going to happen so I just am settling for friends with benefits situation. He ended it because at the time I was severely depressed and he couldn't handle it but I'm better now but he doesn't want to commit to me again which is understandable. I'm not going to beg for him to take me back. We have our fun and that's pretty much it.
Again I’m sorry to hear that.
Did a ytjjg ever happen to the Morrison who did that tonyou
Thank you. No nothing happened to him unfortunately. He did get charged by another girl but was let go.
Man. That’s no good. So may I ask what country you’re from
USA.
Ok. Same. I’m on the west coast, what’s the rest of your life like as far as work, education, friends, family?
Im on the east coast. Delivery driver, Masters degree in Library Science, 2 best friends, and a mom, a grandmother and sister and baby nephew.
Ok. Got a lot going on for you. Do you have a lot of confidence in yourself? Myself, I think I do lol any favorite hobbies?
Writing and walking. And I do.
Writing is always a good thing. I like to draw. Not that you asked lol what part of the east coast?
South Carolina. What part of the west
Ok. I used to be strained in North Carolina. Went to South Carolina a few times. I’m in Arizona. Hot as hell here, a little better these last few days but still hit
Oh ok cool. I've never been to Arizona but I hear it is hot as hades there lol
Yes it can be if you’re in the valley where I’m at. I’m a valley girl lol if you go up north it’s much cooler. We do have all the seasons here in various parts of the state. But it’s been about 113 degrees lately.
Whoa that's super hot.
Yes it is. But I will say it’s a dry heat as the joke goes. Because when I was in NC it was hot too, maybe not this hot but it also had the humidity. I’d rather deal w the heat then both
Right.
To women is there really a difference between a situationship and an friends with benefits? Is it that in a situationship the relationship part hasn’t been determined whereas in an FEB it has been established?
Yes there is a difference. friends with benefits is more like platonic relationship just with sex where situationship means more it's not just platonic.
Ok. So is that usually more on the girl as far as having feelings for him or the man or it can be equal? Makes sense. But I think from a man’s perspective it’s just an friends with benefits. Most men who want to be w a girl aren’t going to put her in that category. So to me I think he’s giving it that label to give her the appearance that there’s potential there when in most cases there really isn’t. He just doesn’t want to lose out on having sex w her so it has to be worded in a way that she will accept and not see as degrading or putting her down. For instance if a man ask a woman would you obey your husband they tend to get defensive so you often have to use a word that doesn’t trigger that feeling in her to feel that way
That's so true. You're right.
A lot of times women listen to how something is said, not so much how it’s said. Women are more likely ti be neurotic compared to man. So you could tell her it’s 113 fucking degrees outside or it’s 123 degrees outside, she’s probably going to concentrate on the fact that you cussed. Not the fact that it’s 123 degrees outside. I get it nuances, if you were mad and said it to her while cussing it would trigger her emotions, but doesn’t change the fact of what he said
So would you say this situationship is basically like actually having a relationship w him? Please enlighten me on that. Or does he do what he wants w who he wants, he doesn’t check in w you and things like that. Are you two icing together
That's true as well. I didn't think about it like that but you're right. We do.
It's pretty much exclusive. We don't fuck with other people. He would let me know if that becomes the case.
So it basically seems like a relationship. At least to me it does. I suppose you two eat together, hang out together. Kiss? Would he get mad if you started taking interest in another man?
I'm not sure.
As a man I can say I’m 99.9% sure he would. Men are just like that. Even though he’s not committed to you men expect you to be committed them even Inc an friends with benefits situation. Weird how men tend to think that w out commitment.
I guess so but I have to get some sleep. I have to get up early in the am. It was nice talking to you.
It was nice talking to you as well. If you want to continue to talk I’d be happy to. If not I wish you the best.
Ok thank you so much. Goodnight!
Both are like cutting a dogs tail off a little bit at a time.
This is the "they're the same picture" bit from The Office.
Situationships lol. friends with benefits can actually be pretty straightforward when both people are honest about it…. But a situationship is basically relationship feelings with no relationship agreement… that ambiguity drives me crazy…
Situationship is a lot worse. You want romance but all you’re getting is sex. friends with benefits you know what you’re getting into. Though I personally don’t want either.
one says benefits... at least
the other is just uncertainty, it seems... lol
Both demonstrate a fear of emotional intimacy and commitment, but a “situationship” also shows a lack of communication
lol how many partners do u honestly have
Just one.
You are still stuck on that guy?
Blame yourself. U dud not even ask for a committed relationship
If you are in anything but an Engagement and a virgin marriage you're just a whore with silly names
Both are low value std farmer BS.
friends
Both are ok