Would you date someone who has no interest in sex?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

No. That would be like taking a vacation to a tropical paradise but never leaving your hotel room or even opening the drapes. Why spend thousands of dollars and travel a long distance for the exact same experience you can have at your local Marriott?

Sex is not the only thing I want out of a relationship, but it is certainly one of the things I want out of it. I wouldn't go to a concert without live music or go to a restaurant that didn't serve meals either.

I'm not 14 - I'm an adult and I expect to have adult relationships, and that means that sex is expected. Not on the first date and not necessarily every time we see each other, but certainly it's an expectation.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

No. Sex is an important part of a relationship and I would not enter a relationship expecting that to be missing. If I was in a relationship and my partner developed some medical condition that prevented her from engaging in sex, then I would stay with her. . . but I wouldn't knowingly seek out such a situation.

JC1981 · Accepted Answer

There has to be some form of physical intimacy. Why else would you take it further than freinds? I mean I know there is definitely more than sex to a realationship and eventually in old age sex will dwindle, but while there is not a risk of a hip replacement or heart attack from sex, there should be at least some.

laurieluvsit · Accepted Answer

My only question is...

Dragonpurple · Answer

This hits close to home and the answer is no. I say close to home as I'm going through a divorce for this exact reason. My soon-to-be ex-wife decided she never wanted sex again and was asexual, and expected me to be the same way.

She used to have a massive interest in it, did all kinds of wild crazy things I can only dream of, five times more partners than I have had and now she acts like she has done it all and just isn't interested anymore.

Our conversation on it was she been there done that, nothing else she wanted to try. She even joked it is like reaching the end of the internet, nothing else left to do.

That would make an interesting question though, would you leave someone if they decided they never wanted to by choice and had no interest in it and expected you to also have no interest in it.

mstbooblover · Answer

Let's keep in mind people can meet other people for other reasons than sex, meaning there's for no reason not to date a girl because she wouldn't be interested in sex. I'm musician for instance, and making music involves mostly other people, including girls. There are thousands of things to do together without involving sex. Still, if I accept a date with a girl, and that date is about having a relation, then I want sex to be on the menu in a near future, and in this case, if the girl is not interested in sex, what's the point meeting her?

Anonymous · Answer

Voted NO. Truthfully, as a man I need sex. I need the sense of physical release and, frankly, of male dominance.

Evolution has placed in me the instinct to breed and reproduce and it is essential to my sense of contentment. This then playing into my relationships. The sense of connection and intimacy that sex with a woman gives me and that bonds me to her.

Without sex, my relationship to a woman can be friendly and even cordial, but it offers no sense of connection - physical and intimate. It leaves my animal instincts deeply frustrated and unhappy and this, too, combined with the lack of emotional connection, makes any deeper relationship all but impossible.

To me, sex in connected to my sense of manhood and to my sense of connection - both emotional and animal - to a woman. If there is no interest in sex on the part of the woman, then I take it she wants no deeper connection, let alone physical satisfaction.

MannyFrs · Answer

hell no! what would be the point?

i mean yeah its not all about sex but if there is no sex then to me anyway it takes damn near all of the fun out of it. I've been in relationships were there was lots of sex and then nothing and 9/10 its because she's a hoe and getting her deep dickens somewhere else.

Not to mention the fact they are probably having sex just with themselves flicking their little bean etc. Or they have a condition or something of that nature. If they tell you they just dont want sex sometimes then they are more than likely lying because they are just as horny and perverted as us guys just a lot of em try are worried about being labeled as whores so they pretend they aren't.
If they ain't getting any from you well theyre getting it from someone else

Kittycurious · Answer

Not ideal. I do enjoy sex. Bc to me it is not just sex. It is an exchange of spiritual energy. I connect stronger to my partner that way. And I don't give it away lightly. But if this person had other qualities that I connected with. And enjoyed some intimacy without sex. Maybe 2 people can learn more about one another without sex. So, Yes I would

Bluemax · Answer

There's a word for someone you enjoy being around, someone you love and care about, someone you can open up to, someone you can share your life with, but have no interest in having sex with. They're called friends.

acooke-13 · Answer

As bad as it sounds, I don't think I could. I'm not massive on sex but I do enjoy/want it when I'm with someone, I couldn't just constantly masturbate, it would feel more like a friendship to me. I need the intimacy.

expdude · Answer

Maybe. What level of interest. Me now older I want sex but not nearly as much. I do go through times when I whole being is horny and needs release, but that’s now only maybe once a month. Also, I think much differently about sex now. It’s really a intimate connection expressing my desire and love for her. If we’re not ina good place there is no way I can have sex. I can’t fake it.

ohshee · Answer

I can be there friend I can be there good friend I have a couple of those but I couldn't be in a relationship with one because I'm too touchy-feely of a guy I want to and I want to become one with that person still no I don't think I'm cut out for that

Anonymous · Answer

That's like asking if I would date a family or friend lol

Dinner date and movie? My brother and I are wannabe foodies and film critics
Cheer me up or tropical resort together? My friends and parents are fun
Sex? The whole point of a boyfriend

JHNS98 · Answer

I kind of already did, even though I got to finger her. The relationship - if we could even call it that - was rather complicated, more like an friends with benefits arrangement even though I never realized that it was until it ended.

We're probably going for another stint, I can get back to you next time I meet her if you'd like to know.

Anonymous · Answer

I would say yes because I once upon a time fell in love with an asexual man but he was up to doing sexual stuff if the partner wanted to, so it wasn’t completely off the table. So my final answer would probably be no because I’d end up just wanting to connect with him in a sexual way at least a little bit

Akumuviral · Answer

YES!
As an asexual person, i would love it. There's still something beyond friendship away from sex. I don't mind kissing and cuddling.
I would have sex because my girlfriend wants it. I don't mind. But they usually get upset if i don't start it after awhile.

petitedollbabee · Answer

No, if someone can’t reciprocate my love for sex, then I don’t want to be with them. I’ve been in a sexless relationship before and no matter how much I loved him, I had to leave him eventually due to lack of sex.

taylorallen · Answer

Of course. However, I'm only 16, I'm sure I'll get tired of being a virgin at some point. But, I'm not really attracted to it much anyways. I know what you're thinking, "You're 16, you shouldn't be." You're completely wrong though.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

I am way too sexual and sensual to ever do that, it is hard enough just to go a few months between relationships.

KrisPW · Answer

Nope. Sex is important for me. If one of use should have a medical problem prohibiting it later, so be it, we can work it out as a couple. But I cannot start a sexless relationship to begin with.

chrissykerdock · Answer

i think i could get him to like receiving blowjobs and often... i may be able to live without intercourse but i would be happy to be intimate with him via blowjobs and often.

Anonymous · Answer

Sex is overemphasized in society. But one thing I've learned from G@G women are far to wrapped up in it. It would be impossible to find a woman who would accept a sexless relationship. So whether I would date a woman who has no interest in sex is irrelevant.

Anonymous · Answer

No chance in hell. Sex is an essential part of a relationship. If the sex wasn't the best I'd be willing to work on that. But if there's no chance for sex at all then that's an obvious dealbreaker for me

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Nope. My first long term boyfriend was like this and I'm sure I still have some trauma from the experience.

WhereIsMyMind · Answer

No, not at this stage in my life. I still have plenty of sex to be had! But perhaps later on in life, when happiness and companionship is all that matters.

BCA6010 · Answer

If by NO interest you mean that writes off starting a family, then no. Starting and having a family is my primary motivation for even dating in the first place.

ItsMeElliana · Answer

no because I want kids, maybe if i try he might gain interest in it?

jshm2 · Answer

That's like someone claiming to love fake diamonds. You know they're too much of a shitbag to admit they're wrong, and/or have shit taste in relationships.

oliver4love · Answer

If I love her deeply from heart ♥ then sex is not a big issue in our relationship... Sex is basic need of life but it's not mean sex is life...

Lliam · Answer

Nope. What would be the point? I want heterosexual women who have strong libidos and know how to use what they've got.

Miristheiss · Answer

No.  I'm sure I would at first... but as I discovered they had no interest and I felt rejected and unwanted and I could see this was going to be a sexless relationship I'd break it off.

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

Not at this phase of my life. I think if I was older, in my 50s , perhaps it would be less important to me than overall companionship and health.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Im fine with them having no interest in sex up until marriage BUT they need to have interest in foreplay like masturbating eachother before marriage

TheorionMage · Answer

Its called 'platonic friendship' and every time you prefer to elect to spend time in their company, you're technically 'dating'!

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I would find it very difficult. Also someone who didn't like me going down on them. Did actually date someone who was like that, didn't work out for other reasons but did make me question things.

DaveJord · Answer

Nope not at all... complete turn off and I don't even care how sexy she is.

slatyb · Answer

I might be happy to spend time with them, but I wouldn't date them exclusively. Dinner once it twice a month.

Kate090 · Answer

No I wouldn’t. Those kind of people need to date those like themselves.

wittymilf · Answer

Sex is the death of desire. I could date someone who doesn’t want sex. But I’d still need intimacy.

TwinkleLily5 · Answer

No something is not right about that—has to be some underlying issues there.

apple24 · Answer

Yes! That would be perfect for me because I am clueless when it come to that. If it was a girl even better. Sadly men are so sex driven but I could see myself with an asexual.

mickeystoned · Answer

Boring hell no or we were dating and I found out that didn't want to have sex then I'd be on down the road or talk to him about it first and then that didn't change then I would go on down the road

Anonymous · Answer

Ever? No. It's a very important part of a relationship and I also need that physical intimacy. Yes there's other ways to be intimate, but not like that. Nothing is on that level.

t-8900 · Answer

Nah no way. Up until the ring, sure. But after that i want a lot of sexual adventures going on.

MelonSoda · Answer

As in like he would never want to sleep with me at all? Yeah, I think that would be a problem.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

No interest in sex? No. It’s by no means the most important part, but it’s a vital part of pair bonding.

Anonymous · Answer

Asexual? Absolutely, I would date them. I mean, there’s a shit ton of stuff to do that doesn’t involve sex. And you can still be physically intimate with them.

wankiam · Answer

if she was really nice and didn't mind me masturbating then i probably wouldt

Laciandmaci · Answer

Yes I would there is more to a relationship then sex

Heartache0405 · Answer

I don’t date. But if I did, absolutely. Unfortunately, everyone wants sex. Everyone except me

DevinAM · Answer

No I don't think so, because I get urges and I'd rather have sex with a partner who I care about than feel the desire to do so with some rando because the person I'm dating isn't interested in such activities.

DavidHart · Answer

i don't want to repeat that in my life. i think having wasted more than 10 years of my life is too much..

lucas262 · Answer

No. I couldn't honestly tell them I was attracted to them. Being constantly deprived and left wanting. No

Agape93 · Answer

Sure, I can get laid elsewhere

Neilbud · Answer

As long as she had no interest in sex with anyone else... maybe. You might be using someone if your interested in sex with someone else and dating another.

Jayplays900 · Answer

Yeah. I mean, sex isn't truly what satisfies me. What pleasures me is to see my partner happy, and if sex does that, then sex it is. If not, then I have no reason for sex.

sheikalana · Answer

I don't think so. I want to have babies in the future.

Kelsey07 · Answer

Gosh yes. I think it has the opportunity to be a great deep relationship with no pressure

GoPhuckYaself · Answer

no, whats the point? only reason i would want a girlfriend is for sex

motownplayer2000 · Answer

No. We could totally be friends. But I’m not getting in a relationship just to be platonic. We don’t have to be exclusive for that.

donnny2367764 · Answer

Hellll no... that would defy the purpose of being in a relationship. What good is a relationship without good dick or pussy

RHK36 · Answer

That's a big no. That's basically just being friends.

bgreek · Answer

Yep, and get caught cheating To teach her a lesson

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