Would you date someone who prefers hugging, kissing, cuddling, etc, but no sex?

[Anonymous]

[MrOracle]

Nope. That would be incomplete and unsatisfying. That would be like having a steak with no potato, or a movie without popcorn, but times a million. Would you want a house with no roof?

I can survive without sex, but I can't survive without sex when I have an attractive girl that I have feelings for in my arms stirring up my emotions - that's just torture.

[adam6402]

More like salt without the steak. Or butter without the popcorn.

[Jamie05rhs]

@MrOracle More like a potato with no steak!

[sawno]

Not if it stays that way, a relationship is about sexual exclusivity. I am willing to be a 100% faithful but then I do expect sex in the relationship. If she's not willing to provide that I am not willing to commit.

[sawno]

That said, I am fine with no vaginal penetration until we have been together for a few years. But other ways of play and getting each other off should be accepted.

[FlutteringFeelings]

I’m 25 and my only standard are hugging/kissing. Cuddling and sex is off the table and has always been for me until marriage. It’s going to take a committed man to be willing to wait along-side me and it has to be his own self-decision to wait and not because I mentioned my own commitment to wait.

[NobodyXox]

What if he even doesn't want to have sex after marriage because he is asexual?

[FlutteringFeelings]

Some problems we avoid by asking the important questions to us in the beginning.

[Anonymous]

Yeah I don't want sex either. I'm actually traditional and respect myself. 💁🏻‍♀️

[NobodyXox]

So being asexual is now traditional? 😅 I don't think he is talking about sex before marriage. I think he is either asexual or a germaphobe making him not want to have sex at all.

[Opinion Owner]

@NobodyXox He never said he was asexual. You're just projecting. Asexuality isn't real. It's just people who experienced sexual trauma.

[NobodyXox]

But would you respect someones trauma? What if someone really doesn't like sex anymore and doesn't want to try. Would you still want to be with him?

[Opinion Owner]

@NobodyXox You have to work on your trauma, no matter what it is. Are you seriously saying he should stay traumatized his whole life?

[puurikke]

Do you mean that people who have sex don't respect themself? Or do you mean that you would not respect yourself if you stept over your own boundaries (have sex)?

Because your answer reads a bit like you are judging everyone else in the world...
Which would be bad, wouldn't it?

[Opinion Owner]

@puurikke I mean I don't partake in hookup culture.

[Finchie40]

Not at all , I would just consider her a friend and a tease , she would honestly make me more frustrated then anything , I wouldn’t hate her but I wouldn’t waste anymore of my time with her , especially these days. Usually a girl that holds out from sex with you , is a girl that just likes you as a friend , she will tease you and string you along , but will have no problem spreading her legs to some douche bag that treats her like shit , It happens more than ya think

[AviatorTom]

I dated someone like that... when I was in college, for about 2 years we dated. It was nice being with her but my right hand got a workout after almost every one of our dates. We eventually broke up, realizing we had different goals in life.

[OlderAndWiser]

No. For me, sex is one of the essential ingredients in a relationship.

[Valdemort]

That'd be me.
I hate when people are physical and the thought of sex gets on my nerves. If I were to ever date anyone, they'd probably have to have a lot of patience for me to allow intimacy like that.
That being said, I love hugging. It's actually one of my favourite things to do. So I'd definitely go for someone who's less into sex or wouldn't mind waiting a little longer.

[smne35]

Everybody has their little pet peeve and long as it's not too far out there yeah I'll Indulge them because with me it's not always about sex , just spending time together. Feeling each other out with what each other likes to do, to me That's a comfortable evening intimate. Cozy I'm down with that. Don't have to be all about sex every time maybe my younger years Yeah. But I'm cool you know l I'll go with the flow as long as it's not too weird or Too far on the wild side. But That would be a pleseant evening you have to remember just because you can do something. Don't mean you have to. I mean. Having sex, this I Believe is a Nice way to indulge in a different form of intimate pleasure. Yeah, I'm down with that

[Anonymous]

Yes, because going into a relationship, you shouldn't be "asking" for sex to begin with, because sex is something that happens naturally and with time.

Speaking from personal experience, back when I was a teenager and dating my first girlfriend, she made it clear to me too that she wanted to stay a virgin at least for the first few years (she brought the topic up herself by the way and I never asked her myself), but she was completely fine with us kissing, cuddling and doing everything borderline nsfw but not "nearly there". Weeks turned to months, we started making progress, clothing started coming off until eventually we were both completely naked and comfortable around each other (I was pretty nervous too ngl), until one day, she asked me if she could "suck it". Before we knew it, we were both getting down and dirty; losing our v-cards to each other

[RespectfulGuy]

Would you buy a pizza with dough, sauce, some cheese but no topping? And pay full price as if the topping is there?

Hence my answer is similar. A romantic relationship needs sex as its endpoint.

Boundaries could be set and perhaps sex only comes after marriage. Fine because I can perceive the endpoint.

If there's no chance at all, then I won't continue the relationship.

[Amy10223]

That sounds like a question about asexuality. It happens to many, many people when they meet someone like this. I guess that they must have to get used to this, or find other ways to express their love/affection. It's important to respect the other's feelings. I myself could not do that.

[Screenwriter]

If I were very young and didn't want to be pregnant and was not using birth control, I'd say these were safe practices.

But if I wanted a more serious relationship and a long-term one, I would be wondering why sex was out of the question, especially since condoms and other OTC preventatives that are very effective would not come into play.

[slatyb]

No, I wouldn't. I date to find a long term partner. Sexual compatibility is important. If a woman wasn't wanting sex after a couple of months of dating, I would conclude that she's just not all that sexual, and we wouldn't be compatible. I never met a woman like that. After three dates women invited me to bed. The abstainers must be somewhat rare.

[adam6402]

I'm not all about sex, finding the right girl comes way before sex and I'm happy to wait years for the right girl. But if the right girl comes along, she loves me, we're cuddling and kissing etc, then living a life without sex with her would be living with permanent blue balls.

[Kpersaud2]

Relationships are also about compromise so if she/he needs more time before being more intimate, then that’s their choice.


Conversations can be had about desires and compromise is possible.


The beauty of “dating” is meeting new people. Some fit, some don’t. Ultimately with dating, it’s your choice! No one else’s.

[RavVid]

I am imagining a scenario with a virgin girl wanting to keep her virginity till marriage.

Back in the day virginity was more common the time to marriage was much shorter and it wasn't that uncommon for engaged couples to jump the gun.

I could probably handle no vaginal penetrative sex if blowjobs, hand jobs , groping were on the table. You wouldn't want to marry and discover your virgin bride wanted to maintain the same rules afterwards because she didn't like sex.

[HawkPerception]

No I would not. Sex is the thing the differentiates friendship from an actual relationship. I could for a couple months until they feel ready to, but I'm not having a sexless relationship. I would also have insecurities that my partner doesn't see me as someone worth having sex with, that they do not find me sexually attractive, that I can't turn them on, and they might with someone else. For me sexual compatibility is a huge aspect of chemistry in a relationship.

[Quogha]

No, I couldn’t. That’s not to say my relationship is based on sex. But, I’ve got needs. It’s someone we can do to each other behind closed doors, it’s private, and intimate. I couldn’t be with somebody if they aren’t willing to have sex.

[itsclearlynicholas]

I couldn't do that long term especially or even short term. I'd think eventually, I'd want sex as part of a romantic relationship, and I don't do open relationships or other kinky / whacky stuff, lol. Each to their own, I don't. Anyways, hence I'm single. Merrily so, single 😀👌👀

[RingOfFire]

Initially until we know each other better, sure. But for a longer term no. Sexual union is one of the most important experiences in life. It is the ultimate physical expression of connection and a bond between a man and a woman that has no equal. My life would not feel complete without it.

[Sunshinexoxo95]

I mean it depends on the duration or nature of the connection. I’m not someone who has sex on a first date, and it’s usually after I establish trust and communication with them. I need to know if we’re compatible sexually, but there’s other things that are equally important.

[mobiusforniner]

Yes. I have quite a few times. in fact those were the most meaningful

I also had a friend who broke his neck and was paralyzed from waist down. He and his girlfriend still got married. Love is not defined by sex.

[hsshannah96]

I prefer those things over sex yes. Do I also loooooveeeee sex and can’t get enough if it’s good yes, but I need to be serious with someone before being intimate. I do miss cuddling and things like that though