Community of trusted and anonymous friends where girls and guys help each other.
  • Ask
  • Feed
    • Popular
    • Questions
    • Help Needed
    • Polls
    • Live Feed
    • myTakes
    • Topics
  • Topics
  • Search
  • Sign Up or Log In
    • Girl's Behavior Girl's Behavior
    • Guy's Behavior Guy's Behavior
    • Flirting Flirting
    • Dating Dating
    • Relationships Relationships
    • Fashion & Beauty Fashion & Beauty
    • Health & Fitness Health & Fitness
    • Marriage & Weddings Marriage & Weddings
    • Shopping & Gifts Shopping & Gifts
    • Technology & Internet Technology & Internet
    • Break Up & Divorce Break Up & Divorce
    • Education & Career Education & Career
    • Entertainment & Arts Entertainment & Arts
    • Family & Friends Family & Friends
    • Food & Beverage Food & Beverage
    • Hobbies & Leisure Hobbies & Leisure
    • Other Other
    • Religion & Spirituality Religion & Spirituality
    • Society & Politics Society & Politics
    • Sports Sports
    • Travel Travel
    • Trending & News Trending & News
    • Manage Topics
  • Marriage & Weddings Shopping & Gifts Technology & Internet Break Up & Divorce Education & Career +15
Dating

Would you date someone just for sex?

Desconhecida
DesconhecidaInfluencer Follow
Guru Age: 36
Follow
Facebook
Twitter
WhatsApp
110
Would you date someone just for sex?
Would you date someone just for sex?
Post Opinion
224 Opinion
Like
Share
Follow
11 likes
What is your opinion?
What is your opinion?
Add Opinion

Most Helpful Opinions

  • Lliam
    Lliam Follow
    Master Age: 69 , mho 46%
    1 y
    1.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

    Yes. My reason for dating in the first place was always for the purpose of getting into a sexual relationship with a pretty girl. I wasn't in love because I didn't even know them initially. I was physically attracted.

    I think the idea that you have to be in love in order to have a wonderful relationship that includes sex is silly. I don't think sex is something sacred. It's just a really enjoyable activity.

    And when I was young, I wasn't even looking for a life partner to marry and start a family with, so the main object was unlimited sex with a steady girlfriend.
    Is that "friends with benefits"? I don't know. Back then, it was just called having a girlfriend.

    I wasn't into one night stands or sex with slutty girls. I didn't even try to take advantage of women in order to get in their pants. I preferred good girls with healthy values. I wanted mutual infatuation.

    If we got along, we would go steady. Sex and infatuation would quickly follow. Aside from sex, I liked the girls and enjoyed going places, doing things, chatting and hanging out. I think women are delightful and charming.

    I wouldn't have sex with someone I didn't like, if that's what you're asking.

    Although I did have one particular girlfriend in my early 20s whom liked me a lot. She may have thought she was in love. We were both deeply infatuated at first. I liked her a lot. But after several months or a year, my infatuation began to fade. I realized that I didn't want to be with her forever. I started to distance myself. But at night, when I got horny, I would go to her house (she lived with her parents) and tap on her window. She would come out to my car and give me a blow job or, more often, we would fuck. So at that point, I was definitely just using her. I wasn't particularly proud of myself but I couldn't resist. I was needy and she was willing. Plus she was a nice girl, not a skank. I knew she was clean. She never hesitated when I called on her. She was happy to satisfy me and wanted to be my women. At that point, though, I felt like a dick for taking advantage of her.

    The best relationship I ever had in my life (aside from my wife) started out sexual. That hypersexual, orgasmic woman did things to me that had never imagined until then. I virtually lived with her for over a year and our relationship grew. I came to love everything about her. She is the first girlfriend that I loved with my heart and soul. But alas, a life together was not meant to be. We wound up separating for reasons that are not worth getting into, but it didn't involve cheating or anything mean. We loved each other. I still love her and am grateful for our time together.

    So, dating was sexual for me. I wouldn't continue to date someone unless the relationship became sexual. But a sexual relationship can grow into deep love.

    Sex isn't a bargaining chip. You give yourself completely to a relationship.

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    LikeDisagree 3
    Reply

Most Helpful Opinions

  • TonyMetal___86
    TonyMetal___86 Follow
    Yoda Age: 36
    1 y
    393 opinions shared on Dating topic.

    No way, i'll only date for lpve and marriage because that's the right thing to do, also i think that sex without love worth nothing...

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    Like 5
    Reply See 2 replies
    • sadeghmeh
      sadeghmeh
      1 y

      I think that sex with out love worth nothing...šŸ“ŒšŸ‘šŸ»

      Reply
    • TonyMetal___86
      TonyMetal___86
      1 y

      @sadeghmeh that's true...

      Reply
  • LinaDaGoddess
    LinaDaGoddess Follow
    Xper 5 Age: 26 , mho 30%
    1 y

    I’ve had this done to me, and I got feelings for the guy.. I finally understand when guys say they can have sex with anyone and not get feelings.. (emotionally) I have to have an emotional attachment to someone in order to have sex with them and having sex made it worse.. I’ll never do this again. Lol

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    Like 2
    Reply See 5 replies
    • jerdanro
      jerdanro
      1 y

      I was in that same situation about a year and a helf ago. I always catch feelings. Of course I never sleep with someone I don't have a connection with.

      Reply
    • LinaDaGoddess
      LinaDaGoddess
      1 y

      I’m sorry that you’ve had this happen as well.

      Reply
    • Nazgol
      Nazgol
      1 y

      I went through the exact same thing. Ended quite badly

      Reply
    • Nazgol
      Nazgol
      1 y

      & I also came to the same conclusion for myself. Gotta stay true to ur heart. It's not for everyone

      Reply
    • LinaDaGoddess
      LinaDaGoddess
      1 y

      I’m sorry to hear that you’ve experienced that as well. It’s so sad that so many people have experienced the exact same thing.

      Reply
  • Ninani
    Ninani Follow
    Yoda Age: 28 , mho 33%
    1 y

    It's easy to get sex, I date for the connection.

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    Like 4
    Reply

What Girls & Guys Said

59

Opinion

161

Opinion

  • OlderAndWiser u
    OlderAndWiserInfluencer Follow
    Master Age: 68
    1 y
    10.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

    I would not date a girl if I saw a reason why she could not become a partner in a long term relationship. And I wouldn't have sex with that girl, either.

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    Like 2
    Reply
  • WhatTheHeckkkk
    WhatTheHeckkkkInfluencer Follow
    Master Age: 20
    1 y
    1.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

    Absolutely not.

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    Like 1
    Reply
  • walter89
    walter89 Follow
    Xper 5 Age: 33 , mho 41%
    1 y

    I use to say yes when i was 18.

    Now i am 31 i say NO. Sex is healthier when being with someone you love. Honestly, sex word is not even used when you love someone. Instead, without a word y'all make love.

    Using someone for sex, you are materializing him or her for your needs. You really don't know their background as in how they were raised or what they gone through. Why? The more you feed their suffering they more they closing their mind to the point they feel is the only option. You are creating harm to another human being. Many may say what has to do with me? The question, are you suffering too? Because you closed your mind using someone for your needs. When instead being more active person distracting your mind by working out, involve in some sport in your community, help your community. Will help you relieve by helping another person and not sharing no more suffering. May be asked, that doesn't solve having sex? The question does sex has solve your questions, wonder, and suffering?

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    Like 3
    Reply
  • JustNotherHuman34
    JustNotherHuman34 Follow
    Xper 3 Age: 30 , mho 42%
    1 y

    Never. I’m actually the exact opposite since I’m a virgin 🤣
    When I was younger, I told myself that I’d wait ā€˜til marriage. Since then, I’ve modified it a bit, waiting ā€˜til I’m at least in love with someone. I’ve never been in love; therefore, no sex. I’ve always been clear about my stance with every girlfriend I’ve had. The compromise was that I would do whatever else I could to make them finish, whether it was fingering them, eating them out, using toys (no one took that option, but I would’ve been open to it), etc. Two of my four exes thought they could handle that, and things were good when things were good. But when weren’t on good terms, both caved after 2 months and cheated. In both, we decided that it was best to end it. But I digress.
    No, I wouldn’t date someone just for sex, even if it’s just foreplay (my favorite, and only 🤣). In order for me to want someone sexually, I have to have some kind of connection with them. That’s why every person I’ve dated or been sexually involved with has been a friend. For me, if I can’t get along with someone as a friend, then any other kind of association is meaningless.


    I’ve been single for almost 10 years now. If the right person finally comes along and I share a mutual love and connection with them, then awesome! That’s the only way my virginity will be lost. But if not, I’m cool with that too. I’ll only be sexual with someone with whom I vibe. And if sex never comes, you can never have too many friends, although I basically have none 🤣

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    Reply See 3 replies
    • hannny
      hannny
      1 y

      What religion are you?

      Reply
    • expdude
      expdude
      1 y

      You go down on her, use a dildo and finger her. I guess you’ve been naked with her and have done all these things but not ever penetrate. Did any of the 4 give you head?

      Reply
    • JustNotherHuman34
      JustNotherHuman34
      1 y

      @hannny Christian. When I was younger, I heard quite a bit about sex and how it should be approached. I wanted to wait until I was married, but it wasn’t until I got older that I realized what marriage really is to me. Of course it’s legally binding, but more importantly, it’s a promise before God that two people will be in this special relationship and be true to only each other until death. I don’t believe you actually have to be married in a legal sense to make that promise. One of my relatives was committed to the same woman for over 40 years before they got married about 9 years ago. So that’s my example of what it means to be in love and committed mutually. If I ever meet a person who makes me consider marriage (meaning I would have to be in love with them), that will be good enough for me to give myself to them.

      @expdude pretty much! No vaginal penetration and I’ll only be open to anal when I’m in love with someone. Yes, all but one of my exes did go down on me. For the longest time, though, it didn’t do anything for me. I had this fantasy of what receiving oral was like, but after receiving it from 4 different women, it didn’t live up to the hype for me. It wasn’t until this past year that someone was finally able to do it and I figured out why. I have to be engaged physically and mentally.

      I have a fetish, and watch quite a bit of porn associated with it. So what I do when I’m receiving oral is think about the videos I watch and just insert the person blowing me into them. That’s the only way I can reach orgasm. I was glad I had a friend who was willing to help me explore and figure me out sexually, while also respecting the fact that I don’t want to penetrate vaginally yet. Ever since then, I’ve been able to finish every time, even when one of my exes tried again. It took her over 30 minutes before she quit when we dated 12 years ago, but she was able to get me there last year. Craziness!

      Reply
  • AncientWisdom
    AncientWisdom Follow
    Xper 6 Age: 56 , mho 35%
    1 y

    I have in my past as have most men if they are honest. The inferior perietal lobule of the brain is larger in males. This regulates vision , auditory , and somatosensory cortices. The sexual centers in males are more active especially when visually stimulated. This is because human males evolved to be polygamous. Monogamy is only good for females their nature is to be monogamous, but they have a evolved behavior called hypergamy and when they cheat that’s why they tell themselves they deserve better then what they have and after convincing themselves of this the start searching for a more powerful or wealthy man. The reason females want monogamy is because it benefits them to have a man focused solely on her and her children or theirs if that is the case. Females have a shorter biological clock as well unmarried childless females get desperate around 28 to 32 .
    Men on the other hand can provide the catalyst (semen) to create a child in the womb of a woman all of their life usually ( little known fact the Sperm cells live for 3 to 4 days after death there are women in the world mostly in Asia who have harvested their dead husbands Sperm and been artificially inseminated ! Gross right 🤮) it’s true…
    So mens bodies match their nature. Luckily for women male nature is to bond they do it with their friends , but when they love a women they sexually bond to her. It’s their nature to protect and fight for her. Women and their ā€œ shit tests ā€œ and ā€œ gamesā€ usually are her undoing. For that and weaponizing sex which is a male need is why men cheat after bonding the female breaks the bond. This is not all men when I say most 51 % is more then 49% there are loner types and predatory types all the types but for most men we are very simple to understand. So there’s your answer if a man is not pairbonded yes he will date for sex to get his needs met.

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    Reply
  • zeitgeist057
    zeitgeist057 Follow
    Guru Age: 35 , mho 77%
    1 y

    Yes, absolutely, and I would add some other things to this because I know there are going to be a lot of sex-negative and shaming answers on here that promote the ideas that sex is dirty, that sex is meaningless, that having sex degrades people, that if you have sex and just sex with someone it means you don't care about them, etc, etc.

    Having sex with someone can be all those negative things people are writing, but I want to be very clear that that is not about sex, that is about the person having the sex. If sex is meaningless, it is because you are MAKING it meaningless. If it is is degrading, it is because your ATTITUDE about it is degrading. Change yourself, and you will change what sex means and what it is about.

    I can, will, and do have sex with other people for mutual pleasure, to express love, and I think it's great. I would absolutely have sex with that beautiful woman in the post photo, omg she's dreamy. I believe just making another person feel good while they are making you also feel good is a beautiful and wonderful thing. Same as hugs, and you don't see a lot of people hug-shaming, but that's just the crazy world we live in.

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    LikeDisagree 5
    Reply
  • Qdbrown
    Qdbrown Follow
    Xper 6 Age: 51 , mho 32%
    1 y

    Up until three years ago, yes! Now, any man dumb enough to have easy sex with any woman can destroy him.

    Now any woman, no statue of limitations, can say you forced sex on her through alcohol, social and peer pressure, and destroy your life, especially if she ever get bitter at some point in her life, and she finds out you have a good wonderful life.

    That whole MeToo thing was great when it was being used on influencial powerful people. Now it's being used on any guy that upsets the wrong woman. And she might be happy today, but feel raped tomorrow by something that didn't happen. If you know just how much some women love drama, it makes sense. And they will laugh you all the way to financial ruin or prison or what is nothing more than a simple insult.

    Now a good many women will never pursue it, and maybe just call their time a mistake, or a weird time in their life, but as a guy, a woman can become problems at any moment in your existence. Why risk it?

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    Reply See 2 replies
    • expdude
      expdude
      1 y

      Breaking commandments will always backfire. Sorry this happened to you.

      Reply
    • Qdbrown
      Qdbrown
      1 y

      @expdude Didn't happen to me, but I know many innocent guys who did

      Reply
  • TheorionMage
    TheorionMage Follow
    Yoda Age: 71 , mho 46%
    1 y
    485 opinions shared on Dating topic.

    How many times have YOU had your imagination visually inspired, and thought "GAWD, I'd LOVE to rock their world. To be in a position to watch them/him/her 'surrender' and to lustily LOSE THEIR SHIT!"

    ESPECIALLY if they're normally so 'prim', 'proper', 'reserved' and 'shy'...
    to have them FULLY shamelessly 'surrender' to their 'animal' appetites.

    There's an entire category of 'fetish' erotica wherein those who've elected celibacy
    are by circumstance, depicted, compelled to experience their repressed carnal potential
    Clerics & Nuns... Macho marines cross-dressing 'nancy boys'... societal 'innocents'
    naughtily NOT being innocent.

    ALL part of the same mind-bending phenomena~

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    Reply
  • mstbooblover
    mstbooblover Follow
    Xper 7 Age: 69
    1 y

    Really for the sex only? Honestly I'm not sure in spite of having had fantasies about that, but it would in any case depend on the girl, if she really wants me and tells so explicitely without any doubt, which sadly never happened to me, professionals set aside. On the other hand, that's why men go to prostitutes for : sex only in exchange for money. Still, depending on circumstances, I wouldn't say no, but it's no use dreaming too much : only very, very few girls would accept having sex for the sex only ;0)

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    Reply
  • MannyFrs
    MannyFrs Follow
    Xper 4 Age: 40
    1 y

    of course but only if they promise to wipe it out and i promise to wipe it off if I/they engaged in sexual activity prior to our meeting.

    LOL

    no probably not just like these open relationships that some people have its like wow you must really trust someone and don't respect yourself if you are in an open relationship. To me its pretty much the EXACT same thing as "there is no honor among thieves" or what have you.

    How can you be sure she didn't just get dont having a huge orgy then she comes over and starts to kiss on you?

    To me thats the most vile and disgusting thing i can think of

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    Reply
  • t-8900
    t-8900 Follow
    Yoda Age: 33
    1 y

    No it's not only against my faith but my heart and soul. I need 1 woman in my life and only 1. I don't need "practice", I dont need a "side piece", I dont need an "affair", I don't need a "mistress", I need a soulmate. I've had plenty of offers in high school and my early adult life but always turned them down. I'm glad I did too. Most of the people I know that did that (well the ones I knew personally) all regretted those lifestyle choices. As others have also noted I would never even consider a relationship with someone who was into that sort of thing or had ever been. I'm not an object, neither is a woman. We need to stop treating each other this way.

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    Like 1
    Reply
  • IAmMichael
    IAmMichael Follow
    Xper 4 Age: 28
    1 y

    I have before. I was upfront about it, so was she. The sex was good but outside the bedroom she and I really didn't get along much and it imploded, as was inevitable. Wouldn't do so again, wanting more significance out of relationships now, but sometimes good sex is good enough for a while.

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    Reply
  • Dragonpurple
    Dragonpurple Follow
    Xper 7 Age: 47
    1 y

    I would now that I've given up on having relationships, now just looking to hang out with friends, not even sure I want to call it dating but I want more than just friends with benefits, I want to do stuff together too but not be considered a couple or romantically involved.

    An advanced form of friends with benefits's that is more than just sex but not a relationship.

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    Reply
  • Surely
    Surely Follow
    Guru Age: 65
    1 y
    821 opinions shared on Dating topic.

    Are you referring to someone just showing up at your door and hoping into bed? Or are you saying to go out for dinner and maybe spend some time together before the sex part?
    If you make each other happy and not going to hurt someone else. Why not enjoy each other’s company.

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    Reply
  • cookiecrusher
    cookiecrusher Follow
    Xper 6 Age: 33
    1 y

    Most guys and women actually do.

    Yes yes, you also like the person. But then again the reason you like them is sexual attraction towards them, you also like your friend but no sexy time or dating.

    Not many would also stay in a non-sexual relationship.

    And nothing wrong with that, sex is important part of relationships and also pretty fun.

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    Reply
  • DaveJord
    DaveJord Follow
    Guru Age: 46 , mho 56%
    1 y
    1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

    Yup, as long as it was passionate and hot... I would keep dating her even if I knew it was not going to work out and try to move to friends with benefits type thing.

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    Reply
  • OlderThanILook
    OlderThanILook Follow
    Xper 7 Age: 26 , mho 33%
    1 y

    I would if the girl wanted to date me just for sex. I wouldn't initiate a relationship for sex. I'd rather just try to get laid and skip the BS in that case.

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    Reply
  • Diodoro
    Diodoro Follow
    Xper 7 Age: 32 , mho 37%
    1 y

    No, I wouldn't be with a girl monogamously for sex.

    Requirements for a relationship is higher than just a sex partner. If all you can provide is sex, even good sex isn't enough for me.

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    Reply
  • ohshee
    ohshee Follow
    Master Age: 48 , mho 42%
    1 y
    2.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

    friends with benefits I HAVE And we both walked into it like that and it was one of the best natural freeing experiences that I've ever had absolutely loved it

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    Reply
  • AviatorTom
    AviatorTom Follow
    Master Age: 55
    1 y
    1.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

    When I was younger and single, I did just that. Wasn't interested in a relationship, and neither was she. Lasted a couple months before we both got bored.

    React
    LikeLike
    HelpfulHelpful
    FunnyFunny
    DisagreeDisagree
    Reply
  • Show More (200)
Click "Show More" for your mentions
Home > Dating > Questions > Would you date someone just for sex?
Add your reply For "{0}"
Most Helpful Opinion(mho) Rate.
Learn more
Community of trusted and anonymous friends where girls and guys help each other.

Click the button below to add your opinion now!

Related Questions

Guys would you date someone who had sex with you on your first date? #25Takes Answer Yes, Maybe, or Dealbreaker. Would you date someone who? If these were your only options, which one would you rather date? Someone super heavyset,... Would you date someone who sometimes sweats when cuddling, if they treated you perfectly? Young people, could you date someone who used to be a sugar baby? Older people, could you date... Would you date someone who has no interest in sex? Would you date someone who is intersex?
Cast Your Vote
Would you date someone who doesn't have any dating experience?
Yeah, I don't mind being a Guinea Pig
I'd rather not be their Guinea Pig
I don't have dating experience, so yes
I don't have dating experience, but no
Something else/Results
Select gender and age to cast your vote:
Please select your age
beebella
beebella
Master
Other

Popular Questions

Can anyone tell me who this girl is? Where did you meet your spouse, boyfriend/girlfriend? How did it happen, what was the first... Do you like this song? Can you find the man hiding among these bags?
Show All
Popular Questions
  • Girls, What are the Ways for Men to Say They Care About You?
  • My boyfriend follows random girls on Instagram, should I be worried?
  • Girls what does the 😌 emoji mean?
  • How do I ask for this girl's instagram?
  • "How Do You Feel About Me?" Best Answers to This Situation!
  • Do guys really like girls with thick thighs?
  • Girls, What Makes a Man Fall Deeply in Love With a Woman?
  • What does the date under "Hey there I am using Whatsapp" Status mean?
  • What's a good comeback when someone jokingly calls you old?
  • When a girls says "I'll let you know" what does it mean?
Recent Questions
  • What does this dream mean?
  • I will try to explain everything in my question because I want to hear answers from people who are good in this. What should I do?
  • Why do guys like to stay in a relationship even when it's toxic and they know they are hurting their girls?
  • Why do I think women are lying or are catfishes when they find me attractive or compliment me?
  • Boyfriend won't stop talking to coworker who likes him, is this a good enough reason to break up with him?
  • Did you know that in the Florida AP African-American studies course you must learn about queer theory?
  • How do women feel when younger guys find them attractive?
  • I got in argument with my mother because she has tried to choose my partner, what should I do?
  • Have you ever let an ex come back or stayed friends?
  • Do relationships last longer if you dated a classmate?
  • Help
  • Contact
  • Terms Of Use
  • Guidelines
  • Privacy Policy
  • Sitemap
  • Featured Questions
  • Topics
Popular Topics
Dating Education & Career Entertainment & Arts Flirting Food & Beverage Girl's Behavior Guy's Behavior Health & Fitness Relationships Technology & Internet
Girls Ask Guys
©2023 GirlsAskGuys ™
Apple Store Google Play
Join with {0}
Loading...