Is it wise to start a relationship, immediately after a break up?

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blueonblack22 · Accepted Answer

99% of the time it’s not. Reason being you usually aren’t thinking clearly and will not be able to judge the new person well. Also it will often be assumed that you met this new person while where dating your ex.

I was once used as a “placeholder” by one girl until something better came along for her. This girl swung from guys like a monkey swings from trees. But she got burned herself a few times in the process and I have absolutely no sympathy for her. But she was young and beautiful and got away with tons of bs.

Anyway people “line up” new partners before they get out of a relationship because they fear being alone. Don’t be like that. It’s a sign of deep immaturity (and immorality). Also shows you can’t be trusted and it will catch up with you at some point.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

As long as you start slow. If you feel attracted to someone you’re not in a relationship anymore. Just go on a few dates and see how it goes. Don’t use them as some sort of rebound or a way to get back at your ex.

It’s not about them. It’s about you and the other person.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Reasons one should get in a new relationship right after a break-up.
1. Your relationship with your ex was dead and gone a long time ago and you held it together for the sake of being in that relationship, or not wanting to be alone, whatever. You break up finally, and someone new comes along that you actually like.
2. Your last relationship was under 6 months. You'd be hard pressed to find someone that feels that 6 months was enough time to fully have committed everything to someone else in a relationship.
3. You want to. Life is too short, if it works out it does, if it doesn't, you live and you learn.

kylee2437 · Accepted Answer

In my opinion it’s not a good idea unless if the relationship was extremely short term and just happened because two lack compatibility, but anything else definitely requires time for you to sit down and sort out your feelings about what exactly happened. Many people don’t have the intentions of making someone a rebound but it can easily happen if you introduce a person into your life without being able to move on from your last relationship. You can end up hurting another person because of your old relationship baggage

Pinay_ako · Answer

No. Enjoy your singleness! Why jump into another one after a broken one? Let your heart rest and be happy being alone until you are ready to love again and get hurt again too. If love doesn’t hurt, it’s not real.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

Not in my opinion. You have to take some time to process the breakup.. think on it... heal from it.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I wouldn't recommend it. Even if you think you are OK, out of respect to your next partner, I would wait some time... breakups bring some emotions that need to be solved and experienced... we need time to order those emotions and move on. We need this time without other people around just to recover and be ready for the next challenge

serious · Answer

Honestly that is very foolish. Immediately after a break up the person should stay single and only do solo activities. That is the time to analyze their previous relationship ( the one they just came out of) and do some self reflection, it is time they understand what were the problems and how things went wrong which lead to break up, understand their behavior and what they did and also the other aspects.

They should take sufficient time before starting the next relationship.

HawkPerception · Answer

It's whenever you feel comfortable. I've always been able to get over my exes pretty fast even though I've been dumped every time. It just means they didn't see your value. And hopefully you'll find someone that does see your value.

Just go with the flow of things and if you feel chemistry with someone, don't feel restricted thinking there's a strict timeline.

WhiteSteve · Answer

Probably best to heal up a bit, bodes better for the new relationship. Gotta have your own head right before you start throwing your heart around, y’know? But I guess it’s case to case. If it seems right, don’t pass it up on account of timing. Just don’t jump in for the sake of jumping in.

loveslongnails · Answer

Definitely, absolutely not. This is not only for your own health, but the rebound person too. You need time to make sure you're mentally & emotionally freed of your former attachments and desires. If you're not, any new relationship will be poisoned.

ON the OTHER hand, Ms. Betty White once said, "The best way to get over a guy is to get under another one!" LOL

CVNT5 · Answer

i remember enjoying my freedom when she broke up with me in high school. i really loved her but i knew mature wise i was not ready.
I felt relived.
Take your time, learn about yourself and improve/ grow as a person before you go look for someone else.💕

BadApple69 · Answer

What do they say? You fall off a horse you have to get right back on.
What should you wait for? Healing? Time to grave... Screw that. Life is too short to worry about people that don't want to be with me or me with them.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

How could those two in that photo ever break up lol she's a looker lol and surely she thinks he's a hot guy lol 😂😆

nawtee_me · Answer

No, not unless the other person liked threesomes… right after a breakup you bring your ex with you everywhere you go until you process through it….

Fuentes · Answer

Females do it all the time but for men uts not a good idea too.

MissBoogus · Answer

People cope differently. Some can do that and others can’t. I did, and it was the best decision I made. Still together 9 years later.

Paris13 · Answer

Go Slow. Still Need to Move On from The previous One, hun. xxoo

Fireguy17 · Answer

nope, just go out and enjoy yourself for a while, make up for lost time. I did that after my divorce, I think it lasted around 10 years or so.

mandyfire98 · Answer

I honestly would probably take a little bit of time first.

LiamJHayden · Answer

It depends upon the mental make up of the individual as well as how long the previous relationship lasted. Also if the breakup was expected or even desired, or a total shock.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Not unless you've known the second person for a long time.

Wiredone · Answer

I wouldn't jump right into a relationship but I would go out and have fun and meet new people.

Jennz6 · Answer

Not on the rebound, but meeting new people is okay

JayBones · Answer

Yes. The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else

DJB72 · Answer

Nope. Very silly idea.

Booklover_90 · Answer

Nah. No rebounds. 🙅🏾‍♀️

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Probably not

laly520 · Answer

not really

dudeinohio · Answer

Sure

HouseMoat · Answer

Nope

Slim57 · Answer

Probably not

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