I, (35f) started seeing someone I met online (34m). We Both are single parents and had indicated we were looking for a relationship in our profiles. However after meeting and going on a few dates he revealed he is just out of a relationship and not looking for anything serious. I told him I understood and we could chat as friends as I went through a very similar experience. He continued to text as normal and we even made plans to hangout. His ex has been going through a lot in her personal life and keeps going to him for support, he indicated there is no chance of getting back together and told me he really likes me. We haven’t had a discussion about what we are and although he said he wasn’t ready for anything serious he also said he wasn’t seeing anyone else. We have been seeing one another for almost 2 months and although he’s struggling with the break up and coparenting he still wants to spend time with me. I don’t want to waste my time, other guys have been writing me and I have been ignoring them, as I can only date one person at a time (personal preference). What should I do? Am I wasting my time?
2 mo
Guy I am seeing doesn’t want anything serious but acts like he does?
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Girl, this is tough. On one hand, he did say he's not ready for anything serious so you gotta take that at face value. But his actions are kinda sending mixed messages wanting to still hang and saying he likes you. I'd say at this point you gotta have a real honest convo with him about where his head's actually at.
Sit him down, tell him you care about him but need to know if there's any chance of this developing into something more eventually or if you should move on. See if he's willing to commit to seeing each other exclusively, 'cause right now it doesn't sound like you're on the same page. Be prepared though - if he's still hung up on his ex and not in a spot for a relationship then you may need to cut him loose, as hard as that is. You deserve to be with someone all in.
He seems into you so maybe give him a bit more time if you're feeling it too. But watch for signs he's using you as a rebound and not taking your feelings into account too. Protect your heart sis! You've gotta put yourself first in the end here. Be straight with him and see where he stands - that'll tell you if it's time to keep getting to know him or throw in the towel. Either way, you've got this!
He has no clue if he wants somthing serious with u so if u want somthing serious clearly u are wasting your time
he is clueless n passing time