Would you date someone who prefers hugging, kissing, cuddling, etc, but no sex?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Nope. That would be incomplete and unsatisfying. That would be like having a steak with no potato, or a movie without popcorn, but times a million. Would you want a house with no roof?

I can survive without sex, but I can't survive without sex when I have an attractive girl that I have feelings for in my arms stirring up my emotions - that's just torture.

sawno · Accepted Answer

Not if it stays that way, a relationship is about sexual exclusivity. I am willing to be a 100% faithful but then I do expect sex in the relationship. If she's not willing to provide that I am not willing to commit.

FlutteringFeelings · Accepted Answer

I’m 25 and my only standard are hugging/kissing. Cuddling and sex is off the table and has always been for me until marriage. It’s going to take a committed man to be willing to wait along-side me and it has to be his own self-decision to wait and not because I mentioned my own commitment to wait.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yeah I don't want sex either. I'm actually traditional and respect myself. 💁🏻‍♀️

Finchie40 · Answer

Not at all , I would just consider her a friend and a tease , she would honestly make me more frustrated then anything , I wouldn’t hate her but I wouldn’t waste anymore of my time with her , especially these days. Usually a girl that holds out from sex with you , is a girl that just likes you as a friend , she will tease you and string you along , but will have no problem spreading her legs to some douche bag that treats her like shit , It happens more than ya think

AviatorTom · Answer

I dated someone like that... when I was in college, for about 2 years we dated. It was nice being with her but my right hand got a workout after almost every one of our dates. We eventually broke up, realizing we had different goals in life.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

No. For me, sex is one of the essential ingredients in a relationship.

Valdemort · Answer

That'd be me.
I hate when people are physical and the thought of sex gets on my nerves. If I were to ever date anyone, they'd probably have to have a lot of patience for me to allow intimacy like that.
That being said, I love hugging. It's actually one of my favourite things to do. So I'd definitely go for someone who's less into sex or wouldn't mind waiting a little longer.

smne35 · Answer

Everybody has their little pet peeve and long as it's not too far out there yeah I'll Indulge them because with me it's not always about sex , just spending time together. Feeling each other out with what each other likes to do, to me That's a comfortable evening intimate. Cozy I'm down with that. Don't have to be all about sex every time maybe my younger years Yeah. But I'm cool you know l I'll go with the flow as long as it's not too weird or Too far on the wild side. But That would be a pleseant evening you have to remember just because you can do something. Don't mean you have to. I mean. Having sex, this I Believe is a Nice way to indulge in a different form of intimate pleasure. Yeah, I'm down with that

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, because going into a relationship, you shouldn't be "asking" for sex to begin with, because sex is something that happens naturally and with time.

Speaking from personal experience, back when I was a teenager and dating my first girlfriend, she made it clear to me too that she wanted to stay a virgin at least for the first few years (she brought the topic up herself by the way and I never asked her myself), but she was completely fine with us kissing, cuddling and doing everything borderline nsfw but not "nearly there". Weeks turned to months, we started making progress, clothing started coming off until eventually we were both completely naked and comfortable around each other (I was pretty nervous too ngl), until one day, she asked me if she could "suck it". Before we knew it, we were both getting down and dirty; losing our v-cards to each other

RespectfulGuy · Answer

Would you buy a pizza with dough, sauce, some cheese but no topping? And pay full price as if the topping is there?

Hence my answer is similar. A romantic relationship needs sex as its endpoint.

Boundaries could be set and perhaps sex only comes after marriage. Fine because I can perceive the endpoint.

If there's no chance at all, then I won't continue the relationship.

Amy10223 · Answer

That sounds like a question about asexuality. It happens to many, many people when they meet someone like this. I guess that they must have to get used to this, or find other ways to express their love/affection. It's important to respect the other's feelings. I myself could not do that.

Screenwriter · Answer

If I were very young and didn't want to be pregnant and was not using birth control, I'd say these were safe practices.

But if I wanted a more serious relationship and a long-term one, I would be wondering why sex was out of the question, especially since condoms and other OTC preventatives that are very effective would not come into play.

adam6402 · Answer

I'm not all about sex, finding the right girl comes way before sex and I'm happy to wait years for the right girl. But if the right girl comes along, she loves me, we're cuddling and kissing etc, then living a life without sex with her would be living with permanent blue balls.

HawkPerception · Answer

No I would not. Sex is the thing the differentiates friendship from an actual relationship. I could for a couple months until they feel ready to, but I'm not having a sexless relationship. I would also have insecurities that my partner doesn't see me as someone worth having sex with, that they do not find me sexually attractive, that I can't turn them on, and they might with someone else. For me sexual compatibility is a huge aspect of chemistry in a relationship.

Kpersaud2 · Answer

Relationships are also about compromise so if she/he needs more time before being more intimate, then that’s their choice.

Conversations can be had about desires and compromise is possible.

The beauty of “dating” is meeting new people. Some fit, some don’t. Ultimately with dating, it’s your choice! No one else’s.

RavVid · Answer

I am imagining a scenario with a virgin girl wanting to keep her virginity till marriage.

Back in the day virginity was more common the time to marriage was much shorter and it wasn't that uncommon for engaged couples to jump the gun.

I could probably handle no vaginal penetrative sex if blowjobs, hand jobs , groping were on the table. You wouldn't want to marry and discover your virgin bride wanted to maintain the same rules afterwards because she didn't like sex.

slatyb · Answer

No, I wouldn't. I date to find a long term partner. Sexual compatibility is important. If a woman wasn't wanting sex after a couple of months of dating, I would conclude that she's just not all that sexual, and we wouldn't be compatible. I never met a woman like that. After three dates women invited me to bed. The abstainers must be somewhat rare.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

I couldn't do that long term especially or even short term. I'd think eventually, I'd want sex as part of a romantic relationship, and I don't do open relationships or other kinky / whacky stuff, lol. Each to their own, I don't. Anyways, hence I'm single. Merrily so, single 😀👌👀

Quogha · Answer

No, I couldn’t. That’s not to say my relationship is based on sex. But, I’ve got needs. It’s someone we can do to each other behind closed doors, it’s private, and intimate. I couldn’t be with somebody if they aren’t willing to have sex.

RingOfFire · Answer

Initially until we know each other better, sure. But for a longer term no. Sexual union is one of the most important experiences in life. It is the ultimate physical expression of connection and a bond between a man and a woman that has no equal. My life would not feel complete without it.

Sunshinexoxo95 · Answer

I mean it depends on the duration or nature of the connection. I’m not someone who has sex on a first date, and it’s usually after I establish trust and communication with them. I need to know if we’re compatible sexually, but there’s other things that are equally important.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Yes. I have quite a few times. in fact those were the most meaningful

I also had a friend who broke his neck and was paralyzed from waist down. He and his girlfriend still got married. Love is not defined by sex.

hsshannah96 · Answer

I prefer those things over sex yes. Do I also loooooveeeee sex and can’t get enough if it’s good yes, but I need to be serious with someone before being intimate. I do miss cuddling and things like that though

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Well you worldly people think sex is normal but Iwill tell not everyone is worldly someof us are christian and sex isn't going to happend until coupmes walk out of that chruch with a ring inthe finger.

ZackBan · Answer

Translation "would you torture yourself for absolutely no reason?"

To me there's a line between friendship and romantic partnership and that line includes, but is not limited by, sex.
No sex. No relationship.

tremendousfern · Answer

No sex before marriage, sure. That's my criteria as well. But no sex at all, ever? Pass. I like the lovey stuff too like hugging and cuddling, but sex is as much a part of a strong relationship as everything else.

sage2021 · Answer

Yes! It's the best way to get to know someone and a possibility for a real love relationship. It's building a good foundation 🙂

jshm2 · Answer

Depends on the date, I suppose.

I have a dated a couple of girls where it was just hanging out and they put me up for a couple of days as I was in the country.

Not everything male and female has to include sex.

prettygirl20A · Answer

I think i would be okay with it because it is still affection

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Hmmmm... define cuddling, does that include nude or dry humping? Does hugging include mammary/penis relations? The fine print is important in these types of contracts.🤔

236color · Answer

No I would not. I am a grown adult. I don't seek relationships that 14 year olds have. If someone else wishes to limit themselves to that, they are welcome to, it won't be with me.

b_lova · Answer

That's a tough one. Those are the things that get you ramped up for the main event. If there isn't going to be a main event then you probably shouldn't be doing the other things yet.

Sameone · Answer

I have this problem I don't like sex all i like this stuff like kiss and hugs...
And is so hard to find women like this all women ask for sex 4 or more times in week
So if i find women sur i will date here

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Haha no. I'm not going to hamstring myself into a crippled relationship when I can just as easily relegate her to friend status and nothing changes between us.

Miristheiss · Answer

No. If she did not desire sex that would have been a deal breaker. I like cuddling and the other things but not instead of sex and normal man/woman intimacy.

SphynxUK · Answer

If they were upfront about being asexual or Demi etc, then maybe yes. Not all relationships are about sex.

Amara_09 · Answer

I can make it work ………. the sex will happen because i ain’t letting them walk out without fucking them

Anonymous · Answer

No. That would be boring. I need to get fucked once in awhile.

yepdonethat · Answer

Nope has to be ALL. I like making out, hugging, touching, cuddling, and sex. Has to be the whole package.

Drew-1990 · Answer

Date yes, married no. I personally am waiting for marriage and I'm not changing my mind on that.

Muthaginge · Answer

Intimacy can be built with no sex…. Great foundation. Sex can come later.

Subflics · Answer

In theory, yes. I don't want sex right off the rip. But then again I've dated girls thay wanted to wait until marriage. Me liking the idea, I went for it but shortly after I developed a need to be intimate with her and I respectfully left.

Likes2drive · Answer

No that’s an asexual person, that’s a friend with no benefits, I saw one dating profile like that, usually women can do that but not most guys, I can wait a little bit but not forever. Maybe when I’m in my 70s I won’t have to worry about it.

soe11 · Answer

Yes at the beginning stage. Hugging and kissing are normal with other women too. Some occasion I go out with my girlfriend's mum in public kissing and hugging are normal.

MrCharlie13 · Answer

I don't need to rush, but if it is going to be a long term relationship. Sex has to be on the table before the first 6 months

Also, girls saying they won't have sex because they respect themselves... No, you don't. Stop judging!

DagonbroughtMehere · Answer

For Three years, She and I dated, the only one I dated, We never had intercourse, We gamed, We hanged, we played, We Wrestled, We loved. To this day I have yet to find one like Her even remotely.

summiter · Answer

Not really, I think sex is an important part of a healthy relationship

foxrider77 · Answer

If she sits on my lap in sexy lingerie or uses her mouth I’d be perfectly fine.

82lynx · Answer

Sure. I find the idea of a cute and innocent arrangement very appealing, plus I was never interested in sex anyway.

WhiteSteve · Answer

It’s kind of my life right now, inadvertently. I definitely wouldn’t sign up for it.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Like sex ever? I’m a big fan of waiting till the relationship is felt out so I don’t muddy up my brain with sex. But no sex ever would be difficult seeing as I have a very needy organ.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

I would date someone like that absolutely, in my next relationship I want us to wait until marriage. However if this was applied to marriage then obviously no...

Anonymous · Answer

Im ok if he believe so when we are not married yet. Once we are married, at least we need to have once in awhile

Cody2004 · Answer

Pretty much my girlfriend it's not that big of a deal for me cuz I'm not you know sex crazed

SotiCoto · Answer

Yeah, because that is also what I'm like.  Not that I'm unwilling to do such things, but I don't have any compulsion to do them either.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Absolutely. Sex isn’t everything. Sex isn’t all love is or should be. True love is loving someone without having to have sex with them.

Courtneyblabla · Answer

Yes! Very much. These are my most favorite people in the world lol. Very ideal in a relationship or marriage if you ask me.

Anonymous · Answer

So she conveniently decides to sleep with somebody else? No thank you.

There's a saying, "if you've been with her a month and haven't slept with her, congrats! She's sleeping with someone. It's just not you!😆😆😆

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Personally I'd find it hard. Sex is important in a relatinship

R-OnTheWater · Answer

No. I like hugging, cuddling, but not as much as sex. Frequent sex is very important to almost all guys. Kissing turns most of us on, leaving us feeling a little blue-balled if it doesn't lead to sex.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. As the person you’re dating maybe have religious boundaries. Eg. They may be a Christian

Jamie05rhs · Answer

NO sex? At all? No. I can't do that. I'm not asexual.

CozyCoffin · Answer

I can wait until marriage, but she better not end up pregnant.

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