The guy I’ve been seeing casually for 1yr and 6mos said love you what does that mean like should I bring it up or not ?

[Anonymous]

So like this guy and I have been seeing each other casually for 1yr and a half but during that time we’ve never went on dates or anything he’s never even called me by my name just “baby” and we’ve talked and hung out maybe 8 times without sex but we never leave his place or mine and it’s not enough to say I love you , I even asked if we were just friends with benefits and he said I guess yea but anyway he came over we did our thing hung out and chatted for a bit after like normal then I saw my brother was coming to my place and he literally jetted said “love you” and left which he’s never even said I like you I’m so confused this whole time I thought we were just having sex so now I feel like I have to ask more questions about if he’s serious or not help also we have seen and spoken to each other since he said but he didn’t say it again and neither of us brought it up

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Lol no I never expected to date the guy I knew we were strictly just fucking but then he started acting weird like getting jealous low key and cuddling after sex that’s why I was just wondering if should I address these behaviors or not cause he also asked if I was going to go on some trips with him he has planned

[spartan55]

Yeah, go ahead and hold your breath. He has no respect for you. He's never even taken you out... smh...

[spartan55]

He blurted it out in a panic because your brother was coming over. Don't make a fool of yourself and 'ask more questions' about if he wants a relationship. He doesn't, I guarantee it.

[Asker]

See that’s what I was thinking that he said it out of panic which is why ignored it in the first place but then he started asking about me going on trips with him I thought we were just keeping things casual now he’s acting different guys are weird

[spartan55]

Remember what I said. He DOES NOT WANT A RELATIONSHIP. He wants to take you on a trip? Oh really? Has he? Or has he talked about it? Wake up.

[Asker]

I mean the tickets are booked we leave in a couple days 🤷🏽‍♀️ Lol I’m not looking for a relationship either I think that’s the part you missed but he’s been wooing me lately like he wants more I’m just along for some fun 😂😂😂

[spartan55]

Then stop seeing him, hello. If you think your vision of the relationship doesn't align with his then what are you doing? Oh... then you wouldn't get a free trip and all that attention... right?

[Asker]

Actually I don’t mind turning down the trip I was just curious about his behavior is all since it was literally an all of a sudden thing i’m going cause why not I don’t really go places cause I’m always busy and I’ve had some free time why not.. no harm

[spartan55]

The harm is may believe your relationship is heading for an upgrade when it's not. This is a complete role reversal of typical fwbs.

[spartan55]

*he may believe.

[kyleelyn199723]

It baffles me that women can screw around with a guy for so long without a title and then believe the games that he is playing, but STILL won’t make you his girlfriend. If he loved you, he would make you his girlfriend

[Asker]

That’s the thing never said I wanted to be his girlfriend I just wanted to know what’s up with the unusual behavior or if I should just shrug it 🤷🏽‍♀️ off it’s making things weird for me since I figured we would just mess around nothing serious

[kyleelyn199723]

@asker what’s the point of that though? You are just wasting so much time and you are going to regret it. I mean your life choices are up to you, but I will never understand keeping someone around in your life , spending weekends with them, spending a whole lot of time with them just for it to all mean nothing? I don't know maybe me and you are just different

[Asker]

I mean I get it but the whole point is cause I don’t want anything serious hence the casual sex and it’s not wasting time if I’m not spending all my time all my time with the person lol my point was we haven’t spent enough time around one another outside of sex for him to start treating the situation and anything more than just a hook up and why do guys start acting like that , that’s all I've never been in this situation as I’ve always been with someone this is the first time I just wanted a no strings thing

[kyleelyn199723]

@asker honestly you should be questioning why you haven’t caught feelings after that amount of time. Sex is the biggest way possible of bonding and even if he hasn’t showed you, that’s so much time that you have spent on a guy

[kyleelyn199723]

Not trying to judge, just there was one point where I didn’t want a relationship myself and the guys that I “friends with benefitted” were in my life no longer than 3 months and I regret all of them. I know you are in the moment, but later when you want someone serious you are going to question why you spent so much time on this guy

[Anonymous]

How the hell can you f a guy for a year and a half, never go on a date, him never call you by name, basically only use you as a cum receptacle, how's that possible?

[Asker]

It’s called a fuck buddy or friend with benefits no strings attached it’s not supposed to be anything other than that which is why I want some guy insight on this unusual behavior

[spartan55]

@asker
No, there is nothing unusual about any of his behavior.

[ashish804]

its like he got feeling that he wanna fuck u forever

[Asker]

I guess

[ashish804]

yeah

[Avicenna]

Ask him for clarification if you need it

[In_Trance]

Wants to smash

[Asker]

Don’t they all