We've known each other for 2 or 3 months, and we are in the talking stage. He said 'I love you' to me. Is this a red flag?

[Anonymous]

Is it a red flag? Do men say 'I love you' that early on?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, dropping the L-bomb after only 2-3 months is kinda early mama. Usually that's something you save for when things are more serious, exclusive and you've been together awhile. A few thoughts:

- Could be he really likes you a lot and is super into you, so his feelings are moving fast. But that's still pretty soon.

- May just be his way of trying to show affection, but saying I love you sets a certain expectation of commitment when you're still in the talking stage.

- Possibly he's said it to past girls easily too, which would be a red flag if he doesn't really mean it in a deep way.

- Could make things awkward or pressure-y if his feelings are ahead of yours since you're still getting to know each other.

I'd say have a chat with him about it - let him know you enjoy talking and want to keep getting to know him, but that saying I love you this soon puts pressure on things. See how he responds and if he's willing to slow his roll a little. If he can't respect that you're not ready for all that yet, might be a sign you're just moving at different speeds, you know? Go with your gut on this one sis!

[DreamCrescent]

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[BoopBoopBeep]

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[DreamCrescent]

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[godfatherfan]

The fact is when you are as young as you are, most of the time you don't know what Love really is. He might think he loves you. He might just lust you.
I met my now exwife. I knew her exactly 30 days when I said "I love you". I 100% meant it. We were together over 25 years. Sometimes when you know, you know.

[Paris13]

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[Paris13]

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[Daniela1982]

All I can say is:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/giXj380k8ns

[Nirmroth]

Thats different for each man but I would say 2-3 months of dating is enough to develop a crush or catch feelings.

[Daniela1982]

Yes, but love?

[Nirmroth]

Hard to say each to their own. It took me 8 or more months to say it and mean it in my past rl. The saying part started earlier tho to please my then girlfriend.

1-2 months I would find fishy 3 months maybe if they spent frequently some time toghether until then

[Yannae]

It's not a red flag. I've been spending a lot of time with my SO before eventually making it official. It's not 2 or 3 months of knowing her, it's 2 or 3 months of straight up spending time with her. That's a lot of time to get to know a person, so it's actually very normal to utter those words after a few months. It'd be weird if we only spoke for a week and you tell me that you love me.

[SolitarySolace]

Men are supposed to love all women regardless of how shitty a person she happens to be. Meanwhile all men are demonized and can’t be victims of the political privledges women are capable of utilizing at a whim. If he criticizes a woman he is branded an incel or misogynist. Keep living under that boot, men. Happy wife happy life m I rite?

[Nikki1989]

Talking stage at 2 or 3 months?

And saying I love you that early is typical for most men.

[Overandunder89]

Everyone moves at different speeds. I would not call that a red flag. I would say that he is moving at one speed and you are moving at another. If you are uncomfortable with this, handle it however you see fit.

[PeachyPie93]

I don't think so, but you should be exclusive for that lol.

[sheikalana]

He's either delusional or inexperienced. Love takes time.

[Pohjolan]

Love is not a rational choice and people can fall in love with someone they are not even in a relationship with.

[Wraith_Cemetery]

People can know early on. It doesn't need to "take time".

[sheikalana]

I don't believe in I love you after 2/3 months. That's way too soon for me. And in my experience when a man says I love you too soon the sooner he falls out of love too which makes think it was never real. You can certainly like someone a lot but LOVE? That's too deep to say to someone you've not been in a relationship for long enough with but this is just my interpretation on love. We can obviously have different opinions. Wishing you a blessed day gentlemen.

[Wraith_Cemetery]

@sheikalana Totally get what you're saying. And in a lot of cases it's true. But there's rare instances where the couple know they're in love early on.

Hope you have a blessed day too :)

[Pohjolan]

So how long is a guy supposed to wait?

[JacobJordan]

If he felt it he felt it

[laly520]

doubt he knows what he is talking about

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Men can fall in love fast.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Yes. Huge red flag.

[Anonymous]

Why you think it s a red flag?

[Minahh]

Yeah. Way too early.