I'm only 5"5, I have autism and struggle talking to girls, and I'm balding. Should I just give up on women because I'm never be enough?

[Dangledoo]

I have many deep rooted insecurities that damn any chance I have with women. The things that make me insecure are ruin my chances and being insecure is just the double whammy. I'm honestly considering just ending it because there's no reason to live if your genes aren't worth passing down.

[Oliverlogan263]

Bro don't be so hard on yourself! There's definitely still hope for you to find an amazing girl. Few things:

- Height/hair doesn't define you. Plenty of short/balding dudes find love. Focus on who you are inside.

- Autism can make interactions tricky, but with practice you can learn social skills. See if therapy can help your confidence.

- Insecurity is the biggest turnoff, so work on self-acceptance. Easier said than done, I know, but faking it til you make it helps.

- Girls care way more about how you treat them than superficial things. Show you're a caring, fun guy and forget what you can't change about your look.

- Maybe try dating sites geared more for relationships than hookups. Be open about who you are - right girl will think your quirks are charming!

- Never say never man. You never know who's perfect for you until you put yourself out there. Could be tomorrow, could be in 5 years, but it happens when you least expect.

Keep your head high bro! I know it's tough but focus on what makes YOU great, not what you think others see as flaws. You got this!

[Dangledoo]

Look at the rest of this site and internet, women are superficial and shallow and are obsessed with tall men, my personality does not matter because to women your looks are your personality.

[Oliverlogan263]

I feel you bro, it can seem like women only care about looks sometimes. But I don't think that's the whole truth either.

Yeah a lot of girls get caught up in superficial stuff, especially online and on dating apps. That shit is designed to be shallow. But in real life, personality counts for a lot too.

I know plenty of short, average, and not-super-hot dudes who are killing it with girls because they have great confidence, humor, interests we share. Looks will only get someone so far - real connections are about deeper stuff.

Plus don't forget, there are also women out there who aren't into super tall guys or only focused on appearances. You just probably won't meet them in the fake worlds of social media and dating sites.

I'm saying don't give up on your whole gender because of what some girls online choose to hype up. You gotta get out there physically and put yourself in social situations where real human bonding can happen.

People are always more complex than their profiles. There's def girls who will see your cool personality and not care about stuff you can't help anyway. You're worth more than just your height, my dude.

[Anonymous]

I used to feel like you once upon a time. One day a friend planted the seed about God and then years later that seed grew. You will probably find this very difficult to believe but every single thing you just mentioned can be healed through Jesus and I've seen healing with my own eyes as well as some things manifested in real-time. All of the things you mentioned come under the curse of the law and you have been redeemed from the curse of the law. But until you acknowledge and know about this, and claim it as yours. The enemy can use it to destroy you. The enemy wants you to end your life because they know who you really are underneath all of those things. You are powerful beyond belief. You just don't know it yet.

And don't forget, I used to talk exactly like you, and I used to feel worthless, depressed, unhappy and like there was no point.

One other thing. I used to suffer from balding as well but I used my words to start the regrowth. Our Words are also powerful beyond belief and the enemy convinces us to use them against ourselves.

[HelpfulWoman]

-with this attitude, yes.
Because no self respecting woman is going to date a person who hates themselves.

[Dangledoo]

I have my attitude because of my insecurities. Nothing I can do about that because I can't fix what's wrong with me.

[HelpfulWoman]

You absolutely can. Seek therapy, and stop using shit as a crutch to fake why it's "okay" for you to act a fool.

[HelpfulWoman]

screw off dude. you're literally proving the point

[bingbongbangbung]

Yeah no offence, but you basically have no chance at all. If you were like me being at 5'9 and not balding, you'd still have a good chance (even with your autism and poor social skills). I can always get braces to fix my teeth, change the way I dress/groom myself, and finally diet/exercise properly to build muscle and I'd be fine. But if you're not even like 5'7, it's pretty much impossible for any woman to give you a chance unless they themselves are extremely short (so like below 5'). And women absolutely hate men that are balding, unless you have the face and body to over compensate, which I highly doubt.

[Lliam]

As long as you are as open minded and non-judgemental toward girls as you would like them to be toward you, you'll be able to find a girl is you keep searching.

[Staximus]

You said "there's no reason to live if your genes aren't worth passing down." Tune back into reality, pally. Half the world's genes aren't with passing down. Live for yourself.

[AngryCarl]

Every day above ground is a blessing. Your problem with girls arises from a lack of confidence. You shouldn't base your whole self worth on how you interact with girls.

[Iron_Man]

no, there’s always somebody out there for somebody. Just try to find the best girl for you

[Dangledoo]

This is objectively wrong though. There isn't somebody for everybody, you'd know this if you knew what modern dating is like, but you're literally in your 40s so you're already checked out of the game. 63% of young men are single but only like 30% of young women are single, women would rather be in Chad's harem than give a guy like me a chance. Old people should never give advice.

[Iron_Man]

You have an extremely bad negative attitude now you’re slamming me for trying to be positive with you. This is unacceptable. You have no idea what you’re talking about and no I haven’t checked out you sound like a troll don’t show disrespect here

[Dangledoo]

I didn't mean to seem disrespectful but my point still stands.

[Iron_Man]

When you say old people shouldn’t talk, that’s totally disrespecting me you’re out of line and you never apologize.

[Dangledoo]

Sorry. It's just that old people most of the time are disconnected from the modern world and it's new harsh realities that their advice sums up to "rub dirt on it" tier shit.

[Iron_Man]

I’m not old I’m an athlete

[Fxjjxhhccbgcfccc]

44 isn't old at all. Lol we don't live in the Middle Ages. He's not 80 or 107 years old like me

[Dangledoo]

Okay, whatever. Sorry, it's hard to be positive hen everything seems against you.

[LadiesFavoriteToy]

Dude I got ADHD I make 200k a year you will find a girl just be your self.

[Dangledoo]

Being yourself is not enough when you're short.

[In_Trance]

You have bigger priorities than worrying about talking to girls

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't give up. I just wouldn't try very hard.

[Deserter2]

Work on your self-esteem, be social, workout, looksmax

[DextroShade]

Your only option is to get money.

[TiaNour]

Trust me you’ll find a girl

[Zestyassmf1997]

I’m afraid so.

[Dangledoo]

At least one person is honest.

[Sharkstealth]

All you can do is try try and try again.

[Dangledoo]

@Sharkstealth "Just fail repeatedly until one girl has pity sex with you, dumps you, and you have to fail a million times again before another girl gives you a chance."

[Sharkstealth]

Well at least you tried. Only thing you can do. Try and delete the emotional discouragement. The last girl I introduced myself to wouldn't even tell me her name. A relative of hers approached me and said she was uncomfortable. Obviously she wasn't interested and of course I got that but trying is the only choice.

[Sharkstealth]

Women will never understand this because its not in their nature. Their nature is to just evaluate and criticize.

[Zestyassmf1997]

I’d also discourage you from getting too bent out of shape about all this. Yeah, it sucks. But frankly beating yourself up about it won’t change anything.