Confronting him about his ex?

[Anonymous]

Me and this guy are casualty seeing each other. We are still getting to know each other. On Valentine’s Day I happen to see a text from his ex telling him ‘happy Valentine’s Day 🩷’. I knew it was an ex because he told me about her. He said they are no feeling and they are friends. Should I confront this even though we are not dating?

[HollyK21]

Here’s the thing about dating casually — both of you still maintain the right to explore your options. Once you start getting more serious, then if you’re each well-intended you with both release outside connections (ex’s, flings, etc) to focus solely on one another, before officially putting a label on the relationship.


At this point in time (casual) I don’t feel like it isn’t your place to confront him about other women, be it an ex or otherwise. If you want the right to have that say-so in his life then maybe it’s time to talk about taking the next steps, if you haven’t already. I’m not sure with the intention was going in to this, but if you both wanted a relationship eventually (as you should unless it’s friends with benefits) then it sounds like emotionally you’ve reached that point and either need a title or need to be done.

[HollyK21]

Sorry, I misread and saw that you said you’re just getting to “know” one another. That’s even less time than I initially gave this connection. I’m guessing you’re a little jealous or worried but in any case it’s just too soon.

[bobalife]

Some would say dont, some would say do. I'd say do what you feel is best. He already say what he say, so even if you question.. it may be the same answer rather it is true or not. But this is a yellow flag to stay alert and cautious if you wanna continue.

[Anonymous]

No, just let it go for the time being.